Need advice?

LegacyUser

Ok so the story is I moved out of home 6 months ago and moved to the country.

Things have been going grand for the last while....but lately Ive been missing home and stuff. My dad isnt well at the moment and I was recently diagnosed with depression So a lot has happpened.

I spoke to a friend of mine yesterday who runs a recruitment company in Dublin and he was telling me about a very good job in Dublin. I would double my imcome and be closer to my family.

The one niggling thought I have is that people will think I am a failure.......I dont want that.

My friend has arranged a telephone interview for Monday for me.

So i suppose Im just asking what other people would do? I dont plan to move back into the home house when i move back

LegacyUser

This is easy.

Don't even think for a second whether people will think you are a failure.
I guarantee most people couldn't even care less - and, if they do, why should you care?

IMO the only person who might think you are a failure is YOURSELF!

Sounds like a good opportunity - twice the income, closer to family - to me this sounds like a no-brainer!

Of course, the interview may reveal that it is not the job for you but still go for the interview.

masseyno9

I don't see the issue here. How would you be seen as a failure by getting a better job and being able to afford to live closer to your family? Do the interview and see how it goes and/or if you'd be interested in working in the position.

Again, i really don't see the problem. 'failures' generally don't double their income by changing their job.

0utshined

Who are you living your life for, you or other people? If it suits you better to go for the new job then go for it.

Best of luck for the interview.

Climate Expert

Don't let people think you are a failure.
Stay in your job with half the wage and keep being depressed.


Why do some people bother posting here?

dazberry

goforit? wrote: »

The one niggling thought I have is that people will think I am a failure.......I dont want that.

... and when does moving back home (whether house home or not) become a failure to be nearer your friends and family - and hopefuly for a job that pays twice as much. The real failure is telling people how great things are and then putting down the phone and feeling miserable. Come home!

D.

Overheal

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parable_of_the_Prodigal_Son

LegacyUser

Thanks for your CONSTRUCTIVE responses.

Climate Expert - i posted to get some feedback

SarahSassy

Pride is for wimps...

Take the better job, more money and get an apartment.... Simple as.... :rolleyes:

Blush_01

OP, if I was offered that opportunity, I'd leap at it.

Take the interview. If you don't get the job, you haven't lost anything. If you get the job, you've made a wise career move which is doubling your income and you get to move to somewhere you feel more comfortable, with the added bonus of being nearer to your family.

Take the risk (at this stage it's only a little one) and see what happens. You don't have to tell anyone about it, so if it doesn't work out you haven't failed, it just wasn't right at the time. If it does go your way, then you can let people in on it. Do it for yourself and best of luck!

bronte

Hiya op,

You owe it to yourself to be happy!
See how the interview goes, and go from there.
Screw what anyone says! It's not their life!
I hope it goes well for you.

LoanShark

goforit? wrote: »

The one niggling thought I have is that people will think I am a failure.......I dont want that.

The One and only Thing about Dublin Is.... People Don't give a flying F><k.. About Anyone other than themselves..
If Your Getting a better Job with more money and you are being closer to your family..Forget The Others.. And do what is right for you!

MJOR

Well just go with your gut instinct... It's not really important what others think.. You need to be near your Dad too....

You'd regret it if you don't take this opportunity.. You aren't happy now so things can only look up

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