Is it acceptable?

jamespey

Regular boards poster going unregd

Okay,so this is an issue ive been having for quite some time now
i live at home with my family as I dont have enough money to move out,I had a room for myself until my brother started sharing with me.I'm 19 and he is 21.Long story short he has invaded my personal space i'm becoming more furious by the day having to put up with him.

Basically he has moved in here with his girlfriend,messes up everything,constantly,and it is driving me mental,and he thinks it alrite for them to have sex literally beside me.(I have woken up numerous occasions only in catch them in the act)and i cant say anything to him as it would result in a fight/hatred,he has enoigh to move out easily,surely this isnt acceptable behavior from a brother?

suggestions on how to put it to him

Wurly

Can you not talk to your parents about this?

This is not on at all.

LegacyUser

tell him to get quit... thats a joke like... Just say it 2 parents or something

estar

there are a number of ways to handle the
immediate problem of solving the having se% issue
which by the way is wrong on so many levels,
he is your brother, so you dont really want to see him
having se%, its disrespectful to the gfriend - how does
she justify putting on a show for someone else?
gross, and its just so un mannerly to cause such
discomfort.

it already is causing hatred by you not saying it - your hatred

firstly i would say to your brother - look i cant
stand the free show any more. i wake up,
its gross. dont do it.

and if he persists

personally i would wait until they are doing it, and
say loudly - sorry would you mind
not keeping me awake tonight. and if they persist
turn on the lights as you leave the room.
and do that every time. its harsh but it is dis couraging
and if they have the balls to do it, they should
be able for further embarrassment.

your parents, should side with you on that front.

your brother is a bit of an insensitive lout to
do that. he needs to be reminded we all have rights
to privacy and that includes not having others intimate
details shoved in our faces when we don;t have a choice.

everyone hears something they shouldnt every now and
again in a house, whether next door or in the next room
and personally i just put in ear plugs.

but in the same room

not on my watch.

due to the fact you also live at home, you cannot complain
that he is allowed live at home too.

you could sleep on a sofa when the gfriend is around. but i really feel
that perhaps they should find an alternate venue. or at least
he could warn you or ask you to sleep on the sofa in return for
a favour.

Wurly

estar wrote: »

you could sleep on a sofa when the gfriend is around. but i really feel
that perhaps they should find an alternate venue. or at least
he could warn you or ask you to sleep on the sofa in return for
a favour.

I personally don't think he should he have to sleep on the sofa to facilitate their sex lives.

I think they should find an alternative venue, as you've said.

tbh

next time it happens, roar out "Jaysus would you ever stop shagging, I can't sleep here"

the louder you shout, the less chance it'll happen again

MIN2511

Tri wrote: »

Can you not talk to your parents about this?

This is not on at all.

I think you should talk to your brother...

No point reporting to the folks, should understand and if he doesn't then excalate to the parents

Wurly

MIN2511 wrote: »

I think you should talk to your brother...

No point reporting to the folks, should understand and if he doesn't then excalate to the parents

Yeah, true but the OP was saying that it could get ugly with the bro and they'd argue.

I'd personally save myself the hassle therefore and say it to my parents.

But OP, if you can possibly talk it out calmly with your bro first, then do that. The impression that I got from your post is that you feel that wouldn't work.

meglome

I'd say cheering and shouting 'do it for the family' should sort it out. Or maybe when you're talking to his girlfriend tell her when you were watching them at it you thought it was only about a 5 outta 10. And if this was After Hours I would suggest you sit staring at them pretending to masturbate but it isn't so I won't

MagicMarker

jamespey wrote: »

Regular boards poster going unregd

Okay,so this is an issue ive been having for quite some time now
i live at home with my family as I dont have enough money to move out,I had a room for myself until my brother started sharing with me.I'm 19 and he is 21.Long story short he has invaded my personal space i'm becoming more furious by the day having to put up with him.

Basically he has moved in here with his girlfriend,messes up everything,constantly,and it is driving me mental,and he thinks it alrite for them to have sex literally beside me.(I have woken up numerous occasions only in catch them in the act)and i cant say anything to him as it would result in a fight/hatred,he has enoigh to move out easily,surely this isnt acceptable behavior from a brother?

suggestions on how to put it to him

If you're not saying anything to your brother about the sex, then he probably thinks you haven't noticed. So why would he stop?

Next time tell them to STFU! The girlfriend alone would most likely be mortified and never do it again.

Either that. or next time they're in the room, start having a ****. When they protest, point out their hypocrisy.

MIN2511

Tri wrote: »

Yeah, true but the OP was saying that it could get ugly with the bro and they'd argue.

I'd personally save myself the hassle therefore and say it to my parents.

But OP, if you can possibly talk it out calmly with your bro first, then do that. The impression that I got from your post is that you feel that wouldn't work.

Which would be worse?

1. Telling the parents that his brother is having sex in the same room while he is sleeping. Btw under their roof?:eek:
2. Man up, talk to his brother and if it gets nasty then tell the parents?

If i was a guy and OP i would be #2 but that's just my 2c

Sephiroth_dude

No thats not acceptable,haul his ass out the door :-0.

Rb

Talk to him about it and ask him would he please not do it whilst you're in the room.

If he refuses, set about embarrassing him and his girlfriend while they're at it or take pictures and threaten to put them up on Bebo etc etc.

MJOR

As a woman I don't know how his girlfriend can have so little respect for herself or their privacy. It beggars belief. Say it to both of them. If no improvemant say it to your parents.

All the people sugguesting ****!ng .... Come On its his brother!! Yuck

Anti

Your brother sounds like a right prick. Id keep a bucket of water beside the bed and when they go at it throw it over them. And seriously. Talk to yoru parents.

John Mason

tbh wrote: »

next time it happens, roar out "Jaysus would you ever stop shagging, I can't sleep here"

the louder you shout, the less chance it'll happen again

or else shout " hey, can i join in"

light123

Ok this might be a bit much for some but ....

Get a loan of a crappy cheap camera that has a flash, film is optional.

Wait until they are at it again and take a few pictures or maybe just one
flash should to knock them out of their desire.

Could you do it??? Here's another one; get one of those blow up dolls
and get going yourself to match them and get louder and louder, you know,
"Yes, Yes, etc, etc,!!!" They might change their mind doing it when you
want to have your own fun at the same time for some strange reason.

And he wouldn't be able to complain, why, they were doing it too!!!

:_)))

Just thinking outside the box.

jamespey

yeah everyone,thanks for all your reply's! mhh i'm thinking it over now and i'm gonna tell them straight out 2day,no beating round the bush,that way they the shock of me going mental at them might keep the girlfirend away altogether!(im goin to argue in front of my parents,they'll back me up 100%)

the brother knows's its prob coming so it wont turn into a full blown fight hopefully!wish me luck!:(

Cheers

Gina Brel

Get a baby alarm and set it up between your parents room and yours,also some sort of flea to keep your brother and girlfriend company.He sounds like a right prick

do you love it?

thats majorly bad of your bro. defo talk to him and tell him next time he does it that your waking your parents up and showing them the situation. nothing will sting him more than his parents seeing him mid ride.
or else tape it one night and blackmail him

cowzerp

do you love it? wrote: »

thats majorly bad of your bro. defo talk to him and tell him next time he does it that your waking your parents up and showing them the situation. nothing will sting him more than his parents seeing him mid ride.
or else tape it one night and blackmail him

Do you think the brother and girl become deaf and blind when there at it?
they'd just stop and pretend to be asleep!
like as if they'd keep shagging, worst idea ever!

I'd pretend to peddle and crank every time they start!
or would i pretend!!!

lolli

Wow thats totally unacceptable!!

They really need to get their own place! I would say it to them first and if it continues tell your parents about it.

No way in hell would I put up with that, it would make me sick listening to that eww!! Who wants to hear one of their siblings shagging. *shudder*

dade

irishbird wrote: »

or else shout " hey, can i join in"

exactly what i was thinking.