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boyfriend and jealousy issues

  • 24-07-2008 9:25pm
    #1
    emwem
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭


    Hi guys,
    Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. When we got together everything was always perfect, and we were the best of friends. Now we still are, but we are fighting increasingly more and more often, a lot of the time I am aware that it is my own fault. I seem to have developed a deep insecurity, and a huge amount of jealousy for other people who spend time with him. I know he loves me, and that he would do anything for me, but i really feel the need to be told this over and over. He is getting very fed up of my behaviour. I do my best to swallow my jealousy, bite my tongue and reassure myself he loves me, but I'm finding this more and more difficult to do. Its gotten so bad now that I have even checked up on the receptionist of his company who he gets on well with simoly because she is very pretty. It's only getting worse. I don't know what to do, I really dont't want to lose him, but I often find myself thinking how i should break up with him and get over it as that feeling might be easier to deal with than my jealousy...I really do not know what to do...any ideas?


Comments

  • #2
    MJOR
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,796 ✭✭✭MJOR


    Well done for admitting you are partly to blame that was honest of you.

    Jealously is a hard thing to control but you can manage it.

    When people constantly think their partners are cheating it usually actually drives them too it.

    Has he done anything specific to make you distrust him?

    The green eyed monster affects us all in little ways. I'm reckoning he is a friendly guy with lots of friends, he is going out with ypu because he wants to.

    If he wanted to be elsewhere I'm thinking you wouldn't be together


  • #3
    emwem
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9 ✭emwem


    no, he has never done anything to make me distrust him at all. It is one of the main reasons I'm so worried about this jealousy...if I move on from this relationship will it just happen again?! I'd love to hear from someone who may have had a similar situation...It's really getting me down and affecting me


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Tell him how you feel and that you need him to help you feel more confident. If he's a nice guy he´ll understand. And try to be objective, sometime jealousy can destroy couples.

    I would not break up with him for that. Obvioulsy you care for him, and you are going to miss him too much. Talk to him, you´ll see, everything will be ok ..


  • #5
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    How old are you OP? I find jealousy is a trait associated with younger folk who have not fully matured when it comes to relationships.. I'm 24 now but i would have been quite a jealous person in my teens reaching into my very early 20's, but i'm not really like that anymore because i've grown up, so to speak.

    Put it this way, if you continue on like this then you won't have to think of how to break up with him, because he'll beat you to the punch.


  • #6
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    the root of jealousy issues is a lot of the times self esteem, OP. After all if we were all confident there would no need to worry about our other halves leaving us for supermodels or rockstars because we were already the most desirable person(s) on the face of the planet so why would they leave us?

    Is there anything at all about yourself that you might be worried deep down will drive your boyfriend away?


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