What to do, what to do?

stevelknievel

I was going with a girl for about 4 weeks earlier this year. Nothing too serious, because it was such a short time. She then decided to push it back to a friendship, as she heard some sh!t about her ex and had a lot of stuff on her mind. She was not in a place to start a serious relationship and we were starting to progress into something serious. 3 months on and we have been very good friends since. I know her brother well, and have met her on a lot of nights out, texting her quite a bit etc. She now seems to be happier and back on the form when she started chatting me up. My question is, seeing as it was her who decided that friends would be the best bet, is it up to her to restart something, or should I do something about it. If it's me, should I just make a move or talk to her and explain things first. Or was that whole bad time thing probably just an excuse to make the break-up easier, and it's best to just forget about her and move on.

listermint

I think its best to leave it up to her, if she is looking for something she will go get it. If she is happier now. Does that not tell you something? If she wants another relationship and she is in the right place she will go get it. Chances are she is happier single for the present and just doing her own thing.

R0ot

Just leave it to her to decide when/if the time is right again. She brought it back to the friendship area so it's really up to her if she wants to bring it back to the relationship stage again. Patience and concentrate on being friends.

MJOR

Leave it up to her.... Make sure you let her know subtly that you are still interested. Maybe she thinks you are happy as it is.
Good luck

Colonel_McCoy

I agree with everybody let her make the first move.

stevelknievel

I was afraid you were all going to say that :mad:

briano

Well, Stevel, I'll say something different so.

Life is too short. If you still have feelings for her you should tell her. Don't do all this "make it subtly known" business. Just say it to her.




But for the love of god, do it while you are sober, not at 2:30am after a night on the tiles.

STUBBORNGIRL

stevelknievel wrote: »

I was afraid you were all going to say that :mad:

You appear disappointed - It seems to me like you wanted the general consensus to be : ****Go and get her! ***unfortunately i agree with all the other posters - she made the choice to remain just friends so you have to respect her decisions! Whats for you wont pass you so while you are caught up on this girl you are missing out on all the other great girls that are out there waiting for you! Go and have some fun and tough for the girl that let you get away - more fool her!

stevelknievel

I just got a could-be-dangerous suggestion from a friend. He said talk to her brother. A bit of history on it, I've known and been really good friends with him for about 5 years. I met her through him, and she was just his little sister to start with. He was cool with us from the start and happy to see her with a good guy after her stalker-y rumour spreading ex. What better opinion to get than the guy who knows most about it? What do we think of this idea? Genius or insane?

Star Lord

Forget her brother, you're not a kid passing notes or getting your friend to check it out for you.

Personally, I'm going to disagree with the above comments and I'd say ask the girl if she wants to go catch a movie together or something that can be either just as friends or could be something more. If she agrees, let her know you're still interested, but that if she just wants friendship that you'll still happily just remain friends too.

dreamr

ooh, see if you just ask her to the movies, and you've been friends for a while, she's not going to see it as a date, she'll only see it as you guys hanging out. personally, I would make her jealous. make her see whats she's missing. if she asked to be your friend, then she sees you as only that. a friend. so go have fun, flirt or score someone infront of her. she's got to notice whats she's missing!!

or talk to her about it, but i can see the talking just ending up with friendship. :P

NextSteps

dreamr wrote: »

personally, I would make her jealous. make her see whats she's missing. if she asked to be your friend, then she sees you as only that. a friend. so go have fun, flirt or score someone infront of her. she's got to notice whats she's missing!!

Whatever you do, be straight with her. Who needs this kind of silly mind games? Life's too short for all that intrigue.

MagicMarker

Well, do you want to remain friends?

Seems to me like you're just casual friends, texting and bumping into each other and the like. If you're willing to loose this then i say ask her.

If you'd like to remain friends, then let her make the first move.

But make sure to have your fun while you wait.

Miss Pinky

I would def give her a ring in ask her does she want to meet up and do something.If you dont you will never know what could have happened!!And if she dosent want to get into anything then at least you know where you stand and you can never say you didnt try:)

Wibbs

What MagicMarker wrote. If you want more from her then ask her and ask her directly too. No going through third parties. You're not a mind reader so you don't know what she wants so give it a whirl.