Does she like me??

WorriedSick

Hey Guys,

Just looking for a bit of help here.. There is a girl that I work with that I kinda like but I'm not really sure if she is into me. She always gives me a hug when she sees me and says things like "Aww I love you" we have started texting just general chit chat and I would like to ask her out but there is a slight problem... I'm have just finished with my girlfriend about 6 weeks ago, we were together for 2 years but it just wasnt working out. I took it pretty bad and discussed it with this particular girl. Another female staff member has advised me not to do this as it's "a turn off" as I am talking about my ex all the time and girls dont like that. Do you think if I make on this other girl that she might feel like I'm on the rebound? thats not the case I do really like her and we get on great.

What should I do...

a. Give it time and see what develops

or

b. Just Go for it!!

RedXIV

Wise man once say, be wary of the rebound.....

If you're sure that your ex is not going to be a factor affecting you (and i mean 100% confident) then go for it, you have nothing to lose. But if you do still think about her, i'd strong suggest taking this VERY slowly. It's normal to still think of her a mere 6 weeks after break up so don't worry if you think you're overly emotional, but be fair to this other girl as well. she's not interested in competing with your ex for your attention.

So all in all, it's up to you, sorry OP, wish i had a better answer for ya

Red

MagicMarker

If you're still constantly talking about your ex then you're not ready to be jumping into another relationship to be honest.

Also, you could be in the 'friend zone', some girls are just very effectionate with the hugs etc.

If i were you, i'd continue as you are. If you really do want things to progress and feel the you are COMPLETELY over your ex, then i'd say introduce some light flirting into your text messages and see how she reacts and then in the near future make a move.

SnowMonkey

I agree extream caution...

if your shore you really like her and you feel ready to start seeing girls again but the main thing you have to do is show her that shes not some rebound girl i think that would be her maor concern.... In weather or not you could move from just being friend but i would also advise in taken it slow and also if you have the brains you ask her to be up front with you in person because if you do really like her texting is inpersonal i think...

good luck what ever your choice maybe ..

Wagon

I strongly suggest staying single for a while. If your ex is always on your mind, how can you possible expect to be a loving boyfriend to this new girl?

I reckon you're in the friend zone anyway, she's just one of those annoying women who hug and act really affectionate and it just seems too have all the signs written all over it. Anyway, it's up to yourself, just be careful.

Overheal

the hugging and the love ya's - i see that a lot. and a lot of the time a girl tends to associate that guy as a friend. she likes you and she trusts you but i doubt its because she sees you as a potential partner.

If you do want to go ahead and ask her out make sure she knows you are asking her out on a Date and not a date... they seem to have two different meanings with wimmins.

Wibbs

Pretty much agree with the rest including the other woman you work with. You're engaging her as a shoulder to cry on about another woman, which will tend to put you in the friendzone. Not a hard and fast rule, but damned close.

You're rebounding like a rubber ball too. You've transferred the emotional loss onto this new woman too quickly. I would define a rebound as any relationship where there are three people in said relationship. You, the new woman and your ex. Mostly the ex is represented by the unresolved feelings for said ex that you're dragging with you. I would back off and sort yourself out first.

MJOR

I think you are on the rebound. Talking about your ex will only turn her off. She's being sympathetic now but she'll tire of it.

_blank_

You are in the friendzone.

studiorat

Sounds like you are on the friendship bus!
Give it time something might happen, probably not but at least you can hang out.

cabrwab

Enjoy the hugs and the effection, that is as far as it'll go for you at the moment.

You risk loosing a friend if you try anything. Play it by ear though, but you aint over your ex yet.

jellie

regardless of whether or not she likes you (none of us can really answer that question for you), are you in a place where you could get into a new relationship?

i broke up with my bf of 2 yrs 4 weeks ago, so in a very similar situation, & i know that even if mr. perfect came along right now there is no way i would be capable of having a relationship with him. its like i just dont have the emotional strength.

youre clearly not over the ex if youre still talking about her so much, are you prepared to risk your friendship with this girl?

God even thinking about your situation makes me feel drained. i just couldnt be dealing with that stuff right now!

rebounds = bad!

Peachy123

leave it for a while - be sure you're not on the rebound. If you still like the girl in a few months & she's still interseted go for it. She'll be wary of you being on the rebound as well...

geminilady

yep i agree with the other people aswell rebounds not a good idea! its great that you found someone to confide in, but if your still thinking about your ex then you have to give yourself more time, Good Luck

Is she Irish?

WorriedSick

Yeah, she's Irish.. What difference does that make?? :rolleyes: