Feeling a bit..paranoid?

LegacyUser

Alright, I need a bit of help.

I'm in a relationship with this girl I love completely to bits. I know she's the one and all that. She feels the exact same about me and constantly tells me how much she loves me and so on. We get on really well and have only ever been with each other - but that doesn't bother either of us because we both know that we have been really, really lucky to have found each other. In a nutshell, we're perfect for each other and have known each other for 3 years and the flare still hasn't died or anything. No history of cheating etc. Our feelings for each other have never been exaggerated as we both have a huge genuine connection. I can't explain it but if you guys have been in love you'll know exactly where I'm coming from!

Anyway, next year we'll be both heading off to different Uni's. Not that far apart, either, but lately I've just been feeling a bit paranoid about the fact that she'll be surrounded by a whole load of different guys smarter than me (TRINITY LOL), guys who'll potentially make her feel how I make her I guess - all fuzzy inside and stuff. She's a very unique girl (doesn't conform to stereotypes, she's really her own person) and I feel threatened by the fact other guys may be out to take her away from me, obviously not out of malice in my direction haha, but because she's so..amazing.

I confronted her about how I felt as I always like to be honest in the relationship and she told me that no matter who she meets she's always going to long to be with me at the end of the day and basically reassured me of how much she loved me etc. She's a really good girlfriend and I think she really did the right thing in comforting me as that's what I would have done if she had confronted me with the same feelings but sadly it didn't really work.

I don't have confidence issues with anything else really, and I'm always an outgoing lad having confidence in most things that I do but the real killer for me is that she means so much for me and university, well, its a big place - you know?

Finally, thanks for reading this guys. I always respect people who post construcively in this forum as a lot of it is the same sh/te day in and day out!

MIN2511

Stop the paranoria... You are also moving to college, you would also meet people... Life shapes us, we claim we make decisions in life but we make them when the other option is failure!

Stop thinking now and enjoy the last weeks of the summer together... And if things change while in college(*come back here and rant*) then chuck it up as life experience

Goodluck!!!!

Karen_*

You're mad about her and and you're afraid you'll lose her but look at it this way. You will also be going to college and meeting loads of girls and some of them will be amazing. Do you think your head will be turned and you'll leave your girlfriend? No you won't. You love her. And she loves you. You have nothing at all to worry about. sounds like you have a great relationship that could go places so enjoy it and its good that you don't take her for granted:)

Aurora Borealis

She obviously loves you and you her, why would she want to mess that up, I know I wouldn't.

MJOR

I'm thrilled for you that you are so happy.

Stop worrying about something that is unlikely to happen. I am in a long distance relationship and would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend.

Yes all girls get attention and yes uni is a whole new experience but she may be just as worried about all the hot chicks in your uni.

You're still really young so enjoy your life..... See her as much as you can and theres always email text phone msn etcetc!

Zzippy

OP, I went to Trinity, and believe me, guys there are no smarter than other universities (except for me, of course! ). Guys there are just as horny as other guys though, and sure, some will fancy your gf, but hey, if she loves you she won't be interested. There's no point worrying about things you can't do anything about. Just keep the relationship interesting, see each other as often as you can, send her flowers or a card to let her know you're thinking of her, etc.
Paranoia is not healthy, and if she senses it you might drive her away. Relax and enjoy being in love with a great girl. If its meant to work out it will....

paperclip2

You too will be heading off to uni where you could meet girls who make you feel as 'fuzzy' as your girlfriend does. Will you cheat?

If the answer is a resounding 'NO' then maybe trust that your girl feels equally strongly about you.

Good luck OP!!

LegacyUser

Take everyday as it comes, dont worry about the future. There is a reason why we dont have crystal balls to see the future & the reason is that if we did it would most likely scare the sh!te outta you & stop you pursuing your dreams...

Anyway basically what im trying to say is take each day as it comes & appreciate that day or that special time you have to share with your loved one because there may be a time when u are not together anymore... im not saying this to be mean but its just the truth... sometimes when people embark on a new adventure such as college they discover things about themselves & meet people who they are more compatible with... but worrying about that sort of thing before it even happens is simply wasted energy....

What will be..... will be.... !!