Advise on this please.

shyguy56k

I met this girl and were getting on very well and things are getting very "hands on" to say the least.What i need to know is what is the best/most appropriate way to get around the bra when we are kissing and holding etc.Should i unclip it or try to slide under it or what should i do.
Just looking for some advice as i dont want to seem like i dont have a clue about this to her.

Any info much appreciated-T

Registered for this as going unregistered didnt seem to be working.
@mods-if there is a reason my unregistered thread wasnt approved let me know.Thanks

Max_Damage

You're in the wrong forum mate.

Cool_CM

Do whatever comes naturally provided she is ok with it
Here's some notes on which you will be tested later
http://www.wikihow.com/Unhook-a-Bra

boarddotie

I would avoid the old 'hand under the bra' trick- a bit teenagery!
If you are standing up or in an upright position try this- move behind her (trail your hands across her shoudlers and around to her back in the process)mand while kissing her neck and shoulders do the unclipping. Be quick though-there is nothing worse for a girl than when the boy is having trouble with the clasp! Practice, they can be tricky!

shyguy56k

Ya i thought the under trick would be a bit teeneagery alright,were both 20 like but i havent had much experience with this.Is unhooking a good idea,as in she wont mind,or ill get a slap in the face for doing it??

P.S-what forum should it be in??mods feel free to move.

boarddotie

shyguy56k wrote: »

Ya i thought the under trick would be a bit teeneagery alright,were both 20 like but i havent had much experience with this.Is unhooking a good idea,as in she wont mind,or ill get a slap in the face for doing it??

P.S-what forum should it be in??mods feel free to move.

That depends, you will just have to see how things are progressing on the night I suppose. If you have had a few nights where is just been kissing and 'hands on' and u havent gone near her bra then removing it would be the next step. Maybe ask her gently first- a quick breathless whisper in the ear and she will see how much u want to do that. If she says, thats fine. You will probably feel her resisting or tensing up if she doesnt want you too. hay, who knows, she might do it herself!

LegacyUser

I used to dread this and have had a few slip-ups! Best check the water out first
by any means available. If it's all good, and you can only use 1 hand for this,
press your thumb under the sticky-out bit, press that bit against your thumb with
your next finger and push your thumb in, score

RedXIV

you could ask her to?

This thread reminded me of the episode of that 70s show where Eric has this problem. He gets advised to get a bra, put it on a pillow and practice at home. haven't tried it myself so can't guarantee the effectiviness of this strategy but hey, may work.

But i'd be more inclined to ask if you think it's gonna cause you trouble. some of them seem to have bloody childlock on them :mad:

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

have a pair of scissors handy. Not for use, but at least if you do make a balls of it, you can pretend and then show her your sense of humour!

karen3212

If she likes you, she really won't care that you lack experience at opening bras. If you've met already she probably knows she is not meeting Don Juan.

Relax most girls/ladies are not dragons,

shyguy56k

boarddotie wrote: »

who knows, she might do it herself!

If only:D

Also when i do have it unhooked,should i try to move it/take it off,or just have it loose and work away then.Dont mean to sound crude but its the only way i can say it.

Thanks for the advice so far-T

karen3212

shyguy56k wrote: »

If only:D

Also when i do have it unhooked,should i try to move it/take it off,or just have it loose and work away then.Dont mean to sound crude but its the only way i can say it.

Thanks for the advice so far-T

if her shirt is still on then you will only be able to move it upwards, if she has taken off her shirt then you can take it off, if she is agreeable, but you will know when it comes to it anyway

shyguy56k

So if the shirt stays on should i leave it on?I suppose ill just have to see when it comes to it.Just was looking for a few hints or suggestions,Thanks guys and gals.

-T

DemocAnarchis

Dude, stop worrying, seriously. If it gets to that stage, you will know where she feels comfortable taking it. Generally i guess its outside>unclip>under>remove>whatever, but best advice is just relax and enjoy yourself.

peanut66

unhook it and then work ur magic..... its too awkward to try take it off if your just having a quick fumble, if its open its loose , plenty of room to work away.

Theres nothing worse than having a guy pulling out of you for ages trying to remove items of clothing. You need to stop worrying so much though, when it happens it happens, Im sure your mind will be on other things before u know it ....

STUBBORNGIRL

peanut66 wrote: »

Theres nothing worse than having a guy pulling out of you for ages trying to remove items of clothing. You need to stop worrying so much though, when it happens it happens, Im sure your mind will be on other things before u know it ....

I agree - let it happen. If i could describe all the different experiences i have had of men taking my bra off then i would be here all day as each and everyone was different. Surely the girl will take it off herself if you are taking too long - there is no problem here either, all depends on the moment. I must say though there was this one guy and I swear i dont know how he did it but he had it opened in a second with one hand- Got me thinking though - he must be very used to this sort of thing and i got paranoid then thinking of all the numerous women he was with - you cant win either way so just go with whatever comes natural! and happy wandering

shyguy56k

Thanks for the advice everybody,think ill be OK now:D


-T

coco85

Just remember not to fumble!!!.. as a woman i can assure you that it ruins the moment!!!....

I was with a guy once who could open it with one hand outside the clothes.. at the time i didn't realise that he was such a player!!!..was impressed.. we went out casually for a few months but it got to the stage that he was unripping all my friends bra's in the night club just for the craic!!!..(complete turnoff!)

So my advice.. dont get too proficient in the art but dont fumble either!!!

If you know you cant get it off without fumbling then dont try and if the mood is right she'll take it off herself!!!

Best of luck and enjoy!!!!:)

Faith

If she doesn't want you to do it, she'll remove your hand. Though by 20, she'll probably be comfortable enough with the idea. Put your thumb on one side of the clasp, on the outside. Put your next two fingers on the other side (generally have your middle finger under the band, against her back, with your index finger on the outside). Grasp and push together. Voila!

Like as has been said, if her top is on, leave the bra hanging there. Unless it's strapless, they're really hard to get off under tops and SO not worth it. Generally, if you're fumbling, she'll get the message and will just reach back and do it for you (assuming she likes where you're headed ).