Not Sure what to do =/

LegacyUser

Right, well theres this girl who i like, she likes me but shes on the other side of the country, 3hours away from me. We met about 2 years ago, just talked since, met up one day and kissed and it was all lovely.

Then i went home and it just wasn't the same, i mean i still like her, but im not sure i can do the whole, Long Distance thing. and if im Honnest, i have kissed 2 people while we where "going out" she says shes by Girlfriend, but its not really.

on a lucky month, we'd see eachother twice at max just for a few hours, both of us are always busy and its hard to "make time"

Now, i love talking to her, i love being around her, i like her - i just can't do the long distance thing, i want someone i can see in the morning, and kiss goodbye at night, to go out with to pubs, clubs etc.

Should i tell her all this, and move on, or see how it goes, mabey it will work out? there is a slim possibilty that she'd be moving up here next year, but it would soley be because of me, i dont want her to be stuck up here if we dont work out.

i have no idea what to do, if i end it, theres always going to be that "what if" thing in my head, but i dont want to tag her along.

akamossy

If you don't think you can be with her, then do not lead her on. The longer this goes on the harder it will be for her and the harder it will be for you to finish it. You need to tell her how you feel, maybe ye could sort something out but if you are not that into her enough to do the long distance then don't let her move up by you just for you.

I know there'll always be the what if, but it's a chance you'll have to take if your not willing to try and make it work. Your priority should be try not to hurt her, make it clear to her what you want so that you are not stringing her along.

Pen1987

you've answered your own question. (even though you didnt ask one)... you've got to do one or the other, love her, or leave her.

akamossy

Pen1987 wrote: »

you've answered your own question. (even though you didnt ask one)... you've got to do one or the other, love her, or leave her.

I agree, leading her on is a big no no. So if you don't think you can commit, then don't be with her at all.

Overheal

The long distance can really be tough especially when all you want is to see the person but there are plenty of options. Youd be amazed at some of the stupid crap I hae found on the internet. For starters you have your obvious Skype application for making really cheap calls (free between skype users, 2c per minute to any landline worldwide, 20c.min to any cellphone worldwide) and it supports webcam funnctions.

For the total geek, we also have The Ultimate Hug Shirt. Pair this up to your phone via bluetooth and you can send eachother hugs like text messages

Then you have this little guy in case you both wanna go for a stroll together...

Anyway 3 hours in the grand scheme of things really isnt all that much. Its a weekend commute, and cheap if you get a season pass for a train or bus.

FabulousGirl

Have you ever spent longer than a few hours a couple of times a month in her company? Maybe the reason you like her so much is because she's kind of unattainable.
Before she makes the decision of moving to where you are, why don't you try go on a weekend/week holiday alone together? Would that be a possibility? You may find that if you spend more time in company the rose tinted glasses fade and maybe you're not suited as you thought... or you may find you are in fact mad about her and it cements your feelings about each other.
If you think you can make it work then go for it, 3 hours is not that long really and if you end up becoming long term you may move closer to each other.
If you can't see it working out due to the distance thing or any other reason then be straight up with the girl. Honesty is the best policy.