Pregnant / STD?

LegacyUser

Ok first off I know it was a very foolish thing to do so theirs no need to point that out to me.

Was away with the lads at the weekend and ended up having unprotected sex with a randomer. I definitely didn't cum, not even close to it but my head is completely wrecked with thoughts of her being pregnant or me having caught an STD.

I don't even know her second name, only where she is from. This is my first one night stand as I have had a gf for the last two years. I really don't know what steps to takem didn't get anysleep last night. I have looked up STI clinics in my local area and will get myself tested before I see here again.

Just wondering what are the chances of the randomer being pregnant considering I didn't even get close to cumming? Also how else should I proceed?

Head wrecked so please be gentle, I know I fcuked up big time.

Beruthiel

foolish wrote: »

Just wondering what are the chances of the randomer being pregnant considering I didn't even get close to cumming?

Yes. There is a chance.

Also how else should I proceed?

Get tested.

akamossy

First of all get tested, better to be safe than sorry. As for worrying about getting her pregnant, yes there is always a chance. If possible find out a way to contact this girl and make sure that this has not happened.

Just because you don't come does not mean that the girl cannot get pregnant. If you ever intend on having a 1 night stand again, be smart and make sure you carry condoms.

Colonel_McCoy

Get tested..............probably not pregnant but there is a tiny chance.

We all have been there, just need to be safe next time.

LegacyUser

Rang the STI clinic locally and there is a long waiting list, but I will go to a gp, not my own. This happened saturday night and I have no symptoms of anything but its really playing on my mind.

My big fear is her being pregnant but I have zero chance of contacting her, only met her that night, we were both away from home, she doesnt know any of my friends and I don't know any of hers. She is also from a massive suburb so I'm banjaxed in terms of finding her to ask her to get the morning after pill or something.

LegacyUser

Also believe me I will never ever be having unprotected sex again on a one night stand. This fear is the worst thing I have experienced in years.

LegacyUser

Is she preggers ?

Highly unlikely. Do you know anything about the womans menstrual cycle ?
A lot of the time it's not even easy for couples who want to have a baby
and are 'at it' like rabbits all the time - especially around the time of
ovulation - to make the woman pregnant.

Can you have an STI ?

Again, highly unlikely. Only a small percentage of people get STI.
I don't suppose that's because the rest aren't actally 'riding' at
all.

Morpheus

more than tiny. pre-cum anyone?

Victor

Top_Drawer wrote: »

Can you have an STI ? Again, highly unlikely. Only a small percentage of people get STI. I don't suppose that's because the rest aren't actally 'riding' at all.

Actually most people (80%) have some form of the Herpes virus, but don't suffer or present symptoms.

And the percentage of people with STIs isn't really what is of concern - the sex was high risk (two strangers having unprotected sex) and hte potential seriousness of infection


PS Can you word on the presentation of your posts? They are hard to read.

faceman

foolish wrote: »

I have looked up STI clinics in my local area and will get myself tested before I see here again.

Im afraid that for a thorough STI check you will need to wait 6 weeks from when you had sex before getting tested to ensure accurate results.

Blondie86Star

You can never be too certain. But just to let you know that if you did catch an STD it will not show up right away. The antibodies for HIV for example will not appear in a blood test for up to 6 months after infection. My friend was in the same position as you a while ago and the doctor told him to wait 3 weeks and then get tested. As for pregnancy, maybe she took the M.A.P, but even with pre-cum you can still get pregnant! Sorry for being harsh but its the truth

Good luck x

Just saw faceman there! sorry!!

BraziliaNZ

jesus christ, chill out, this happens a lot, chances of any trouble are slim to none, I can't believe someone can get so worked up over this

Bottle_of_Smoke

Are you still with the girlfriend? think you're gonna have to find a good reason not to have sex for the next few weeks or tell her the truth.

Something like Chlamydia, which could significantly damage the grilfriend's fertility there's probably a high chance you've caught. Relatively high percentage of people have it & if the girl is willing to have sex with you unprotected she's likely to have done the same with others.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio1/bareall/chlamydia.shtml

That's just one example of course. Talk to a GP, find out exactly how long the waiting period is and if you can't avoid sex in between tell the girlfriend the truth. IF you won't be having sex until you've passed/been cured I'm not saying you should tell her btw.

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the replies and advice guys.

Another sleepless night last night but I have an appointment in the morning with a local doctor for a full screening. Me and my gf live apart during the summer so I can avoid having sex with her until I get the all clear. As for telling her I see no advantage in it, only heartbreak. I made my mistake, hopefully I can put it behind me and appreciate our relationship all the more.

Once again thanks for the replies and I hope that this can be a lesson to someone, it is an unbelievably stupid thing to do and I will never ever be going down this route again, lesson well and truly learned.

faceman

foolish wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies and advice guys.

Another sleepless night last night but I have an appointment in the morning with a local doctor for a full screening. Me and my gf live apart during the summer so I can avoid having sex with her until I get the all clear. As for telling her I see no advantage in it, only heartbreak. I made my mistake, hopefully I can put it behind me and appreciate our relationship all the more.

Once again thanks for the replies and I hope that this can be a lesson to someone, it is an unbelievably stupid thing to do and I will never ever be going down this route again, lesson well and truly learned.

best of luck at your GP's. Make sure you are honest about the when and what happened so he/she can give you proper advice.

Hope it works out for you