How long before you tell someone that you love them?

ellinguistico

with someone 4 months or so, quite intense but don't want to overstep the mark but i feel like i want to say it cause i am pretty sure i mean it. Any thoughts?

RedXIV

Then say it, 4 months might be short for some people, might be long for others, but if you feel you can say it now and mean it, then why not?

Zillah

Say it when its appropriate. There is no rule, anyone who tells you otherwise is doing you a diservice. The first question is if you are sure you really love them, rather than being infatuated. If the answer is no then its obviously too soon. The next question is how you think they'll respond. Do you think they love you too? If not then maybe don't say it until you think they might.

tobiesheba

If you're sure you feel it - say it.

MJOR

I think as long as you feel it say it.... Especially if your pretty sure they feel the same. Love is a great thing just make sure its the real deal. It's surely possible to love someone after four months...

millyj

Im in the same boat. with a great guy the last 4 months too. we had 2 bust ups where we came through the other side and are now closer then ever and now I want to say it. He has said it to me in the context of : I took out my mobile to check to see if i had any missed calls and made a statement of 'nobody loves me' and he turned around and said 'i love you'. I didnt know what to do, whether to take it seriously or......But I want to say it back, it feels natural and I find myself having to stop myself from saying it but i know one of these days its just going to come out

Wibbs

On the occasions where I've felt it I've just said it. Pretty much seconds after I realised it actually. It was at the 4 to 6 months mark. Any earlier than that and I would be a little concerned if someone said it to me TBH.

STUBBORNGIRL

Wibbs wrote: »

On the occasions where I've felt it I've just said it. Pretty much seconds after I realised it actually. It was at the 4 to 6 months mark. Any earlier than that and I would be a little concerned if someone said it to me TBH.

I think that 4 months is fine and if you feel it you may aswell say it. to be honest i know someone who told her boyfriend after a month and i thought that was crazy but different strokes for different folks -

Im just jealous no one has ever said it to me :mad:

LadyE

millyj wrote: »

Im in the same boat. with a great guy the last 4 months too. we had 2 bust ups where we came through the other side and are now closer then ever and now I want to say it. He has said it to me in the context of : I took out my mobile to check to see if i had any missed calls and made a statement of 'nobody loves me' and he turned around and said 'i love you'. I didnt know what to do, whether to take it seriously or......But I want to say it back, it feels natural and I find myself having to stop myself from saying it but i know one of these days its just going to come out

I f you love him tell him...!!!!

For the phone thing...personally, I wouldnt take that literally...it could have easily been him slagging you then "ahh i love ya really!" kinda thing!

Aurora Borealis

I've only said to two people in my life so far. One after bout five weeks, the other after a few months. Just mean it when you say it and you should be fine.
It's a cool stage to be at, go with it and enjoy it!!!!

jellie

if you feel it, say it. unless for some reason you think it would freak the other person out completely or something. but after 4 months doesnt seem to early or anything.

enjoy that feeling
(im so jealous!)

ellinguistico

sar84 wrote: »

if you feel it, say it. unless for some reason you think it would freak the other person out completely or something. but after 4 months doesnt seem to early or anything.

enjoy that feeling
(im so jealous!)

Cheers one and all!

Casshern88

Im sure your other half is thinking the exact same thing, i said it after aboth 3 months, was never so nervious in my life!! But it was worth it seen as were stil together 2 years later.

Shinners23

My significant other said it to me after 4 months. I think this is early enough to say it but it was welcomed :-) So if you feel it............ Then say it...