My Son

Molly_M

Hi All,
I've looked through a lot of the treads about adoption and its lovely to see. I would like to share my short story. At the age of 19 gave my son up for adoption which was ten years ago. It was a decision that I found easy to make for the following reasons. At 19 I didnt think i was ready or mature enough to give my son the life he deserved. My family were supportive of my decision and didnt interfere with it. I was very independent and very open with all.

I had alot of input into the family that adopted my son and I met them also. It was a comfort to meet them and see how loving and open they were. They felt such gratitude to me, however its me that feels so grateful. To know that the most important person in my life is being looked after by a family who will love him, care for him and allow him to grow.

To come to the present, and to why i'm writing this. Today I received some wonderful photos of my son and a lovely letter from his mam. Its a strange feeling I get, very mixed emotions of happiness and sadness. We all make decisions in life that effective us for the future and I all I can say from all sides of the fence its hard. Whether is you thats been adopted or you adopted a child or your the birthparent of a child. Once everyone is supportive and open the future looks good.

Le Grá MollyM

kathy finn

sounds like the perfect set up, it,s a pity more adoptions are not like that.kathy

rikerdonegal

MollyM, you sound very wise (and darn lucky!)

Good.

Moonbeam

Thanks for sharing that with us.
I have a new found respect for ladies who have their babies adopted after suffering 9 months of pregnancy.
I admire you for your bravery.
I find one of the hardest things about being adopted having no family and medical history esp at the moment where it could make a huge difference and it would be nice to know in general too:)

kathy finn

Moonbeam wrote: »

Thanks for sharing that with us.
I have a new found respect for ladies who have their babies adopted after suffering 9 months of pregnancy.
I admire you for your bravery.
I find one of the hardest things about being adopted having no family and medical history esp at the moment where it could make a huge difference and it would be nice to know in general too:)

hi moonbeam,
if you feel like that why don,t you try and trace your birthfamily, i did and found out breast cancer runs in the family, not a nice thing to find out but i feel i will be able to protect my 3 daughters better with the info i now have......kathy

35notout

Molly_M wrote: »

Hi All,
I've looked through a lot of the treads about adoption and its lovely to see. I would like to share my short story. At the age of 19 gave my son up for adoption which was ten years ago. It was a decision that I found easy to make for the following reasons. At 19 I didnt think i was ready or mature enough to give my son the life he deserved. My family were supportive of my decision and didnt interfere with it. I was very independent and very open with all.

I had alot of input into the family that adopted my son and I met them also. It was a comfort to meet them and see how loving and open they were. They felt such gratitude to me, however its me that feels so grateful. To know that the most important person in my life is being looked after by a family who will love him, care for him and allow him to grow.

To come to the present, and to why i'm writing this. Today I received some wonderful photos of my son and a lovely letter from his mam. Its a strange feeling I get, very mixed emotions of happiness and sadness. We all make decisions in life that effective us for the future and I all I can say from all sides of the fence its hard. Whether is you thats been adopted or you adopted a child or your the birthparent of a child. Once everyone is supportive and open the future looks good.

Le Grá MollyM

I also gave my daughter up for adoption at 19 - she is 17 today. I had contact with her new family at the beginning (well, 2 letters from them) but that was it. I didn't really have the option for further contact and to be honest I think that was for the best.

However, not a day goes by when I don't think of her, especially days like today.

I know I did the right thing, as I wasn't ready or able to give her the life she deserved.

Fair play Molly for coping with the continued contact, and getting the photos. In one way I think I would like that, but in another way I wouldn't - hard to explain why.

I never wanted to find my birth mother, but I hope my daughter will try to find me.

Happy birthday to her!

littlebitdull

Thank you both for sharing your stories.

Moonbeam

kathy finn wrote: »

hi moonbeam,
if you feel like that why don,t you try and trace your birthfamily, i did and found out breast cancer runs in the family, not a nice thing to find out but i feel i will be able to protect my 3 daughters better with the info i now have......kathy

Tried but reached some dead ends by some I mean a lot:)
Mostly due to incorrect information from SPG.
I will continue to try though:)