A much older woman

LegacyUser

So was in the local for a few on Saturday. Most nights I'm in there, there is a mature woman who is with a group of her friends. She's in her late 40's but looks pretty fooking fine. I'm sure she's caught me checking her out one more than one occasion.

So Saturday night was in there with a couple of the lads (i'm 25 btw). Where we were both sitting we could see each other for most of the night and I caught her staring a few times aswell. So as the the Dutch courage built up as I was walking by I gave a hello and got one back. Then she smiled over at me a few times all the while my friend were sitting there utterly gobsmacked as this woman is probably twice my age. At one stage both my friends were either at the bar/smoking so when i caught her eye I kind of nodded for her to come over. She did but we have a little flirty chat but once my friends came back she went back to her friends.

A while later I went to the bar and one of her friends handed me a beer mat with her number on it. So went back to my table and sent her a txt and had a few flirty txts. So towards the end of the night she asked would I walk her home, tbh I was sh**ting it dont ask me why!

So walked her home, took about ten mins (I'm presuming obviously at this stage she lives alone/is single/divorced/husband dead and no kids at home etc) So we get to her door she invites me in for a coffee (I know a massive cliche) Anyway we fool around a bit with some foreplay but dont go the whole hog.

So she txt me yesterday and were gonna meet up on Thursday for a couple of drinks.

Now personally I cant really see this lasting as a relationship, but how do I say that to her? Maybe she just wants a young lad to satisfy her needs? But its already got people talking and I've had a few comments and I don't live in a small country town.
I just hope I dont find out my dad used to go out with her

marti101

Go with the flow and enjoy it it may last or it may not but you have nohing to lose and to people saying stuff tell them to mind their business.

RedXIV

I went home with a 40yr old woman when i was 19, got a heartattack when she showed me her passport to prove her age, i wouldn't have put her a day past 30.

while i had a blast with her, and she was loads of fun, i knew it wasn't going to work. I was at an age where too many things would have gone against both of us, but i still thought she was great.

As you get later on in years, the things that would have stopped me will probably disappear. friends slagging me wouldn't bother me. but thinking long term probably would.

Its up to you OP, you need to decide what you want

Hope this helps

Red

LegacyUser

I say - give it a good pounding !!!

Tragedy

At her age, I'm guessing she's going to be a bit more mature than you and just take things as they come.

Enjoy it if you want

tbh

well op as far as you know she's only out for fun as well, so as long as you don't lie to her, you'll be grand. enjoy!

biko

I agree with Tragedy. She definitely is not looking for a marriage or sumsuch, just some fun with a younger guy. Best of luck.

lolly22

Hey op Im going out with a guy ten years older than me and we also work together so everyone knew when it started and friends from either side did slag for awhile and made few jokes but it soon wore off (besides its your life who cares what anyone else thinks) and four years later were still going strong! Age doesnt matter that much but wether you decide its serious or just a bit of fun id say go for it age engoy the ride:D:D:D

Best of luck

lolly22

Thats "enjoy the ride" by the way
I was never any good at the english language, I have my own!!!

Good luck what ever you choose to do op

Lolly

DublinWriter

Go rent a copy of 'The Graduate'!

To be honest, I don't think either of you see it as becoming a long-term serious thing. Just enjoy it before the psycho (ex) husband comes thundering through the bedroom door.

faceman

Enjoy OP, i remember my first "mature" lady when i was young enough to appreciate it.

Dont be talking long term when you havent done anything short term yet!

Nevyn

pics or it didnt happen does not apply to this forum and will be considered unhelpful posting.

omb0wyn5ehpij9

Just give it a go and see what happens, no harm in it!

DenMan

Tragedy wrote: »

At her age, I'm guessing she's going to be a bit more mature than you and just take things as they come.

Enjoy it if you want

I not sure about that Tragedy. It seems to me the exact opposite. She was giving him the looks in the bar and seemed very keen. Him on the other hands seems to have a dilemma on his hands. I'd say go with the flow for the time being and see what happens. It your call OP. Whats the worst that can happen?

nocal

moulder wrote: »

Now personally I cant really see this lasting as a relationship, but how do I say that to her? Maybe she just wants a young lad to satisfy her needs?

Based on that part of your post I am going to urge some caution here.
Treat her exactly the same as you would treat any other person that you had met in your local. If you do not see it as a lasting relationship then you have to discuss that somehow with her, though obviously in as subtle a manner as you can. I am sure that when you meet her on Thursday you will both get to know each other a little better and I am sure that you will get a clearer idea as to what she wants.

I personally would also take the view "no assumptions and no presumptions". Other than that - never **** on your own doorstep!!!

Beruthiel

moulder wrote: »

Now personally I cant really see this lasting as a relationship, but how do I say that to her?

There's no need to say anything.
I can pretty much guarantee that she only wants to use you for sex
Enjoy it while it lasts!

edjo

Are u meeting this woman tonight OP? Make sure u let us know tomorrow how u get on ok....

rferguson

moulder wrote: »

So was in the local for a few on Saturday. Most nights I'm in there, there is a mature woman who is with a group of her friends. She's in her late 40's but looks pretty fooking fine. I'm sure she's caught me checking her out one more than one occasion.

So Saturday night was in there with a couple of the lads (i'm 25 btw). Where we were both sitting we could see each other for most of the night and I caught her staring a few times aswell. So as the the Dutch courage built up as I was walking by I gave a hello and got one back. Then she smiled over at me a few times all the while my friend were sitting there utterly gobsmacked as this woman is probably twice my age. At one stage both my friends were either at the bar/smoking so when i caught her eye I kind of nodded for her to come over. She did but we have a little flirty chat but once my friends came back she went back to her friends.

A while later I went to the bar and one of her friends handed me a beer mat with her number on it. So went back to my table and sent her a txt and had a few flirty txts. So towards the end of the night she asked would I walk her home, tbh I was sh**ting it dont ask me why!

So walked her home, took about ten mins (I'm presuming obviously at this stage she lives alone/is single/divorced/husband dead and no kids at home etc) So we get to her door she invites me in for a coffee (I know a massive cliche) Anyway we fool around a bit with some foreplay but dont go the whole hog.

So she txt me yesterday and were gonna meet up on Thursday for a couple of drinks.

Now personally I cant really see this lasting as a relationship, but how do I say that to her? Maybe she just wants a young lad to satisfy her needs? But its already got people talking and I've had a few comments and I don't live in a small country town.
I just hope I dont find out my dad used to go out with her

OMG i cant believe you actually have problem with this!!!!

go for it man!! there are men out there crying out for an older woman!

she probably knows there is no future for it too. she just wants to have agood time!!

el tel

She's bound to let you kick her back doors in. Well done you!

Drummerboy2

Great age for a woman.
They don't yell,
they don't tell
and
they don't swell