What she said

LegacyUser

Hi guys,
Apologies on this as it will be a bit long and I sound like an arrogant dickhead in it but anyway:

My head is wrecked at the moment. I'm a guy and met this girl a few weeks back, she's my mates cousin and am absolutely smitten with her, unfortunately she's only in the country for a short time, only has a couple of weeks left. Anyways, I was with her the first week she was over on a drunken night out (note: spent the night together but didn't have sex because she's not like that). We both agreed we'd leave it at that. She's been on nights out and kissed other guys and all that, according to her hasn't slept with any of them because she doesn't do 1 night stands. I've dealt with that and accepted it because I don't want to get too attached to her. Anyway, yesterday she went out got hammered and I got a phonecall to come out which was strange enough as I'd spoken to her earlier and she knew I was following them out later as I was dying with a hangover from the night before.
I got there and she was sitting,talking to a guy so I left her too it, anyways she ignored me for a while but I didn't want to go chasing her as reasons explained above. The bloke tried to make a move on her and she didn't go for it, I cant say I wasn't happy about it. Anyway once this happened she came over to me and sat with me for ages, I was getting hugs and all that, she was just wasted and me been the wuss that I am let her keep at it but wouldn't take advantage.
So anyway, (this is where the question is) she kept at it hugging and kissing me on the cheek, she eventually starts telling me how much she really likes me and if we lived in the same country we'd be together and eventually tried to kiss me. This killed me but I had to turn her down for mine and I thought her sakes. Anyway, I spoke to her today and she claims she doesn't remember alot about yesterday as she was wasted, ofcourse what she said included and she's sorry...She didn't really explain why she was sorry.

My head is absolutely wrecked, I know we've all been on nights out were we've made a move on someone you wouldn't usually but can you blame what she said on alcohol?? I mean alcohol lowers inhibitions but do people (Girls) actually get so wasted they lie about how they feel about someone they've spent most of their time away with (Not including guys who tell girls they love them to sleep with them.) Can I get advice on this so I know for the future if what I'm been told on a night out is going to screw me up like this again. I really feel I have to distance myself from this girl and thats not what I want at all..

It makes it worse because a similar thing happened to me a few years back with a girl(unfortunately she was my housemate, big big mistake) I was seeing in my 2nd year of college. After a couple of months of been "friends with privileges" we were out 1 night, she got extremely hammered told me she loved me, I managed to dance around the topic because I didn't feel the same way. I thought I'd gotten away with but a few days later she lost the plot told me I was a huge mistake and to get over her and wouldnt tell me why. It was just nuts and eventhough I didn't love her it hurt, not too mention it made **** awkward in the house till she moved out.

Hope I can get some advice on this just to make it easier on what I'm going to have to do!
Thanks

wasper

Headwreckedguy wrote: »

Hi guys,
Apologies on this as it will be a bit long and I sound like an arrogant dickhead in it but anyway:

My head is wrecked at the moment. I'm a guy and met this girl a few weeks back, she's my mates cousin and am absolutely smitten with her, unfortunately she's only in the country for a short time, only has a couple of weeks left. Anyways, I was with her the first week she was over on a drunken night out (note: spent the night together but didn't have sex because she's not like that). We both agreed we'd leave it at that. She's been on nights out and kissed other guys and all that, according to her hasn't slept with any of them because she doesn't do 1 night stands. I've dealt with that and accepted it because I don't want to get too attached to her. Anyway, yesterday she went out got hammered and I got a phonecall to come out which was strange enough as I'd spoken to her earlier and she knew I was following them out later as I was dying with a hangover from the night before.
I got there and she was sitting,talking to a guy so I left her too it, anyways she ignored me for a while but I didn't want to go chasing her as reasons explained above. The bloke tried to make a move on her and she didn't go for it, I cant say I wasn't happy about it. Anyway once this happened she came over to me and sat with me for ages, I was getting hugs and all that, she was just wasted and me been the wuss that I am let her keep at it but wouldn't take advantage.
So anyway, (this is where the question is) she kept at it hugging and kissing me on the cheek, she eventually starts telling me how much she really likes me and if we lived in the same country we'd be together and eventually tried to kiss me. This killed me but I had to turn her down for mine and I thought her sakes. Anyway, I spoke to her today and she claims she doesn't remember alot about yesterday as she was wasted, ofcourse what she said included and she's sorry...She didn't really explain why she was sorry.

My head is absolutely wrecked, I know we've all been on nights out were we've made a move on someone you wouldn't usually but can you blame what she said on alcohol?? I mean alcohol lowers inhibitions but do people (Girls) actually get so wasted they lie about how they feel about someone they've spent most of their time away with (Not including guys who tell girls they love them to sleep with them.) Can I get advice on this so I know for the future if what I'm been told on a night out is going to screw me up like this again. I really feel I have to distance myself from this girl and thats not what I want at all..

It makes it worse because a similar thing happened to me a few years back with a girl(unfortunately she was my housemate, big big mistake) I was seeing in my 2nd year of college. After a couple of months of been "friends with privileges" we were out 1 night, she got extremely hammered told me she loved me, I managed to dance around the topic because I didn't feel the same way. I thought I'd gotten away with but a few days later she lost the plot told me I was a huge mistake and to get over her and wouldnt tell me why. It was just nuts and eventhough I didn't love her it hurt, not too mention it made **** awkward in the house till she moved out.

Hope I can get some advice on this just to make it easier on what I'm going to have to do!
Thanks

She is a ****teaser. Let her go. She doesn't do one stands but she goes on a kissing rally. Obviously she can't handle her drink, thats why she behaves stupidly. You were correct the way you dealt with her. But don't feel regret on what might have missed out on.

MagicMarker

Headwreckedguy wrote: »

Hi guys,
Apologies on this as it will be a bit long and I sound like an arrogant dickhead in it but anyway:

My head is wrecked at the moment. I'm a guy and met this girl a few weeks back

I should have just stopped reading here...

OP what's your issue? She's only in the country for a few weeks, why do you continue to hang out with her?

As far as i'm concerned you knew you liked her and you knew she was only around for a few weeks, any heartache you experience will be brought on only by yourself.

Just forget about her ffs!! Jeez!:rolleyes:

sryk

i fink i would have done the same if i ws in ya place...so chill man..;)