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I need some advice

  • 26-06-2008 4:29am
    #1
    wallflower87
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    I recently moved back home, I was living on my own at university and I am now at home for two months. My mom and I are really close, we talk about a lot things. I noticed over the last year my mom and dad argue alot!!! They critized everything one another does etc... I sensed that they were getting close to get a divorce, I asked my mom and she said that was infact true. They are supposely getting through the summer and then seeing where they are at!
    About a year ago while using my dads laptop I saw a site for swingers, I was mortified of the idea my parents did that but I forget about it. Now the other night I was helping my mom out on her laptop, she had her email and she had stuff up for a similar site. Now though she has emails that see another guy who isnt my dad are attending these parties!!! I dont know what to think now!!
    I have become more concerned b/c she goes out on friday or saturday nights alone, she says she is going to a friends house. Who i have never met but always goes there.... it makes me think what is she really doing??

    I think I am in denial... I dont want to believe it. My dad and I dont have a great relationship, but I dont know what to do if this is what my mom is doing!! I have no one to talk about this, I just need someones inputs so I can try to sort this out. There is no way I can talk to my parents or brother about this, I just dont feel comfortable but I need some to talk too.


Comments

  • #2
    Aisling(",)
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,462 ✭✭✭Aisling(",)


    well perhaps it had been somethign they'd done while in their relationship.once they're safe and all consentual id say its more common then you think.
    do you have a problem with it because you think its what caused their divorce or just because you arent comfortable with the swinger idea?


  • #3
    wallflower87
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭wallflower87


    No I have gotten over them being swingers, its is not uncomfortable to me anymore, it was just a shock at first.I dont think that is causing the divorce, it more that my parents dont go out together, they go separte. I think what bothers me more is they say they are trying to fix things when really its just getting worse. There idea of dealing with it is just not have to talk to one another when my brother and I are around. I have a feeling they are going to get a divorce anyways, but its just leads us on to think they are trying to fix things then I find that email.... I dont know what to think


  • #4
    smellslikeshoes
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,354 ✭✭✭smellslikeshoes


    I really don't think its something you can interfere with, all you can really do is make sure you support them and let things run their course. If things are going to work out they will work out and you worrying about it is not going to change anything.


  • #5
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Maybe they're not happy as things are? Maybe they want to be apart but they don't want to be alone? Maybe they've decided to stay together and support each other emotionally/financially and maybe they've agreed on an open relationship. Then again maybe they just like going onto swinger sites with no intention of anything.

    There are a lot of maybe's. You should just stay out of it tbh, they are grown adults. Although it may sound difficult, it's none of your business.


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