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Should I tell them?

  • 18-06-2008 11:12pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Couple of months ago I broke up with my partner of four years who I have a child with.
    It was not working for months between us and both decided to call it a day.

    We have both left on good terms and still go out together for drinks, as friends and we are both happy with this.

    My problem is I have not told anyone I work with and I feel embarrassed telling them.
    I work in an office in which everyone is married
    I get the usual 'hows the gf' and 'whens the wedding' etc.

    So I have three options
    1: Just keep lying
    2: Tell them and get the sympathetic looks and people feeling they have to watch what the say around me.
    3: Move to Mexico and change my name.

    Please any advise is much appreciated.


Comments

  • #2
    Chinafoot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,894 ✭✭✭Chinafoot


    Just tell them if they ask. Realtionships break up all the time, you have nothing to be ashamed of. If anything you're in a far better position than most given that you are still friendly.

    You should realise that while this may be talked about initially (in a "oh did you hear about poor X" kind of way) they'll soon move on to someone or something else. There is no point in lying as you'll wreck your own head.


  • #3
    Talliesin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,314 ✭✭✭Talliesin


    4. Tell them when they ask an be the 9,234,104th time they've heard of someone breaking up with their partner, and let it quickly become old news.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    just be blaze about it and tell them you're still friends. Don't let them make an issue of it... they'll take your lead then


  • #5
    RedXIV
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,493 ✭✭✭RedXIV


    agree with the above, you're not the first relationship to end, and you won't be the last. if someone asks, tell the truth, don't go out of your way to announce it


  • #6
    starflake
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 842 ✭✭✭starflake


    imtelinya wrote: »
    Couple of months ago I broke up with my partner of four years who I have a child with.
    It was not working for months between us and both decided to call it a day.

    We have both left on good terms and still go out together for drinks, as friends and we are both happy with this.

    My problem is I have not told anyone I work with and I feel embarrassed telling them.
    I work in an office in which everyone is married
    I get the usual 'hows the gf' and 'whens the wedding' etc.

    So I have three options
    1: Just keep lying
    2: Tell them and get the sympathetic looks and people feeling they have to watch what the say around me.
    3: Move to Mexico and change my name.

    Please any advise is much appreciated.

    Just tell them! They will probably fuss over you for a half hour then it will be old news. Hope everything goes well and keep the chin up :)


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