Addicted to Porn

LegacyUser

Hi,
I am addicted to porn! I look at it 5 or 6 times a week! And I seem unable to stop! What makes it worse is that I look at it when my girlfriend is doing something else - at work or gone out.
She is completely disgusted by people watching porn but she doesn't know that I am no better!

Can anyone help me to stop this stupid addiction?

thanks.

T

irlirishkev

What's the problem here, the fact that you look at porn, or the fact that your girlfriend doesn't like it?

Nowt wrong with looking at porn, most guys do it, and a lot of guys as much as you. Choice is yours as to wether or not you tell your gf, but it's her problem not yours. You're already doing the decent thing and not looking at it while she's around..

LegacyUser

actually quite a common issue id say....

i watch porn my self and i have a girlfriend i love. Im not proud of it and i dont even really like doing it.usually only once or twice a week but sometimes more.

I think you just have to try fight it using ur will power when ever u get the urge just turn off your Pc or go out and do something else.

id be worried about the long term risks of porn addiction...for starters the g.f. finding out and also i heard it can contribute to a type erectile disfunction. ie you cant get aroused or orgasm unless its to porn as you've become so dependent on it

Jack B. Badd

Tony2781 wrote: »

What makes it worse is that I look at it when my girlfriend is doing something else - at work or gone out.
She is completely disgusted by people watching porn but she doesn't know that I am no better!

How does this make it worse? If she's not comfortable with it, what are you going to do? Look at it in front of her? Also, 5-6 times a week isn't that much.

Fysh

My first reaction to this was "addiction?! That's not even once a day!" and I think it's worth considering. If you're not at the stage of building or amending your daily routine to incorporate your fix of porn, it's not an addiction.

I think you've got two issues - you're finding yourself looking at porn and are worried by how often you do so, and your worry about your girlfriend's opinion on it.

Why are you looking at porn? Is your sex life unsatisfactory? Is it an avenue for exploring/indulging fantasies you don't think your GF would want to try?

As for your GF....there's no reason she has to know, exactly, but looking at porn is going to affect your sex life and thus your relationship. It may be best to try and have a long and tactful discussion about it. Do you know if she's ever looked at porn, or considered using it as part of your sex life together?

Dragan

With all due respect your not addicted to porn, your just in love with the idea of doing something your GF considers naughty.

Sherifu

Nothing stupid about porn OP. 5/6 times a week is a good amount, just keep your girlfriend away from it.

Kensington Chap

Dude, you need to break the wrist and then just walk away. Break the wrist, walk away.
Any chick opposed to porn is baaaaaad news. One cannot expect a chick to like porn, but at least to condone/tolerate it as a normal thing for dudes to partake in.
Expecting a dude to abstain from manhandling his manhandle is like expecting a chick to not gossip or shop.
How would your missus feel if you told her she can´t eat chocolate? I hope somebody here catches my drift.


Anyhoooooo, moving back to addiction, I watch some every day. Not a whole film, but a load of pics and clips etc. Back in my college i.e. doing sweet F.A. days, I´d spend hours a day downloading. My stash went from 30GB to 150GB over my last year, and that whole year I had a girlf.
So now. Stick that in your fleshlight and shag it.

RobAMerc

op - me thinks your over reacting slightly - 99% of blokes look at porn 1% lie.
nothing weird about it

if it gets to the point you'd rather watch porn and crack one out than get jiggy with your missus then you might be getting a problem but till then enjoy.

KrazeeEyezKilla

Pornquestion wrote: »

id be worried about the long term risks of porn addiction...for starters the g.f. finding out and also i heard it can contribute to a type erectile disfunction. ie you cant get aroused or orgasm unless its to porn as you've become so dependent on it

That's true. I could only look at porn 5 or 6 times a week if I hadn't even seen a woman in ages, never mind done anything with one. Watching that $hite only leaves me more agitated and I try to avoid it.

Miss Fluff

I really wouldn't class 5/6 times a week as an addiction OP. Is it affecting your day to day life for instance? Is it affecting your sex life? As another poster pointed out you don't want to get to a situation where you can only become aroused or ejaculate through porn, then Hueston, you have a problem, but I don't surmise from your post that that is an issue. Or is it?

I guess if you feel uncomfortable with how much you are watching, i.e. 5/6 times a week IMO is fine but if it's for 10 hours a time then yes, that is obsessive. I guess if it is making you unhappy then just cut back and when you get the urge to watch it go for a cold shower of something:)

Bob the Builder

imo, porn is cheaper than trying to keep a woman happy.... you're no sooner over valentines day before you're buying a present for her b/day....

i wouldn't worry too much OP. the reason porn is such a big industry on the web is because people use it.

I can see why your girlfriend might be against it, but at the same time, i wouldn't at all expect any girl to actually sit beside you looking at it all day. there's a happy medium, and i think 5 or 6 times a week isn't at all going into the addicition zone...

BroomBurner

Agree with other posters, you're not addicted. Five or six times a week is nothing. Nothing wrong with porn so long as it was legal and with consenting adults. If your GF doesn't like it, then that's her problem. I don't understand women who have a prob with porn (I'm not talking about anything illegal, etc.), they're usually either uptight, closed-minded, repressed and insecure, or all of the above.

LegacyUser

Pfft if it wasnt for porn i probably would have killed myself years ago.

You could always turn it into education too I guess. Instead of senselessly soiling your paints just think Hey that looks like shes enjoying that - try that on your ladylover and bam: coffee and eggs for you tomorrow, my son.

RealistSpy

PurpleCow wrote: »

Pfft if it wasnt for porn i probably would have killed myself years ago.

You could always turn it into education too I guess. Instead of senselessly soiling your paints just think Hey that looks like shes enjoying that - try that on your ladylover and bam: coffee and eggs for you tomorrow, my son.

jezuz lad that's a bit much. Ah porn is good very good it relief stress so do it and go nuts. just not 3 x a day x 7 days.

Colonel_McCoy

thats normal, my friends are a lot worse!

wylo

OP you dont sound addicted but I do think on a whole that porn addiction is an addiction that hasnt been recognised properly yet. I know people that spend a serious amount of time watching it. One lad actually tried to stop but he told me he couldnt so long as he owned his own laptop.

As for girls hating porn, I really agree with that statement about the ones who hate it are usually repressed,close minded and have their own insecurities. I know one or two like that. A girl gave out to me once because there was an FHM in the sitting room(in a house where just 3 lads lived),thats really taking the p1ss.

GrumPy

wylo wrote: »

As for girls hating porn, I really agree with that statement about the ones who hate it are usually repressed,close minded and have their own insecurities.

Too true!
Oh, and any man with access to the internet watch porn! anyone who says otherwise is a lier. :pac:

Overheal

If you want to stop looking at so much porn online, really OP you just need to exercise a little willpower. Its like anything, if you go without it long enough it no longer pulls you in as much as it used to. Just start by not looking at it as often as you do until eventually you cut back down to a level that seems reasonable to you. Go spend some time away from the PC altogether even.

Also as someone who just spend 2 weeks cleaning his cousinses machines and running across all their hentai (wtf, pikachu?!): make it easier for yourself and clear out all those porn-bookmarks and saved images and videos and everything else thats sticking around your computer: the easier it is to access the harder it will be not to. Not to mention makes it harder for other people to stumble across your nasties - not to keep secrets per se but just as a matter of courtesy :cool:

MJOR

From a girls prerspective you aren't addicted I don't think....Just have a healthy desire to look at nudies..

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

I think the problem isn't the fact that he's watching porn/too much porn, but he's putting his realtionship in jeopardy if his girlfriend ever finds out. Knowingly behaving in a way that has potential to hurt yourself and others is pretty much what defines an addiction.

The solutions?

1) Most addictions are down to habit. Change the habit, first stop in losing the addiction, or halting the behaveiour

2) (A bit anecdotal, I know) I did hear of a program whereby all the websites visited were knowingly passed on to a pre-appointed third party (nothing offical, just someone who'd know if you fell off the wagon, so to speak). I think this was in cases of SERIOUS porn addictions, but the very fact that someone else would know was enough to break the habits.

BroomBurner

I don't understand why a man should give up watching porn just because his GF might not like it. OP should just carry on as per normal, if she finds out and goes mental, then it's her problem. She has to undestand that people watch porn. She would only have a leg to stand on in an arguement if the porn in question was illegal or something disgusting (though that in itself is a subjective word).

MuPpItJoCkEy

Firstly, as quiet a few people have mentioned, your not addicted to porn.

Secondly, most girls I know watch or have watched porn. The last few girlfreinds I've had, at some point we watched porn together, even got brought into a sex shop to get some one day and it wasn't my idea either. A lot of women these days watch porn just as much as men. We are now in a cosmo age. Times have changed. Women are a lot more confident about being open about sex.

In fact, I work in an office which has 5 women in it and 7 blokes. One of the girls someday last week brought porn into conversation and all 5 women we're talking about some of the stuff they watched along with the lads. Not 1 of them said they didn't like it either.

Some women though genuinely don't like it and wouldn't watch it. Maybe it's down to the way they grew up or maybe it runs deeper than that. There could be jealousy in there too where a women will feel, why does he need to look at other women when I here for them.

Maybe you should talk to her about it. I don't mean telling you you like to watch porn but ask her about her fantasies and things like that. For some people, it can take a while for them to open up so it's also down to how much they feel they can confide in their partners.

DD

my bf has a pb with this too