Help what to do when've got a crush?!

LegacyUser

Recently ive found myself with a hugeeee crush on a family friend (nick) I am 14 & he used to babysit me and is a well liked family friend of my parents. He is 34 yrs old & very good looking.

I am an only child & both my parents work loads (Mam & Dad are lawyers) so (nick) he comes over a lot of the time to keep me company, we sometimes just play fight but yesterday he like held me down & said he wouldnt let me go til he got a kiss so i gave him one & now hes teasing me all the time about it cause i went all pink & got shy cause i liked what he did but i couldnt tell him that...

I need advise on how to act cool in front of a guy u like?!

Thanks!!

mookishboy

Eh WTF

ibtl

alottodo

You need to tell your parents about Nick straight away. You are only 14 and he's a grown man, there are plenty of boys your age that I'm sure would like you.

LegacyUser

Im not interested in boys my age, ive talked with Nick about this before & he understands... boys my age are only interested in 1 thing & they are annoying not like Nick at all, hes been here for me practilly all my life!!

craichoe

Tell your parents. He's 20 years older than you.

leesmom

you have to tell your parents,while it is understandable for a 14 year old to have a crush on an older man,it is definately not acceptable for an older man to be acting like this towards a child.
he is old enough to be your father.
op it is important that you understand that this is NOT normal behaviour of a man this age

leesmom

op,you say boys you own age are only interested in one thing right, what do you think this man is looking for?

RedXIV

lilangel wrote: »

Im not interested in boys my age, ive talked with Nick about this before & he understands... boys my age are only interested in 1 thing & they are annoying not like Nick at all, hes been here for me practilly all my life!!

You're 14, you may resent this but you are not mature enough to make that kind of decision. Trust me, as a guy i know that boys of ALL ages are only after one thing, that doesn't magically change when we hit a certain age.

helimachoptor

RedXIV wrote: »

You're 14, you may resent this but you are not mature enough to make that kind of decision. Trust me, as a guy i know that boys of ALL ages are only after one thing, that doesn't magically change when we hit a certain age.

Op Red speaks the truth, here's how things will go....

You and Nick will get together... things will go okay for a while cos he'll be getting some action... then your gonna want to go public... then he'll tell you to f**k off cos he'll be labeled a paedo...

Op he just wants to use you for sex, i'm 26 and if I was single there'd only be one thing on my mind (I dont mean with you I mean in general)

LegacyUser

My parents are always so busy they dont even notice i exist.. i feel so lonely most of the time if i dont have my friends over. I dont even bother to talk to my parents much anymore about stuf cause they dont have time & basiclly i dont think they'd wanna know!

Nick is there for me, i can count on him, so what if he wants to kiss me... it doesnt make me horrible or him horrible it just means he likes me lots & im so happy... i know hes loads older but like what does that matter if im happy with it?

Colonel_McCoy

sounds weird a 34 year old man looking for a kiss off a 14 year old.................dont think he wud be babysitting you if your parents knew about the kiss.

Stick with with guys your own age............he is 34 BAD NEWS

kittensoft1984

lilangel wrote: »

My parents are always so busy they dont even notice i exist.. i feel so lonely most of the time if i dont have my friends over. I dont even bother to talk to my parents much anymore about stuf cause they dont have time & basiclly i dont think they'd wanna know!

Nick is there for me, i can count on him, so what if he wants to kiss me... it doesnt make me horrible or him horrible it just means he likes me lots & im so happy... i know hes loads older but like what does that matter if im happy with it?

Op you seriously need to tell your parents about this. Its not right that a 34 year old man wants to kiss a 14 year old. He knows you have a crush on him as is playing up to that. Its so unfair to you and makes me so mad!

Please find some friends your own age...

Dirty_Diesel

lilangel wrote: »

i feel so lonely most of the time if i dont have my friends over

Then maybe that is your problem. You're 14, you have your teenage years to look forward to. Try and spend it with people your own age and you wont feel as lonely.

lilangel wrote: »

Nick is there for me, i can count on him, so what if he wants to kiss me...

And what if ye end up having sex, it's likely he will get done for rape.

lilangel wrote: »

i know hes loads older but like what does that matter if im happy with it?

You can be friends and go for walks, cinema, etc and still have fun. But at your age it's easy to get attached to someone older. If he is such a good friend he can wait 3-4 years until your old (and mature) enough to make a decision.

leesmom

sweetheart,you are so young,we have all been there and had crushes on older men,its natural but he will break your heart.
there is something not right about him kissing such a young girl,im only 20 and there is no way i would be looking at a 14 year old boy in that way.he is only after one thing and believe me you will feel a hell of a lot worse if you end up sleeping with this man and he then tells you where to go.
in reality can u really picture it ever going further than him sleeping with you? a 34 year old and a 14 year old aint't going to work

pablo21

It sounds illegal!!! God does this girls parents have any idea whats going on??

(Methinks this may not be genuine post, or maybe I hope its not genuine!)

Dixie24

I think your parents need to be told bout Nick, totally unappropriate behaviour towards a 14 year old, not matter how mature you might be.

Find it strange that a 34 year old would have so much in common with a 14 year old and i don't mean that disrespectively.

Does Nick have a girlfriend?

Michellenman

I suggest you tell your parents immediately. No matter what happens, these things never end well. For either party.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1038610/Ex-police-sergeant-love-affair-schoolgirl-14-jailed-12-months.html

LegacyUser

I think it's pretty obvious she is NOT going to tell her parents guys.

The best thing I can say to her is that this guy is LOOKING FOR SEX, whether you want to admit it to yourself or not. you like him now, but there will be plenty of other guys you will like in your life (but I only want HIM) bleh.

RedXIV

If you really care about this guy and i mean REALLY care about him, then you'll tell him to stay away and you won't continue this. You don't put people you care about in situations which may result in their imprisonment. Tell him to come back when you're legal. And think about this. We don't have laws for the fun of it, there is a reason why the age of consent is what it is.

LegacyUser

Dixie24 wrote: »

I think your parents need to be told bout Nick, totally unappropriate behaviour towards a 14 year old, not matter how mature you might be.

Find it strange that a 34 year old would have so much in common with a 14 year old and i don't mean that disrespectively.

Does Nick have a girlfriend?

He has a girl whose his friend, he brings her over sometimes to our house when my parents hold dinner parties n stuf but the times ive met her she was really mean towards me..

RossFixxxed

Jesus christ there is NO room for leeway here, that is just plain WRONG and will end badly, possibly VERY VERY badly.

You need to tell your parents NOW and keep him away. You can be sure that this WILL be followed up. I don't even know where to begin with his. It is absolutely completely illegal and as red says for GOOD REASON.

R

LegacyUser

RedXIV wrote: »

We don't have laws for the fun of it, there is a reason why the age of consent is what it is.

In the medievil ages girls my age would have been married & there was no such thing as a "teenager" or "teen years" its just something society has drummed into everyones brains... I've had my periods since i was 11, i am a woman.... not some little girl who doesnt need love from a man... why is everyone just a sheep?!

dudara

Please grow up. Just because you have the developing body of a woman doesn't mean that you are. Periods at the age of 11 mean nothing. You still have a long way to go mentally, as you are clearly demonstrating on this thread.

As I'm practically 100% sure this is a troll, I am locking this thread.

dudara