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Her Younger Sister is getting married

  • 21-06-2008 11:30am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    My GF's younger sister is getting married after meeting her fiance only 3 years ago. I've been with my GF now for 7 years and we're not even engaged. This is really getting me in a depressed state as I haven't even found my own feet yet. Im unemployed, depressed, life is a drag. At 31 you would think I'd have my **** together by now. All eyes are on me now. I dont know what to do.


Comments

  • #2
    Ainekav
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 342 ✭✭Ainekav


    you dont have to feel pressured because of the sister. everyone does things in their own time, and anyone who tries to make you feel otherwise is not worth listening to.


  • #3
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    I know couples getting engaged after 1 year and married after 2. But rushed imo but hey, if they're happy so am I. Other couples wait a really long time and some never marry.

    What does your gf want to do? Have you and you gf discussed marriage at all?


  • #4
    dudara
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    biko wrote: »
    What does your gf want to do? Have you and you gf discussed marriage at all?

    This is a good question. Have you and your other half had any discussions on getting engaged/married?


  • #5
    Chinafoot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,894 ✭✭✭Chinafoot


    You don't need to compare your situation to anyone else's but you could use this as a kick up the backside to get your shít in order. You're 31, unemployed and depressed. You acknowledge this, so now do something about it.

    Have you spoken to your doctor about how you're feeling? Have you considered counselling? Why are you unemployed? Are you looking for work?

    You've been with your girlfriend for 7 years. Do you want to marry her? Has she expressed an interest in marriage? Has she passed any comment on your situation now that her sister is getting married? Do you live together? Are you both happy in the relationship and don't have any interest in marriage?

    Lots of questions, I know, but perhaps these are questions you need to start asking yourself.

    Don't worry about what everyone else thinks. Focus on yourself and getting your life in order.


  • #6
    Fanny Cradock
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,245 ✭✭✭✭Fanny Cradock


    youngersister wrote: »
    My GF's younger sister is getting married after meeting her fiance only 3 years ago. I've been with my GF now for 7 years and we're not even engaged. This is really getting me in a depressed state as I haven't even found my own feet yet. Im unemployed, depressed, life is a drag. At 31 you would think I'd have my **** together by now. All eyes are on me now. I dont know what to do.

    It would seem that your GF's sister impending marriage isn't the problem. You have identified a number of problems that seem to be the real underlying issues here, and each one feeds off the other. Clearly you are stuck in a rut and it is time to get out of it. Maybe you are depressed because you have no job. Or maybe you have no job because you are depressed. I dunno! But it would seem like now is the time to either seek help from a professional if required or get your **** together by yourself.


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