Inferior complex

LegacyUser

MY whole life i seem to have an inferior complex. Ive always worked so i could have good clothes , a nice car etc but the thing is when i got my first job i started out as a receptionist, then i got promoted to sales and i wanted to leave the receptionist role behind me but it kept rearing its head and eventually when i went away for a few months and came back i was demoted to receptionist full time again even thou for the previous years i was there i put in so much work and so many hours.

eventually i left for which i thought was a better role and then my boss there wanted to turn me back into a receptionist so i left and now im back again in a role where i thought i was going to get the respect i feel i have worked for and now he wants me to be receptionist cause the role they took me on for is too quiet.

Why is just being a receptionist not good enough for me.
I feel i have to lie and tell people im in a better job etc and its really starting to get me down as i feel like every role i take on turns into a receptionist role but i feel undervalued and capable of so much more.

ntlbell

I don't know why you have a complex.

But why not put the work into furthering your education and actually getting a job that you're happy with?

trying to work your way up through a job can be tough and it's not guaranteed

if you go back to college or get yourself more qualified the natural progression is a better job, but people will always have a better job than you no matter how far up the ladder you get. maybe try and stop defining who you are by your job.

your not your job

your not your bank balance

your not the clothes you wear,car you drive or the handbag thrown over your shoulder..

Nevyn

Change jobs, use the experience you have gotten in the sales positions to get a job in that area else where.

LegacyUser

But I am qualified for the field i work in , very qualified and very experienced and every role i have taken since my first job has supposed to have been a career progression but has turned out to be something else and them wanting to conform me into something else.
I just cant understand where i am going wrong.
I feel like my job does make me who i am in a sense , i want to have a good job, its something ive always strieved for but i just feel like they keep pushing me down and degrading me.

I no i should be thankful that i have a job at all, and i am its just i want to be respected for the job i can do and i want to be challenged yet the people i have worked for see nothing else in me besides someone who can answer a phone politely.

ntlbell

inferior wrote: »

But I am qualified for the field i work in , very qualified and very experienced and every role i have taken since my first job has supposed to have been a career progression but has turned out to be something else and them wanting to conform me into something else.
I just cant understand where i am going wrong.
I feel like my job does make me who i am in a sense , i want to have a good job, its something ive always strieved for but i just feel like they keep pushing me down and degrading me.

I no i should be thankful that i have a job at all, and i am its just i want to be respected for the job i can do and i want to be challenged yet the people i have worked for see nothing else in me besides someone who can answer a phone politely.

so leave?

JuliusCaesar

inferior wrote: »

But I am qualified for the field i work in , very qualified and very experienced and every role i have taken since my first job has supposed to have been a career progression but has turned out to be something else and them wanting to conform me into something else.

How is your self-esteem? How are your assertiveness skills? Your social skills? Are you shy or quiet?

How come you get pressured into things you don't want to do/not part of your job description?

dudara

The fact that this keeps happening to you suggests that something is wrong with your assertiveness. If you have qualifications and experience, then you should, hopefully, be able to secure another job rather than stay as a receptionist.

Or else you're having a bad streak of job luck... but I don't really believe that.

LegacyUser

In this job i was seriously ticked off about the role i am doing and had a full hour conversation with my boss telling him this wasnt the role i signed up for he said he would review it and get back to me. He is on leave now and in his absence another director has now decided to move me out of my office and into the reception area. I told him i wasnt happy and he told me i had 2 choices , slim and none , either way i was moving.
The field im in is specialised and incredibly hard to find work in , the company i work for have a good name and i no if i stick it out a bit longer ill hopefully be able to secure something better but for the moment there seems to be no other option but for me to stay.

Im head strong, im independant and im good at what i do and i seriously dont no why i end up back in these situations it seems to happen no matter what i say.

This is my 3rd job in 3 years and feel my cv is gonna look sh** if i leave another job and im not even here a year yet.