What to do now...

Friendlyfred

Hi.

I rang a girl I've liked for quite a while recently, to ask her out on a casual date. She agreed, but also in doing so explained that the next several weeks we're very busy for her with exams/holidays/baby sitting.

She mentioned she'd be more free at the end of June, so this is grand.

Now it's near the end of June... If I'm going to ring her back about it, how should I approach it?

Also do you think she was giving me these excuses to put me off? If so, she was *definatly* not being clear as she said yes sure several times during the conversation.

I've been working up the courage to ring her again, not as hard as the first time mind you but it'll still be nerve wrecking for me (we've all been there).


Any advice would be appreciated.

Karen_*

Well if I was mad about someone and they asked me out then I'd make myself available and wild horses (or exams and babysitting) wouldn't deter me.

That said, attraction and feelings can grow so although she might not feel anything for you yet, if you don't ring her or ask her out then she never will. So go for it. What have you got to lose?

fonpokno

this happened to me before! i was dead interested but was genuinely busy all the time so just said it to him straight out that i was super busy and we'd do somethin in a while. worked out grand! tbh i'd be more worried if you were asking her regularly and she was comin up with excuses all the time

meglome

No harm is asking again, just keep it light. But if she puts you off the same way again leave it at that.

ShoulderChip

now
let it work
mischief;
thou art afoot
take thou what course thou wilt

or something like that.

Friendlyfred

I am going to be as casual as possible about it.. but I need to be 110% it's a definate no.

Is there a good way, perhaps saying "what would suit you?" or something like that? At least from that response it would be pretty clear.

God, I wish that if it is a no she would have just told me in the first place not to 'string me along' as such.

I casually asked her out once a long time ago, but I didn't do it very well and made the time very specific and on short notice so it was probably a bad idea that time.

Anyway, need to be sure to be sure.

tbh

Fred - as Nike say, just do it. Ring her now and get it over with. You're putting yourself through the horrors when it's most likely she'll just say yes.

RedXIV

Friendlyfred wrote: »

I am going to be as casual as possible about it.. but I need to be 110% it's a definate no.

Is there a good way, perhaps saying "what would suit you?" or something like that? At least from that response it would be pretty clear.

This is not the approach i'd use to find out if she's interested or not.
Plan something, not over the top in case we find out she was stringing you along. Have the whole lot sorted. and then tell her with a few days notice.

can be something as simple as going to see a show, comedy club with drinks after, anything to show that you've 1) got initative and 2) interested in her

MJOR

yeah.. just call her ask her, if she says anything about other plans just say "cool no problem, sure you have my number give me a bell when you're free"