Girlfriend problems

LegacyUser

Im having big problems with my girlfriend.
A couple of weeks ago she fell out with my friends and we had a massive arguement over it.
We sorted it out but she has no interest in my friends now,which kind of puts me in a very bad position,she dosnt want to sort it out with my friends. So i cant go out with my friends and bring her,and cant go out with her and meet my friends.
Anyway...... she wanted to meet up with one of her friends last night and asked me if i minded if we didnt see each other,which i didnt mind. So i was in town yesterday with one of my friends and he was going to buy fags so i said id call into her in work just for a quick chat to be nice. Chatted for a few mins and said that i was off,she said are ya not staying any longer? So i stayed for another 5 mins chatting,everything was fine then i left and meet my friend outside.
So i get this phone call a while later from her giving out too me. She was saying " i know we were not going to meet this evening,and you were making excuses to go when ya were chattin to me. The least you could have done was stayed longer,you were too concerned over making your friend wait outside than talking to me" now i generally dont stay too long to chat because its a busy place she works in,and i didnt want to have my friend waiting for too long outside.
She started giving out to me again about leaving so quickly. I couldnt understand it. Then she brought up the fights we had over my friends again, saying why hadn't given out with my friends over it. Im not the type of guy who likes falling out with people over stupid things,espically my best friends.
After this she told me she didnt want to talk to me last night after she finished work and said "go have fun with your friends, ill talk to you tomorow"
And here i am, havnt rang her yet,dont know if i should even bother and wait for her to ring me? We are together 2 years and never used to fight.
Any help

LegacyUser

She is jealous now of your relationship with your friends.
Though you sorted out your previous argument between you, if you are still friends with them she's feeling like she's now in competition with them over you.
She also needs to lighten up.
I'm a girl and I've noticed how girls turn from the sweet and nice into demanding and 'throwing a strop because they don't get their own way people'.
You can't ever resolve that, she needs to learn how to lighten up and let you live , you're not on some kind of leash. Usually, girls only learn this about themselves when the guy dumps them and they finally do some self analysis and tell themselves they won't be like that with the next one.
No easy answer I'm afraid....try to get her to come round to making up with your friends.
For now, the easy peaceful route, tell her you're sorry, you didn't intend for it to appear that way.

Carrigart Exile

Guestgirl wrote: »

She is jealous now of your relationship with your friends.
Though you sorted out your previous argument between you, if you are still friends with them she's feeling like she's now in competition with them over you.
She also needs to lighten up.
I'm a girl and I've noticed how girls turn from the sweet and nice into demanding and 'throwing a strop because they don't get their own way people'.
You can't ever resolve that, she needs to learn how to lighten up and let you live , you're not on some kind of leash. Usually, girls only learn this about themselves when the guy dumps them and they finally do some self analysis and tell themselves they won't be like that with the next one.
No easy answer I'm afraid....try to get her to come round to making up with your friends.
For now, the easy peaceful route, tell her you're sorry, you didn't intend for it to appear that way.

+1 although I wouldn't contact her today.

MagicMarker

She's a complete tool...

I would not contact her for now, and when she finally cops on and calls you, i would tell exactly how much of a fool she's being.

akamossy

She is most definately over reacting. Let her come to her senses and don't apologize for something you did not do wrong. Just because she does not get on with your friends does not mean she can dictate to you about them and about when you see them.

seahorse

Since you say you're together two years and never used to fight it doesn’t sound to me like she is the unreasonable sort. What was the row with the friends about?