It shouldnt matter caus i love her...BUT

LegacyUser

Decided to go unreg for this one (for obvious reasons) anyway ................

heres the scoop.

been with my girlfriend now for nearly 2 years were both 19.
i love her to bits but lately its not the same for me ,during the first year i was like OMG i cant get you out of my head/ no i love you more, and all that.
Dont get me wrong now i could not imagine my life with out her , were together 6 days a week 6 hours a day at the minimum! But lately when i'm out with just the lads clubbing ive started to notice other girls checking me out flirting ect. now i would never cheat, BUT i find my self thinking what if i had got with those other ladies what if i was still single, sometimes i get the feeling im missing out on single life. I was only ever with 2 women before my present girlfriend and mabey because of that i sometimes feel im missing out on the single carefree get with whoever college life.

i dont really know what im looking for people to tell me , mostly i just needed to get it off my chest.

biko

It's normal at your age to be thinking "what if" in my opinion. Maybe your gf thinks the same?
You know what you have but not what's in store and need to decide somehow if you want to risk losing her for something new.
Is it likely you will stay together a long time yet?

Cool_CM

Everybody I know who has broken up with a long term girl or boyfriend to see if the grass is greener elsewhere has always regretted it, realised they had made a mistake, tried to get back with the person they had just broken up with and failed. If you really want to throw away 2 year of being with a girl you say you love then do, but don't count on getting back with her afterwards

homerun_homer

I felt the same with my last girlfriend. She was my first serious relationship. I thought the same things - is the grass greener? There were parts of our relationship which I knew should have been better and someone else may fit the bill better but now it is over I can barely bring myself to care much about looking at other girls out. The ex is constantly in mind and I have wanted to get back with her.
All I say is don't ruin a good thing if you have it.

sportswear

Everybody I know who has broken up with a long term girl or boyfriend to see if the grass is greener elsewhere has always regretted it, realised they had made a mistake, tried to get back with the person they had just broken up with and failed. If you really want to throw away 2 year of being with a girl you say you love then do, but don't count on getting back with her afterwards

completely disagree.

i find the single life amazing and whenever i end a relationship i love it.

caesar

Cool_CM wrote: »

......to see if the grass is greener elsewhere has always regretted it, realised they had made a mistake.......

Im no expert but imo the grass is always greener saying is so true in situations like yours, but not always.

The truth is only you can figure this out, but getting it off your chest is a big part of it. Take on board what others say but dont make any rash decisions.

I'm no expert in the area of long term relationships(:o) but I guess they're not easy all the time. The thing you have to remember is that the novelty(or however you want to put it:D) of getting with other girls every time your out will quickly wear off. Now I'm not saying that it isn't fun for a while but there comes a point when its just like....God I need something more. Maybe thats just me though, tbh Im not sure....only 19 myself.

The only question I have about your post is that you said you've been with her 2 years yet you say that the during the first year it was great etc.....eh what changed or more to the point how has the past year gone? I will make a point in saying that you were more than likely just in the honeymoon period of your relationship.


Hope this helps

Overheal

help7777 wrote: »

Decided to go unreg for this one (for obvious reasons) anyway ................

heres the scoop.

been with my girlfriend now for nearly 2 years were both 19.
i love her to bits but lately its not the same for me ,during the first year i was like OMG i cant get you out of my head/ no i love you more, and all that.
Dont get me wrong now i could not imagine my life with out her , were together 6 days a week 6 hours a day at the minimum! But lately when i'm out with just the lads clubbing ive started to notice other girls checking me out flirting ect. now i would never cheat, BUT i find my self thinking what if i had got with those other ladies what if i was still single, sometimes i get the feeling im missing out on single life. I was only ever with 2 women before my present girlfriend and mabey because of that i sometimes feel im missing out on the single carefree get with whoever college life.

i dont really know what im looking for people to tell me , mostly i just needed to get it off my chest.

Girls are turned on by happy confident men. And what is a guy thats in a good loving relationship? Happy... and confident!

Think about it: youve got it good.

Damzilla

All I'll say is be careful what you wish for.

I did go through a phase in my relationship where I thought about being single, and even about other men and guess what? That is exactly where I am now and do I want it? Not at all.:(

Sorry, am not much help really.:o

LegacyUser

some asked about the past year... well that mite be a big part of it. she had to go to the otherside of the country to college i remained here, we stayed together and faithful only seeing each other sat/sun for whole of college year.

MagicMarker

Cool_CM wrote: »

Everybody I know who has broken up with a long term girl or boyfriend to see if the grass is greener elsewhere has always regretted it, realised they had made a mistake, tried to get back with the person they had just broken up with and failed. If you really want to throw away 2 year of being with a girl you say you love then do, but don't count on getting back with her afterwards

Well i'm proof that this is not always the case... I was with a girl from the age of 18-22... Wanted to be single and i am perfectly happy in my life right now as a single 24 year old.

OP: You spend WAAAAAAYYY to much time with your girlfriend, adults need space in a relationship. It's surprising you haven't thought like this sooner considering you're in each others pockets...

Cool_CM

I'm not saying "don't break up with your girlfriend because you'll regret it and single life isn't fun". The OP has turned around and stated

Dont get me wrong now i could not imagine my life with out her

I'm just letting him know that based on the experiences of friends, if he does break up with her to score with other people and if he does regret it, that he shouldn't expect to be able to get back with her anytime soon. If he does love her like he also states, that is something to take into consideration.

Overheal

it might just be cabin fever too. Isnt there anything either of you likes to do that the other doesnt, just to get away from eachother for a little but more? talk with her about it, explain youre getting stir crazy and need to go take up a new hobby or something.

Kazobel

No one can advise you what to do OP, on one can say do or don't be with someone else because that has to be a decision you come to yourself, anyone who advices a definite like that you should ignore because the ultimate outcome of your actions will be selfish and you'll regret it. There's nothing wrong with being flattered that people notice you, we all need that confidence boost every now and again but don't mistake fluttering eyelashes with a promise of commitment, we can delude ourselves at times that "if I was with him/her life would be perfect" but try to remember women go on the hunt for one nighters too and getting her once doesn't mean being with her for good so don't make the assumption you'll find something better but you might already have and soon lose that one thing you're looking for. There's 2 things to remember here 1. The grass is not always greener on the other side and 2. if you really want to know how much you love your girlfriend and wether it's worth it then read what you first posted and imagine it was her that posted it.

This forum is full of people like you that sadly don't see what they have and risk it all for a one nighter, be that person if you want but just realise that she'll move on too and in a years time could be totally happy with someone else and you'll mean nothing anymore, is that something you can live with?

auerillo

The most amazing thing about the answers so far in this thread is the level of confidence with poeple tell you what to do! Only you know what you should do and don't listen to others who really don't know your situation from a few lines in an anonymous message board and then feel confident to give you advice based on it.

RedXIV

Things that people seem to forget to take into account before they decide the single life is for them include:

1) you are NOT guaranteed to pull everytime you go out, unless you're lucky/good it won't happen near as much as you think

2) You will not get back with this girl if you decide to break up just because you want to be single. Trust me.

3) If you're used to texting and calling someone all the time, you will feel a void. Especially striking when you said you spent 6 days a week with this girl.

If you can deal with all these in your own mind, then maybe yes, the single life is for you, if not, think long and hard about what your giving up.

All the best

Red

RealEstateKing

the average Irish single male gets laid 0.6 times a year.

It's not as free and swingin' out there as you think.

LegacyUser

some of those messages have put my mind at rest.....

true the grass always looks greener on the other side...Sure i could get with some one nighter girl or whetever .....But y would i **** up something that a lot a guys would probly kill to have. i.e. a loving, good looking girlfriend with similar interests, that would never cheat on/lie to her B.F.

I think my issue is im just starting to take for granted how good i got it.

molloyjh

help7777 wrote: »

Decided to go unreg for this one (for obvious reasons) anyway ................

heres the scoop.

been with my girlfriend now for nearly 2 years were both 19.
i love her to bits but lately its not the same for me ,during the first year i was like OMG i cant get you out of my head/ no i love you more, and all that.
Dont get me wrong now i could not imagine my life with out her , were together 6 days a week 6 hours a day at the minimum! But lately when i'm out with just the lads clubbing ive started to notice other girls checking me out flirting ect. now i would never cheat, BUT i find my self thinking what if i had got with those other ladies what if i was still single, sometimes i get the feeling im missing out on single life. I was only ever with 2 women before my present girlfriend and mabey because of that i sometimes feel im missing out on the single carefree get with whoever college life.

i dont really know what im looking for people to tell me , mostly i just needed to get it off my chest.

I'm sure I speak for most blokes (and possibly most people in general) when I say we've all been there. Its completely normal and natural even when you're in a stable and happy relationship. However you have to remember that you are in a good relationship. Don't mess it up. At the same time don't feel bad for checking girls out or for being a bit happy out when you notice a girl flirting with you or checking you out. All these things are normal and you can enjoy them, just as long as you remember where the line is.

I understand your guilt and confusion but just think of it this way, you haven't actually done anything wrong. You've noticed hot women and had a few flirt with you, but when push came to shove you did nothing about it. Its normal to take things for granted a bit after a while too and to romanticise what single life was like. But I remember single life, and it wasn't really all that great for the most part. Not by comparison to the relationship I'm in now anyway. Sure there are pros and cons to both but overall the single life pales in comparison.

Gross Halfwit

You're a bloke & as such wanna hump everything in a skirt. It's natural, its genetics.

You need to weigh up getting your willy wet against what you have with your girlfriend.

Maybe some changes needto be made in your relationship to put the spark back in you know. You're seeing eachother 6 days a week! That's gotta get old, I don't care how much you are in love.

Anyway, Good luck.

Overheal

RealEstateKing wrote: »

the average Irish single male gets laid 0.6 times a year.

wow....