In need of advice

LegacyUser

I finished a PLC course and am hopefully going to college in September. I find when I have time on my hands I get somewhat depressed, thats what boredom does. So I left my part-time weekend job, and got a job in a supermarket. I don't like it, perhaps I shouldn't be so fussy. I don't like it because it's not full time, which I wanted. I just don't feel that I fit in, and I don't get on with the boss. I was informed last night that I'd be working this morning, which was one, short notice, and two I had other plans, which I couldn't cancel because I'd let down a whole load of people. I made the mistake of showing that I was somewhat unsatisfied with being in today for a nine hour shift.

So I rang in today sick, the boss was not at all happy and that was that. My plan is to hand in my notice (This will be my third week in the new job) and find something else. My parents will hit the roof probably. But the fact is that I need to save money for college and this won't happen with my new job, as it's very limited hours. I'm moreso getting this off my chest than anything else, and wondering how do I handle leaving tomorrow, do I say I have a better job offer? Will I get to leave straight away? Am I being too fussy? Feel pretty ashamed to be honest, and the burden of paying for college will be on my parents shoulders...

Thanks for reading.

akamossy

Just say your handing in your notice, although i'm not too sure that you'd have to work notice for only 3 weeks. You don't have to explain and don't let them pressure you too. If you are not happy there, then you have every right to leave. But in saying that as you say you get depressed when having nothing to do, would you not be better off keeping this job until you find something better??

I know how you feel when you get bored, i'm a student too and currently have no work for the summer and im going mad but you just have to find things to keep you busy. And seen as you do have a job you could just get on with it until you find something better. I worked in a job for a year that i hated but i hung on just for something to do.

As for your parents, well what you do is none of their business, if you say you weren't happy they should support you.

FabulousGirl

If you want to quit then do it. No job or amount of money is worth making you miserable. I worked in a bank for 6 months although I hated everything about it. I gave a week's notice and was absolutely delighted when I left, it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.
You don't need to give your current employer any reason as to why you're leaving, that's none of their business but if you wanted to you could say that you're really looking for full time work as part time doesn't suit. If you were happy to stay in the company they may offer you full time work. You never know.
Have you tried looking on sites like nixers.ie? You might find something more suited to you there. Good luck.

LegacyUser

FabulousGirl wrote: »

If you want to quit then do it. No job or amount of money is worth making you miserable. I worked in a bank for 6 months although I hated everything about it. I gave a week's notice and was absolutely delighted when I left, it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.
There are plenty of jobs out there, have you tried looking on sites like nixers.ie? You might find something more suited to you there. Good luck.

Thanks both of you, any more replies welcome.
Thats all it is actually, a weight on my shoulders. I want out.
Thanks again.

akamossy

If you want out that badly, then get out!! Go in tomorrow and say after today i won't be coming back, and you do not have to give a reason. No point being miserable in a job. I did it for a year before i decided enough is enough and packed it in. I know how stressful it can be.

LegacyUser

akamossy wrote: »

If you want out that badly, then get out!! Go in tomorrow and say after today i won't be coming back, and you do not have to give a reason. No point being miserable in a job. I did it for a year before i decided enough is enough and packed it in. I know how stressful it can be.

Would I get an unnecessary bad reputation? I had planned to let on I had another job, and that I could start any time but as soon as possible. Should I go in, and just say Im gone, deal with it?

akamossy

Well i wouldn't put it quite like that :pac: but they really have no business asking you why you are leaving you, but if you want to say you have another job go for it!! whatever makes it easier for yourself i wouldn't say you'd get a bad reputation unless you were looking from a reference from them?? in my job that i walked out of i basically told them i was leaving, deal with it but i wasn't looking for a reference from them! Didn't think i'd get one anyway, didn't see eye to eye with most of the managers

LegacyUser

akamossy wrote: »

Well i wouldn't put it quite like that :pac: but they really have no business asking you why you are leaving you, but if you want to say you have another job go for it!! whatever makes it easier for yourself i wouldn't say you'd get a bad reputation unless you were looking from a reference from them?? in my job that i walked out of i basically told them i was leaving, deal with it but i wasn't looking for a reference from them! Didn't think i'd get one anyway, didn't see eye to eye with most of the managers

Thanks so much, inspirational

AngryBadger

I have to say I disagree with the other responses.

Well done on completing the PLC course, but what's with quitting what is essentially a summer job? If you have somethign else lined up, or you've been promised something by someone well then fair enough i guess. But your post doesn't indicate (to me at least) someone who's suffering depression ro some other condition that m akes it impossible for them to function in a professional capacity.

You're at third level, that means you need to star at least trying to act like an adult. In my view you should have found another job before deciding to quit your first. Saying you're worried about yoru parents hitting the roof but you think it's ok to walk away from a job because you need to save money is BS when you don't have a job to walk into.

In ym view you should have found another job before you quit the one you have. A lot people in college wind up working jobs they hate, or jobs which make them feel an inch high. It's part of growing up, you stick it out, at elast until you get soemthign better because in the longer term you know it'll stand to you.

Sorry if this causes offence OP, but if you get "depressed" when you have free time, then find a hobby, read a book, don't quit the only job you have at a time when you claim to be trying to save money for college.

RedXIV

I'm torn between both sides of this argument, i'd fully agree with the girls that if the job sucks you should try and get out of it but AngryBadger has some very important points there. I've had two jobs for most of my time in college and i'd hardly say i enjoy them. But they were necessary to pay for college. i know i'll have a job someday i really love but until i'm guaranteed to get it, bills have to be paid. and i will do crappy jobs to pay for them. Have done in the past, will do in the future. Believe me, a supermarket job pays well, i know, and it's very handy for college because they are usually flexiable enough with their hours for college. Unless you have a back up plan, i'd think again about quitting. look in the work and jobs forum and see how many people are looking for ANY job to see what kind of competition you have

akamossy

I understand whats being said here but i still reckoon if your unhappy why put yourself through it.

RedXIV

akamossy wrote: »

I understand whats being said here but i still reckoon if your unhappy why put yourself through it.

Probably coz i'd be more unhappy if i was broke

akamossy

RedXIV wrote: »

Probably coz i'd be more unhappy if i was broke

True true, but im currently broke, and perfectly happy ya just gotta find things to do that don't involve splashing the cash

aye

did you tell your boss you had other plans, and that you werent meant to be working.

your working in a felxiblie part time job, you must realise that that sometimes means you will get called in on short notice.

its a summer job, i dont see the issue. stick it out if you need money for college.
i stuck out plenty of job i didnt like in the summer when i was in college.

you're not going to always get on with your colleague/employers and you need to learn to be able to handle the situation without it resulting in you being unemployed and a bad mark on our cv.

akamossy

aye wrote: »

did you tell your boss you had other plans, and that you werent meant to be working.

your working in a felxiblie part time job, you must realise that that sometimes means you will get called in on short notice.

its a summer job, i dont see the issue. stick it out if you need money for college.
i stuck out plenty of job i didnt like in the summer when i was in college.

you're not going to always get on with your colleague/employers and you need to learn to be able to handle the situation without it resulting in you being unemployed and a bad mark on our cv.

It won't be a bad mark on your cv. You don't have to include every job you work in on your cv. And everybodys different, some people can handle the pressure of being in a job they hate, others can't. Point is the OP should do what she feels is right for her, she shouldn't stick it just because other people said they stick jobs that they hate.

RedXIV

akamossy wrote: »

It won't be a bad mark on your cv. You don't have to include every job you work in on your cv. And everybodys different, some people can handle the pressure of being in a job they hate, others can't. Point is the OP should do what she feels is right for her, she shouldn't stick it just because other people said they stick jobs that they hate.

*shrug* if you want to eat, pay rent, buy clothes, you need money. And anyone that reckons you can just keep drifting till you find a job you really like is in for a shock at some stage in life. It was only a few months for the summer she needed to stick this job. most people would jump at the chance to get a job just for the summer. alot of people can't get em

akamossy

RedXIV wrote: »

*shrug* if you want to eat, pay rent, buy clothes, you need money. And anyone that reckons you can just keep drifting till you find a job you really like is in for a shock at some stage in life. It was only a few months for the summer she needed to stick this job. most people would jump at the chance to get a job just for the summer. alot of people can't get em

Yup and i'm one of them, i'm not unhappy though. I'm looking for one but.. i'm not going to be miserable while doing it. Ah i think out of all the jobs i have had i liked one. And all of them i stayed in for over a year, but i wasn't totally miserable and was able to stick it hence i stayed. But if you are totally miserable would you stay?

LegacyUser

well,
Its seems irresponsible to pack it in just coz its not ideal. Its not a great way to go about things in general, im not in love with my job at all but have responsibilities so i cant just pack it in coz it suits. Keep it til you find what you want - its good practise for life to stick out the things you dont enjoy so much, it will stand to you.

FabulousGirl

I wouldn't deem quitting a job irresponsible. She works in a supermarket, she's not CEO of a global empire. No offence OP.

If even the thought of going into a job you hate is making you feel ill and full of dread then it's not worth it. I had a high stress job in a bank for just 6 months and had to quit when I developed a stomach ulcer at 22. This was all caused by the stress and misery my job caused me. There are more important things in life than a paycheck.

I'm not saying the OP feels this way but I am pointing out that for some people hating a job is a legitimate reason for quitting and is not one bit irresponsible.

LegacyUser

FabulousGirl wrote: »

I wouldn't deem quitting a job irresponsible. She works in a supermarket, she's not CEO of a global empire. No offence OP.

If even the thought of going into a job you hate is making you feel ill and full of dread then it's not worth it. I had a high stress job in a bank for just 6 months and had to quit when I developed a stomach ulcer at 22. This was all caused by the stress and misery my job caused me. There are more important things in life than a paycheck.

I'm not saying the OP feels this way but I am pointing out that for some people hating a job is a legitimate reason for quitting and is not one bit irresponsible.

Thanks again for the reply, you have no idea how comforting it is to get advice.
I quit, I have only 2 days to go. Can't wait, amazing how I'm looking forward to leaving so much. I suffer from depression every now and again, some times are worse than others. I want to try and remove the unhappy things in my life. You spent 50 to 80% of your life working. If you are unhappy in your job then you are unhappy most of your life. So fúck it.
At least I know I won't work in a Supermarket again. I'm now on the hunt for a job.

DenMan

Fabulous words from Fabulous Girl. If you find the job to be stressful then it really is not in your best interests to remain there is it? Only you can judge that for yourself. If you are unhappy then you should leave. Acquire a new skill, further your education and find something that really appeals to you.

Good luck in your search.