Sex problem

Aanon

I am a regular user gone anon for this post. I am a female (currently single) in my late twenties. I have never had an orgasm during sex- is this totally weird?? I am capable of orgasm but only when using a vibrator. I have only ever had 3 sexual partners- 2 longterm so maybe its lack of experience or not being able to relax in the bedroom but I just want to improve matters.
Confused

IamBeowulf

Hi
I've had three longterm GFs and they've varied in sensitivity and abilities to orgasm. There were never distinct problems but one in particular found that unless she was completely relaxed...ie not coming straight home from work...she couldn't come.

It can be down to comfort level (the most common) but also your own expectation. Vibrators really do the business because you're in control and they can be quite powerful. Maybe you might find that communication with your partner, guiding them through words or even giving them a helping hand, can make things far more intense for you.

Another tip: don't let the orgasm be the be-all. If you have it in your head as a target, you may never hit it. Again, the particular GF almost made it a military mission to reach that destination which only stressed her out more. Have fun. Be playful. It makes such a difference, I think.

Hope I helped even a little bit.

barbiegirl

One play with yourself without the vibrator you'll discover the pressure you require and where. Then try many different positions and one or a combination of a couple will work. It is down to relaxation and having fun. Everyone is different plus it doesn't need to be an orgasm everytime, it should just be fun. The orgasm from your hand or his, straight sex, or oral feels entirely different to the one from the vibrator, so even if they are rarer they're worth waiting for :-) Good luck and make it a voyage of fun not an obsession.

Pherekydes

I met my current partner when she was 32 and she claimed that she never had an orgasm before she met me ( and if I remember correctly, it was only after a few months that she did finally reach that place).

So what I'm saying is, it could be partly down to your partner and partly down to you. You've got to be totally relaxed and at ease with your partner. Tell them what you like (that's how it finally came good for us). You know what works; they don't.

LegacyUser

Aanon wrote: »

I am a regular user gone anon for this post. I am a female (currently single) in my late twenties. I have never had an orgasm during sex- is this totally weird?? I am capable of orgasm but only when using a vibrator. I have only ever had 3 sexual partners- 2 longterm so maybe its lack of experience or not being able to relax in the bedroom but I just want to improve matters.
Confused

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. If a vibrator can do it then a partner should be able to also.

It could be that you're not relaxed enough as some posters have suggested, or that your partner is crap. Have you tried oral sex?

My lady orgasms 99.999% of the time when we have sex. Whether it's oral or dry humping, or penetration or other publically unmentionable acts between two consenting adults :P

Wurly

Orgasm giver wrote: »

dry humping:P

Hmm, nice!:pac:

Off topic I know, sorry. Couldn't resist.;)

John Mason

i wouldnt worry about it.

you just need to be relaxed and comfortable with your partner and be able to him exactly what to do.

Personally, alcohol, drugs and hangovers completely write the big O off for me

MJOR

It all takes time... This might sound crude(sorry) but it doesn't matter what is making you come as long as you are. I bet as soon as you stop fretting about it it will happen....A lot of it has to do with being comfortable in being able to pleasure yourself so you can show the other half what you like

LegacyUser

Well If it makes you feel any better, I'm the same,.... It is certainly not unusual for woman not to come during sex. Also if I have any alcohol in my system, that never ever helps.

Its all about 'practice making perfect'!! So I try to practice as often as possible!!! ;-) :-)

mahamageehad

pinkpants wrote: »

Well If it makes you feel any better, I'm the same,.... It is certainly not unusual for woman not to come during sex. Also if I have any alcohol in my system, that never ever helps.

Its all about 'practice making perfect'!! So I try to practice as often as possible!!! ;-) :-)

Tru tru me 2!! Neva wiv a partner but i can do it only my own!! But dats not 2 say i dont enjoy trying!!