fancy flatmate

queserasera

oh lads,

i'm in london and just split up with boyf. have been living in a shared apartment for over a year now and i think i really fancy my flatmate - which spells trouble. esp since we are due to go travelling together as FRIENDS and with another person to SE Asia. We're not that close, its just a crush, but Im very concerned that he will be appalled if he ever finds out! not to metnion awkwardness of travel.

also, pretty sure he doesnt know i like him as i sometimes talk to him about trouble with ex-boyf (i was considering gettng back).

mainly i'm afraid he wont feel same..:(

How do I approach this upcoming travel?
advise very very very welcome!!

MJOR

queserasera wrote: »

oh lads,

i'm in london and just split up with boyf. have been living in a shared apartment for over a year now and i think i really fancy my flatmate - which spells trouble. esp since we are due to go travelling together as FRIENDS and with another person to SE Asia. We're not that close, its just a crush, but Im very concerned that he will be appalled if he ever finds out! not to metnion awkwardness of travel.

also, pretty sure he doesnt know i like him as i sometimes talk to him about trouble with ex-boyf (i was considering gettng back).

mainly i'm afraid he wont feel same..:(

How do I approach this upcoming travel?
advise very very very welcome!!

I think your flatmate probably was very nice gave you great advice and probably offered you a shoulder to cry on. Don't ruin a good friendship on the rebound x

Miss Fluff

MJOR wrote: »

I think your flatmate probably was very nice gave you great advice and probably offered you a shoulder to cry on. Don't ruin a good friendship on the rebound x

+1, that pretty much sums it up. Don't ruin your chance of having a great time travelling by realising a rebound crush, don't go there OP.

Tigger

he probably would be flattered

no use telling yerself lies lovers should be friends

queserasera

thanks....sounds wise. best, and fairer, not to do anythign. He is typical english and doesnt do bodycontact or emotions so i really cant read him anyway - except that me travelling was his idea.

Tigger

looking at the girls's replies here and i just dion't get how ye can't understand men

we are simple critters
we like when people think we are great
either he's interested or he's not but if he is then its great an ye coild have a brilliant time in se asaia
if he isin't he'll be happy and confident in your company due to the ego boost
win
win
and wtf would a realationship ruin a real;ationship

MJOR

queserasera wrote: »

thanks....sounds wise. best, and fairer, not to do anythign. He is typical english and doesnt do bodycontact or emotions so i really cant read him anyway - except that me travelling was his idea.

Well head off and enjoy yourself..... Don't read too much into anything

Tigger

queserasera wrote: »

thanks....sounds wise. best, and fairer, not to do anythign. He is typical english and doesnt do bodycontact or emotions so i really cant read him anyway - except that me travelling was his idea.

agggh

he's a man wait on the mens oppinions

silvine

He's a bloke. He won't be appalled. You could

a) Not go travelling
b) Go and one night after a few drinks it will come out

tbh

stop daydreaming about this guy and fix your attentions on someone else. Either that, or shag him and see what happens.

Tigger

tbh wrote: »

stop daydreaming about this guy and fix your attentions on someone else. Either that, or shag him and see what happens.

succilently put

RedXIV

happened to me in college. Girl that moved in fancied me but was very direct about it. She was a stunning girl but good ole Red decided to have morals and play the "no housemates" rule.

Yeah that lasted two weeks, we went out on the piss, she corned me, i gave up. She moved out 3 months later, was distraught

NeMiSiS

I'd say..
Life's short. Why not ?

Dragan

RedXIV wrote: »

happened to me in college. Girl that moved in fancied me but was very direct about it. She was a stunning girl but good ole Red decided to have morals and play the "no housemates" rule.

Stupid rule.

OP, i would suggest you contemplate two things.

1) Rebound
2) Proximity Infatuation.

Your flat mate is one of them.

Nevyn

Its just about a crush, your now single and horny and he is in close proximity and is someone you know and trust and you tell yourself that it's not like shagging a complete stranger so that you fell like less of a slapper.

Go out and get laid and leave your friend alone.

RedXIV

Dragan wrote: »

Stupid rule.

Thats why i broke it

Overheal

"Take chances. Make mistakes. Get messy."

- The Frizz