Getting 2gether again?

LegacyUser

Quick story.

I went out w/ a girl a while back...we live, a fair distance from each other (say just about an hour), and we broke up cuz it was gettin difficult w/ college and work nd Hobbies gettin in d way tryin to see each other.... and cuz of this it never got very far anyways.

Anywhoo, I now increasingly realise I like her more than I thought I did, shes really nice, good lookin, intellegent, nd more. Im not great around girls now, tryin to meet new people isnt easy for me, as with many people.

Anywho, we've met up once or twice recently , hangin out like, it was nice. I wouldn't really wanna have gone out w/ her, then for it to end mutually nd nicely, nd then ignore her her anything.... but I now kinda feel like I'd rather not just have her be a friend!

Theres still many reasons why it wouldnt work, like distance, college nd work nd everything... but what do you people think? Im not "in love" with her by any means, and im not lookin for a relationship where I think im gonna marry her, but bein w/ her just feels nice, nd it felt better when it felt like there was a some form of "expected" future (no matter how long / short it might have been compared to a lasting relationship)

Ha! Quick story my eye! but anyways, i would like a few peoples in put here.. ask her out some time again? would it be wrong?

my final thing is - I know it seems like it shouldnt be done.. I kinda do believe it shouldnt be too!! But, id still wanna try!

RedXIV

I'd ask do you honestly think it'd work again?

It seems like that after she was no longer an intimate part of your life, you wanted her back in it. Yet while she was there you weren't willing to put in all the effort to make it work. The only thing that's changed here is your opinion now that you've hung around a few times.

Being brutally honest, i'd be very wary about asking her out again because it does seem like you are unsure of what you want. I could be wrong, i don't know the full story but this is what i see from your post.

All the best

Red

MagicMarker

First off all, it was really annoying reading your post with all the 'nd'.. it's AND! I almost didn't finish reading it.

All i'd say is, if you can't really work through an hour commute then there really was nothing there in the first place, college work and 'hobbies' are really just excuses and not very plausible ones at that.

You say you aren't really good with girls, and this girl is attractive, intelligent etc. I'd say you only think you need her out of convenience. That and you want what you can't have, it's human nature don't you know?

McGinty

First off all, it was really annoying reading your post with all the 'nd'.. it's AND! I almost didn't finish reading it.

All i'd say is, if you can't really work through an hour commute then there really was nothing there in the first place, college work and 'hobbies' are really just excuses and not very plausible ones at that.

You say you aren't really good with girls, and this girl is attractive, intelligent etc. I'd say you only think you need her out of convenience. That and you want what you can't have, it's human nature don't you know?

+ I

Your feelings for this girl sound very lukewarm from your post, I wouldn't bother if I were you, I am in a longish distance with a lovely man and he makes sure we have time together as I make sure I have time with him. However, if you are feigning a cool attitude on this thread and really like this girl (and you know this) then make time for the relationship, it may mean shuffling or dropping the odd hobby.

MJOR

Don't bother...... judging by the post I don't really think there is anything to go back to if when you were seeing each other you couldn't be ar$ed to manage a one hour commute.

I am a romantic at heart and think that distance shouldn't cause the end of a relationship..... My boyf lives in Dublin and I live in the real capital(lol) and we still manage lots of time together and talk every day on the phone!!

LegacyUser

yeh, sorry bout the nds... didnt realise I put em in... and the 2gether in the title. woops

I just wanna say... I know it seems like my feelings arent strong..... but its because im not crazily addicted to her...... when we were together it was difficult to get time together, especially as we got together at a "busy" time colege and work wise like. (Which arent fictional excuses!) Its summer now though..... I just thought, if we got together more.. and if it felt right, it would work.

I would gladly travel as long / as far as I needed to like.... just.. I dont know if she'd want to commit to it. College is really important to her, and she travels there, again, about an hour.

And there was something written there about hman needs or something.... yeh, thats what this is..... I do want to be in a relationship, with someone like her....but... not just someone LIKE her at the same time.

skooterblue

ok here are my two cents: If I really wanted to be with a girl I would move heaven and earth to make it work. Nothing is impossible except what is never meant to be.

If it didnt work the first time then its not going to work the second time.

estar

And there was something written there about hman needs or something.... yeh, thats what this is..... I do want to be in a relationship, with someone like her....but... not just someone LIKE her at the same time.[/QUOTE]

you have answered your own question

you would be just using her if you went out again.

she deserves to be with someone who isnt so lukewarm about her

Wibbs

What others have said. She feels like the safe option for you at the moment as you've no one else on the horizon. You don't have the major gra for her either. Not so good.

Better to be single than in a relationship because you need to be in a relationship. A good relationship is two people wanting to be in it. Not someone not wanting to be alone. baaaad plan.

jellie

what would be different about this time?

been there, got back together, its really not nice getting your heart broken by the same person TWICE.

dont mess with this girl, its not fair.

Sephiroth_dude

It may not work out,getting back together again with an ex is never easy,but sure it mite work out for you,best of luck anyway.