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Jealousy

LegacyUser · 2008-07-27 19:17:28

Hey, I need help in finding a councilor or someone in that feild that will help me. im with a girl almost 7 years. i love her to bits an i know she loves me the same. ive bein jealous for a good few years now an i know its starting to effect us. wenever she goes out wit her mates i get a really horrible sick feelin deep…

27-07-2008 7:17pm

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Hey,
I need help in finding a councilor or someone in that feild that will help me. im with a girl almost 7 years. i love her to bits an i know she loves me the same. ive bein jealous for a good few years now an i know its starting to effect us. wenever she goes out wit her mates i get a really horrible sick feelin deep down that she'll do soethin on me. so id text her sayin stuff, i know its horrible. i want to stop feeling this way cos i dont want t drive her away. i know its all my fault cos she never done anythin on me, an wen im like this, ie shes not out wit mates i trust her but once she goes out it just over comes me. i hate it, i want it t stop, i want her t go out an have fun without worryin bout me feelin jealous an worryin wat id say. i love her so much,
i live in dublin area so if anyone knows of somewhere i can go an talk this out cos i want t stop.
sorry if its all over de place.

cheers

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#2 27-07-2008 7:59pm

Wurly

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Hey OP.

Firstly, expect a mod to pull you up over text speak. It's not permitted here.

Look, the first step is acknowledging the problem and wanting to fix it. So fair play for managing both of these things.

Do you have any idea where this problem stems from? Were you cheated on in the past?

It sounds to me like the main issues here are fear of abandonment and issues with self esteem.

Has anything happened in the past or recently to make you feel threatened?

As you know, saying horrible things to your girlfriend because of your own insecurities in completely unacceptable. So the sooner you sort this, the better. For your sake too.

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#3 27-07-2008 8:16pm

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Hey,
The issue her OP is with you not with the "problem" of your girlfriend doing the dirt or flirting or whatever. Can you see your though process is somewhat illogical?

I think you are really insecure and are looking for your girlfriend to validate you and your relationship.

What makes you think she'd be unfaithful. Why don't you want her to enjoy herself out of your company?

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#4 27-07-2008 10:48pm

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Here are some useful links OP http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=833337&postcount=2

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