Nervous Breakdown?

someadvicepleas

I am wondering if I have had or am having a nervous breakdown.

In summary I am mid forties.

I have worked in a reasonably responsible and stressful job. I left after a serere trauma. I have been out of work for 1 year and cannot motivate myself to go back into this line of work.

I fell in love 14 years ago. The relationship broke up after I was betrayed. About 2 years after a relatinship breakup ago I attended the funderal of the mother of my former loved one. She now married with family broke down crying when she saw me. This has traumitised me in bringing back the terrible memories which I had "effectively" buried.

I am typical Irish Male in that I hide my feelings - I share them with nobody. I have not cried since I was a boy even though my heart has been broken a few times.

All my siblings and friends are settled down with lovely families. They are all very happy and have no real interest in not appantely troubled friend.

On the plus side.

I am reasonably financially secure. Tied up in my house.

I have a very good family lovely neices and nephews and parents who are in reasonable health.

I have reasonable health. N serious long term issues although some short ter issues that could become longterm if I dont get my act together.

I want to change my life completely ...maybe work in a charity. But my lack of motivation and ineffectivess is proving a major problem.

I did some work in a charity over the last year and was "effectively" let go.

Previous to trauma/"breakdown" I was highly motivated and effective being one of the best at what I do in DUblin.

I have let myself go a lot , my clothers are usually untidy and my house is a mess.

I cant really meet girls because I have little confidence.

....Please help !

Nevyn

Go to your gp and get a referal to see a counsellor.

JuliusCaesar

someadvicepleas wrote: »

I am wondering if I have had or am having a nervous breakdown.
....... I left after a serere trauma.
........ cannot motivate myself to go back into this line of work.

....... This has traumitised me in bringing back the terrible memories which I had "effectively" buried.

I am typical Irish Male in that I hide my feelings - I share them with nobody.
......... But my lack of motivation and ineffectivess is proving a major problem.

I did some work in a charity over the last year and was "effectively" let go.
..
I have let myself go a lot , my clothers are usually untidy and my house is a mess.

I cant really meet girls because I have little confidence.

Ask your GP for a referral to a Psychologist or psychiatrist or CBT therapist who will give you a full assessment. They'll tell you what they think and will recommend treatment. Psychological assessment in the HSE is free of charge.

StandnDeliver

do you keep a diary?maybe you should right out your feelings,ideas,goals,it certainly helps to get the feelings,thoughts outta your head.

Some people suggested a counsellor that's not a bad idea,how about a life coach?There is no quick fix,but i think you have made a positive step writing this thread,and that's always the hard bit.

shamwari

I found this thread by accident whilst looking for something else but after reading it I feel I would like to offer a few simple words of advice.

I think the right thing to do here is for you to go and have a chat with your GP. Whilst everyone here has the very best of intent and wants to help, only a GP is capable of diagnosing you in person to make a determination on what is the most appropriate way to help you.

The sooner you do this the better! You are clearly carrying a burden that is becoming more difficult for you to bear. You need your peace of mind back.

Best of luck

someadvicepleas

I went to GP a year ago and he wanted me to go on anti depressants. I just dont want to table tablets. I find GP's to be too quick to put one on medication.

I have tried to beat this on my own but I have to admnit I need help.

If you know of any good counsellors or anyone that can help please advice.

Beruthiel

someadvicepleas wrote: »

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If you know of any good counsellors or anyone that can help please advice.

What area are you in?

I would suggest you change doctors until you find one happy to refer you to a professional.
I'm a firm believer in the fact if you want something badly enough, you'll get it. The how you get there part is entirely down to you and only you can change yourself. The fact that you want to is half way there.

someadvicepleas

thanks ...i live in Rathmines

LegacyUser

any ideas on counsellors?

eveie

your based in dublin>
there are councelling services everywhere, look up phone book fish around, i know that the dundalk councelling services is great you could call them they may be able to reccommend somewhere in dub.
i totally agree with you when it comes to doctors they are far too quick to put people on anti depressiants, they only hide the problem not deal with it.
wish you all the best

madser

somadvicepleas wrote: »

any ideas on counsellors?

Theres a place in Dun Laoghaire called the The Tivoli in Clarinda park if you ring them up they may have someone in your area that you could see, there very good and as far as I know they have people in most areas.

Good Luck and keep the chin up sounds like your going through a bad time at the moment but concentrating on the positives is a good sign your turning it around.:)

paperclip2

Follow this link and you come to the Irish Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (IACP) list of recognised training courses. Most are run by bodies offering counselling and the majority are based in Dublin.

http://www.irish-counselling.ie/infosheet9.htm

Also check out the Clanwilliam Institute
http://www.clanwilliam.ie/index.cfm/loc/6.htm

Good luck OP.

MJOR

Right the problem with burying your emotions and not dealing with them is that they keep cropping up again and again. :eek: They take you by surpriseYou have to get counselling to try and sort thru the problems and realise your goals.

You are right about being a typical Irish male:)

You just need to talk to a professional.... Luckily for you you have a fair idea of where you wanna be.

It's not where you stand that is important but the direction you look.