Lost?

LegacyUser

Do any of ye here every feel lost? Like i mean you just feel you should be somewhere else or somethin? Its hard to put into words.
Like everynight in college i will stay up for ages and ill go for long walks at like four in the mornin? I text other friends to see if there up and can i come visit. I dont know do i crave company or what? I just feel that im not living my life or somethin?
i realise this sounds odd but its just something i was wondering do people understand?

Dudess

Sounds like you need structure - I'm the very same. When I was in college I used to stay up all night. Ditto when I used to work evenings and when I was out of work... although I didn't ring/text friends during the night to meet up! It's a lonely life as it's "upside down" in comparison to what most people are doing. No wonder you feel lost. Get yourself to bed early - or at least at a reasonable hour. Don't drink coffee or tea late. Getting into a routine of going to bed early-ish and getting up in the morning (rather than the afternoon) will make you feel part of the human race again. Right now you're isolating yourself by choosing to be full of action when everyone's gone to bed, and I've no doubt sleeping when everyone's up.
It's very hard to not stay up late when you don't have to get up - I've been there - but make yourself.

Do you have a part-time job? If not, you should investigate getting one.

LegacyUser

Jesus you hit that one on the button! Like im doing a very cushy course and college plus im naturally brainy so like i very rarely go in and still pass yet all my friends go to bed before cos they have to be up in the mornin! So basically get of my arse and go to college!!

Dudess

I am the world's worst for motivating myself to do stuff when I don't have to, so I know how you feel. There's nothing I can suggest other than make yourself. And look at other activities you might enjoy - some form of exercise, clubs, societies etc.

MJOR

Yes you're living the upside down life.... a new routine is what you need.

You sound lonely too. A part time job will solve the structure problem and help you make new friends too!

TheMelodyOfRain

I understand. Structure is indeed the answer. Also, cut out staying up all night as it tends to produce a air of apathy around the subject. Your energy levels will be diminished, and you'll experience mental fatigue and depression. I've had hands on experience of that, and its nothing 'an early night' will fix.

But I find that despite being in college, working part-time, having a healthy social life...its just not enough. I find at 21, I'm completely fed up of going to pubs at the weekend, and the prospect of working myself into the grave after college to be utterly harrowing. Nothing interests me. Nothing I currently know interests me. Maybe its Dublin...the weather...the never ending Grey...I'm putting serious consideration into backpacking the planet and just getting into random adventures...

Latchy

I think some of us irish are more susceptible to depression than others and sounds like OP has some of it .The apathy suggests he needs to find somthing ,anything to intrest that will focus his mind away from to much analysis of self .It might be a physical thing ,an art form like music .A weekend break or week away with a bit o sunshine can be a tonic ,away from your usual people and surroundings .I know from living in grey dull rainy dublin /ireland that you somtimes need to get away and i know i need at least 1 week in the sun anywere to recharge batteries ,specialy if it's a typical irish/british summer .

Banana_montana

losthelpme wrote: »

Do any of ye here every feel lost? Like i mean you just feel you should be somewhere else or somethin? Its hard to put into words.
Like everynight in college i will stay up for ages and ill go for long walks at like four in the mornin? I text other friends to see if there up and can i come visit. I dont know do i crave company or what? I just feel that im not living my life or somethin?
i realise this sounds odd but its just something i was wondering do people understand?

You deffo need structure... I'm the exact same! Im on a gap year from college cos I wanted to work [stuuupid idea haha] and I can't fine a job now... so Im basically at home all the time... and I'm always ringing around and feeling like I'm wasting my life.
Structure is deffo what we need my friend:)

nacho libre

TheMelodyOfRain wrote: »

I understand. Structure is indeed the answer. Also, cut out staying up all night as it tends to produce a air of apathy around the subject. Your energy levels will be diminished, and you'll experience mental fatigue and depression. I've had hands on experience of that, and its nothing 'an early night' will fix.

But I find that despite being in college, working part-time, having a healthy social life...its just not enough. I find at 21, I'm completely fed up of going to pubs at the weekend, and the prospect of working myself into the grave after college to be utterly harrowing. Nothing interests me. Nothing I currently know interests me. Maybe its Dublin...the weather...the never ending Grey...I'm putting serious consideration into backpacking the planet and just getting into random adventures...

"true happiness only exists once its shared"

Don't go travelling to escape your problems. i would recommend watching the movie that quote is taken from.