being bi

LegacyUser

hi all staying anonymous for this one,basically im bi lean more towards the ladies and im just wondering if any of you girls would actually date or have dated a bi guy or is it a complete no no?any opinions etc appreciated

Wurly

I haven't before. But I don't think i'd have a problem with it at all.

Once you were faithful to me, then nothing else is my business.

I agree with tri.

Carsinian Thau

Ok, I'm not a woman so I don't know if you'll rate my opinion very highly but I don't think it'll matter at all.
The fact that you may also find men attractive every now and again won't really be an issue provided you stay faithful. Women manage to cope with the idea that their boyfriends can find other women attractive provided they remain faithful so finding men attractive would probably work on the same principle.

Bottle_of_Smoke

I'd be wary about saying anything. I remember not liking that one of my girlfriends was bi, though it didn't bother me that she had ex-boyfriends and people in general dislike male homosexuality much more than female.

I'd imagine whether you had sexual relations with another man would be a much bigger deal than if you just said "i find men attractive sometimes".

MagicMarker

Yeah, i fail to see why you should mention it. So long as you're faithful i see no reason to bring it up. However, some women wouldn't like it, some woman wouldn't care, tis just the way the cookie crumbles. Mmmmm, cookies.

Wurly

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

I'd be wary about saying anything. I remember not liking that one of my girlfriends was bi, though it didn't bother me that she had ex-boyfriends and people in general dislike male homosexuality much more than female.

I'd imagine whether you had sexual relations with another man would be a much bigger deal than if you just said "i find men attractive sometimes".

I see your point here and its sad the way people think and judge others. If a person has a problem with it though, then surely that is not the best person for the OP to be dating.

OP, you have nothing to hide.

taram

Wouldn't find it a problem, would treat it the same as if he was straight: there are people he's going to be attracted to, once he was faithful to me, no prob. My bf knows I'm bi and feels the same, once I'm with him, I'm with him, past/future relantionships with girls means nothing.

Overheal

I think the burning issue is lots of the time people view bisexuality as a license to polygamy; having a guy and a girl for example - or threesome encouragement, which scares some people. That and not only does your partner have to worry about their own same sex 'rivals' but yours as well. You have to be on top of staying faithful twice as much as the average person.

m-mouse

My husband is bi, we've been married for just over 10 years, he's had relationships with men and women in the past, its no big deal, the important thing is that he's with me now, I was worried before we married that maybe he'd be fed up of just having women(me) and would need a man for that something different, but he reassured me that sex is sex-doesn't matter who you're with as long as they push the right buttons and make you feel wanted, needed and loved. We're still together (and the sex is still great too)

LegacyUser

cheers for replying people!

m-mouse wrote: »

My husband is bi, we've been married for just over 10 years, he's had relationships with men and women in the past, its no big deal, the important thing is that he's with me now, I was worried before we married that maybe he'd be fed up of just having women(me) and would need a man for that something different, but he reassured me that sex is sex-doesn't matter who you're with as long as they push the right buttons and make you feel wanted, needed and loved. We're still together (and the sex is still great too)

ye that makes sense m-mouse thanks a million!hopefully i might meet a gal as understanding as yourself!

Aurora Borealis

I like guys and sometimes fancy girls, my last big relationship was with a guy who liked girls and sometimes fancied guys. No biggies there. It did turn out he cheated on me and it was with other guys,( not sure about girls really) but that wouldn’t colour my opinion of bi guys in general at all. Just be honest and yourself.

kittensoft1984

I wouldnt have an issue with it....as long as you are honest about your feelings there should be no problem

insomnia08

I'd say it would be hard for a girl to understand at first, but I agree with the rest, if you are loyal to her and you clear out the questions she may have about your past etc, you guys could be the happiest couple, why not?

But tell her sooner than later, because that's not a very common thing and I guess we all need to "process" certain information sometimes

m-mouse

I'd say that any woman who does have a problem with this- it either the whole 'eeeuuugghhhh another man, thats disgusting, no problem with it untill its my man' or they think you are twice as likely to cheat since you are potentially attracted to the whole population instead of just the opposite half!

At the end of the day if you are happy in a relationship, no matter the sex, you are not going to stray,

To be honest I was a bit surprised when my husband told me, no offence to anybody when I say this but he didn't seem the 'type', he didn't tell me the night we met-he didn't see it as a big deal so didn't jump in and say it before I even got his name! he did however tell me before we slept together for the first time, in case i was 'funny' about it and freeked out finding out later. Which I think was the right thing to do. To me it doesn't matter, so what if he had X male relationships and X female relationships, there are many out there that would have had twice or more with either males or females, as long as he practised safe sex with both males and females and is committed to me now, he can eye up all the men and women he wants!!!!

MJOR

I dunno I guess really the best thing to do id not to say Hi my name is X and i'm bi.

To be honest I'd be slightly grossed out by it. Sorry I don't wanna come across as bigoted or anything but i'm not sure i'd be into it.

On the other hand everyone has a past so its up to you.