Should I tell?

LegacyUser

Been seeing a guy recently, just been pretty casual, and now it's naturally leading to us having sex.

Which is grand but the thing is I'm a virgin and pretty much sexually inexperienced all round. I'm worried about telling him this. If it was a more serious relationship I would have no problem but it's not. Also, he's older (he's 26, I'm 20) and I really don't think he's expecting it.

I like him and want to see him more but I'm wondering if he'll run a mile if I tell him!

MIN2511

What have you got to lose? If he likes you it shouldn't be an issue, he should be chuffed that you would consider losing your virginity with him... I don't see a problem here tbh

The_Conductor

MIN2511 wrote: »

What have you got to lose? If he likes you it shouldn't be an issue, he should be chuffed that you would consider losing your virginity with him... I don't see a problem here tbh

+1
He'll probably be thrilled to bits.

Dudess

Actually, the fact he's older means he'd be LESS surprised at someone of 20 being a virgin. When you're 20 you assume everyone your age is doing it - hell when you're 17 or 18 you assume everyone's doing it (and that's the only reason why some people - myself included - start doing it) - but then when you're older, you realise everyone was not doing it at that age. And at 26 you realise just how young 20 is, so I would say tell him - then he'll know to be gentle. And enjoy! Lucky you that your first time will be with someone experienced and familiar with how we wimmenz work sexually, and less likely to just "lob it in"

Pen1987

dont worry, he probably knows already anyway. You may not think he does, but he probably does..

DancingDaisy

Tell him, if he has an issue with it then he really isn't worth it!

He shouldn't have an issue with it though.

dade

smccarrick wrote: »

+1
He'll probably be thrilled to bits.

I know i would. tell him if he's a decent bloke he wont have a problem with it

ryoishin

As the saying goes,

"its not your virginity hes interested in just the box it comes in"

It would nt be an issue, why would it.

dr.bollocko

That's pretty funny.
Definitely tell him.
I guess when someone's virginity is in your hands you tend to do certain things differently and maybe be a bit more of a sensitive lover.
Definitely let him know!

trio

Wait, are you ready for sex?

I'm presuming you're ready, but you didn't specify.

If you are ready, then the correct place to tell him is probably during the heavy-petting-leading-to-definate-things-rolling-around-panting stuff. He won't give a ****e. He'll probably stop for a minute and ask you if you're cool with going on, and if you give an enthusiastic assent then it'll be all systems go.

Incidentally, I was 20 when I lost mine, and I can tell you now - it's a much bigger deal to you than it does to someone who's about to get laid!

(One little thing to bear in mind though - if it's a casual relationship, acknowledge the fact that you may end up losing your virginity to someone you don't see longer than a couple of months. If you break up, you may never lay eyes on him again. Some people really don't care - I didn't! - but some girls want it to be with someone they're in love with. So examine your feelings on that subject)

LegacyUser

I remember I lost my virginity at 18 with ex b/f who was 21 & didnt have a clue what to do, he was slow as a snail cause he was afraid of losing his erection (he had problems i tell ya) & it hurt more cause he went so slow... your lucky, u got urself an experienced man... wish i had of waited for my current b/f to be my first, im sure i would have loved my first time better.

Although I think everytime your in a relationship with a new guy & it gets to the crucial moment before the first time he has intercourse with you, it feels (well to me anyway) like the first time all over again... just enjoy urself, take it slow but not too slow... you will wake up the next morning prob wondering what on earth did i do? but thats just natural!

mbren

as a guy, it would be a huge turn-on to hear a girl is a virgin...it indicates that you have some class and wouldn't just sleep with a guy for the sake of it.

i guarantee you, he will be so chuffed to know that you are willing to lose your virginity to him!

pookie82

Tell him. for your own sake. i wouldn't do my first time with a guy who didn't know. it'll make the way he appraoches it different - and better - for you.