Confused about long distance ladyfriend.

LegacyUser

A few months ago I happened to meet a girl online, we're both mid twenties. She lives in Canada and I'm here in Ireland. Things started ok but slowly and surely we started racking up the hours on msn and texting and the occassional phone call too. I can honestly say I've never met anyone so pefect for me in my entire life. The fun and meaningful conversations we used to have were off the scale. We had absolutely everything in common from the big to the small things and to top it off she was crazy intelligent with the looks of a playboy bunny.. too good to be true I thought to myself.

But there was a catch, every now and then she'd throw a complete wobbler and fly off the handle at me for something completely innocent. And I was put into a situation whereby I had done nothing wrong but she made me feel like sh*te for it and would get upset herself.

So I've established that we were amazingly good for eachother but she has this odd way of showing it sometimes. We've had about two big fights but they both blew over. However last weekend we had a massive bustup via phone/text/msn. And now she has completely deleted and blocked me from her life. I just don't know how to feel about the whole thing. Everything was perfect for like 5 months then one big fight over a completely innocent misunderstanding but she was too stubborn to hear me out and didn't once explain what the problem was. I mean is she just a psycho or what?

I feel so confused now, like I screwed up what was potentially the best thing to ever happen to me. Why would she completely get rid of me like that if by her own admission she loved me?

I just don't know how to feel.... I think when the anger/confusion subsides I'm going to be fairly down about the whole thing.

Sorry for length, not expcting many replies.. just needed a rant really.

Beruthiel

canadia08 wrote: »

But there was a catch, every now and then she'd throw a complete wobbler and fly off the handle at me for something completely innocent. And I was put into a situation whereby I had done nothing wrong but she made me feel like sh*te for it and would get upset herself.

We've had about two big fights but they both blew over. However last weekend we had a massive bustup via phone/text/msn. And now she has completely deleted and blocked me from her life

Everything was perfect for like 5 months then one big fight over a completely innocent misunderstanding but she was too stubborn to hear me out and didn't once explain what the problem was. I mean is she just a psycho or what?

Those three comments scream bunny boiler at me.
Excuse my innocence, but exactly how do you have big fights with someone you have never met and just talk to online?
I would have thought that takes a special kind of effort.
Lucky escape for you me thinks.

chump

Beruthiel wrote: »

Those three comments scream bunny boiler at me.
Excuse my innocence, but exactly how do you have big fights with someone you have never met and just talk to online?
I would have thought that takes a special kind of effort.
Lucky escape for you me thinks.

Agreed

also, OP says

honestly say I've never met anyone so pefect for me in my entire life

Have ya met her then?

Just because you can have a 'meaningful' conversation online and get on grand doesn't mean ya should be together. There's a lot more to a relationship.

Get on with it

Wibbs

Beruthiel wrote: »

Those three comments scream bunny boiler at me.
Excuse my innocence, but exactly how do you have big fights with someone you have never met and just talk to online?
I would have thought that takes a special kind of effort.
Lucky escape for you me thinks.

Nail on the head. My spidey sense would be off the scale on this one.

Online relationships are all very well and they can confuse many into thinking there's more of a connection than there really is. I reckon it's because of the romance of it and the fact that you're not dealling with each other in the real world is a big draw, especially for socially shy people. Funny enough, the fact that you are actually listening to each other is also a big draw. The amount of ordinary couples I've known that don't, but think they do is quite scary. People tend to be on their best behaviour online in romantic situations.

You dodged a bullet there IMHO. Now go out and find online and in the real world someone that is actually perfect for you and practical to pursue. Emotional loonies you do not need. Trust me on that one.

King of Kings

Beruthiel wrote: »

but exactly how do you have big fights with someone you have never met and just talk to online?
I would have thought that takes a special kind of effort.
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+ 1
i#'d love to know the answer to this one.
she screams weirdo to me.

MJOR

Listen, run and keep running she sounds like a total loon!! You can't have fights over nothing.... It doesn't make sense.