I think I've lost my touch!

lifelonglufc

So I've been enjoying the single life for a few months now, it took a lot of getting used to after coming out of a pretty serious relationship!

Im young, go out a lot with friends we have a great time and the usual craic you know

Thing is going out into a club, hittin the dancefloor (i'll admit slightly intoxicated moreso with dutch courage) and scoring some random girl has become a common occurence everytime I go out.

But now I'm a little tired of it and I'm starting to get that feeling that it's relationship/girlfriend time again!

Only problem is I'm not so sure how to get out of the "scoring" habit and instead try to meet a nice girl who I can share some quality time with and hopefully have a relationship with. The problem is getting to that point though.

I think I've lost my touch! Is that I just need to approach random girls, get talking to them and see how it goes?

I mean have I forgotten how to do all this stuff?!

I like to think I'm a nice guy, a gentleman...quite a catch actually or so I'm told by the older ladies :cool:

Any advice? Maybe some female advice would be appropriate here?!

Feelgood

Right well I think most people would agree with me on this, though nightclubs and pubs are probably the worst places in the world to meet someone that you could possibly have a relationship with. I think thats your main problem.

Instead try meeting someone normally, not drunk and in an everyday situation. The majority of people I know have met their long time partners in work, sports outings, walking the dog and even one of my mates who met his missus in a library!.

RedXIV

Ways i've met girls that i had relationships with:

Sat beside one girl in school one day for an assembly
Through a mate of mine in college
During a college mystery tour
A housemate in college
College society

Now i'm not going to say i haven't met nice girls on nights out, i've met incredible girls doing it, but in my record, nights out aren't where you meet girls for relationships.

The "touch" as you call it is probably not that different to your approach to women on a night out. chat to them, be interested in them and remember, if you register your interest at any time other than pub and night club, it usually hits home alot harder.

Best of luck

Red

lifelonglufc

oh i didnt mean to make it sound like I'm a drunken mess when trying to meet girls! :rolleyes: Im not at all.

But ya i think the idea of trying to meet girls elsewhere instead of in a club or pub is a pretty obvious thing I may have been neglecting! thanks

Wurly

Pubs and clubs are generally a sh1te way to meet relationship material these days.

Meeting people with a common interest (besides drinking - lol) is a good bet.

Ever thought of joining a club/activity style thing?

Might be a good bet.