Moving back am i mad!!!

galwaydude

After 2 and a half years in the states we will be moving back to ireland in september. I know the ecomomy is in bad state but is it a good time to move back. I have lots of family back home and we have loads of good friends as well and thats worth more than all the money in the world right now.

Our reasons are simple,

Moving back home as we have a young baby and hardly any family here. Ireland is better to bring up a child. Living here with little or no support has been very tough.

Financially, we have a house in ireland that we cannot sell. With the way the housing market is we couldt give it away right now. So instead of loosing it we will move back into it. My wife would also earn alot more as she had a job in demand in the healthcare industry.

Better standard of living, people might knock ireland but you dont realise how good you have it. Maybe it was just bad timing but moving to the states brought more hardship than good. The states is good if your single and also depends where you move too.

Are we mad to move back? Is it the right thing to do?

Karl Hungus

galwaydude wrote: »

Are we mad to move back? Is it the right thing to do?

Judging by what you've written, you sound like you already know it's the right thing. If moving back to Ireland is what makes sense, what feels right, and is possible for you to do, then there's no reason not to, is there?

Mad? Far from it.

cHaTbOx

Karl Hungus wrote: »

Judging by what you've written, you sound like you already know it's the right thing. If moving back to Ireland is what makes sense, what feels right, and is possible for you to do, then there's no reason not to, is there?

Mad? Far from it.

+1
And you have the support of your family here whereas in america(which is also going through an economic decline)you dont have that safety net .Seems like the best thing to do to me.Only have one life and I think it would be best for your child growing up around family .Good luck

kowloon

One of my mates transfered to the US through his company and ended up having a child with someone he met over there, whereupon he came straight back here. He loved california, I've been there too and wouldn't say no to living in the place, but he didn't want his child to grow up there.

The economy over here isn't exactly collapsing and as long as you don't abandon your child in a creche 5 days a week there's no reason they can't enjoy a happier childhood with, arguably, a better education*.

*I feel I have to explain this before the brigade get on my back about it. There's more to education than schooling alone and despite the massive variety of creeds and colours in America the country is still isolated from the realities of the rest of the world. Any child brought up there will be heavily influenced by Americocentrism. A small country upbringing, I believe, can help someone become more grounded and aware of other cultures etc.
I think it's important.

Ruu_Old

Not mad at all, galwaydude. Myself and the missus are also keeping our options open about moving back home as well, always good to have a choice with the current economic woes and I am very grateful to my folks who would welcome me back in a heartbeat. It has been something we have talked about lately. Great that you have the family to be there for you.

LegacyUser

move back! you sound like you really want to give it a go,you can always go back if it doesnt work out...its great that you have the house here as well,so you can bring your family here and start working toward the life you would really want,maybe eventually changing house,jobs opertunities...having your family around you will be great for your kids and you will get a nice sense of family around you too...

ireland does have a great standard of living,im excited for you come home and be happy!

Beruthiel

You already have a house.
Your wife will have no problem finding a job.
Family are here.
Better for your kid.
If I remember correctly, you're not too happy where you are.
Go for it!

RealEstateKing

America is one place I would not want to have to raise a kid in.

(1) If one of you, god forbid, gets sick, you can end up genuinely ****ed in America, with the bills. Here it isnt an issue.

(2) In America sending that Kid to college could cost you 27,000 dollars a year. Here it's practically free.

(3) In America your kid is far more likely to have an unpleasant experience as a teenager: American high schools are insanely competitive cutthroat places: If you're not one of the 'in' crowd, you're nobody. While we are catching up in Ireland in that area, your kid is far more likely to leave high school with his self-respect intact.

galwaydude

That has happened to us already, my wife was close to dying after giving birth to our baby. She had so many blood transfusions that it has taken over 6 months to feel ok again. We were lucky we had insurance as the bill came to over $30k. Our baby has been in and our of the E.R since birth, shes ok now thank good but that was a heavy financial burden as you still have to pay every time you visit the hospital.

DenMan

Go for it dude. As you said you have looked at the options open to you and have explored them. You will be close to your family, can bring your child up in a loving environment, have little or difficulty finding alternative employment. And as for your child he/she will have option of living in either/both countries in the future. Plenty of opportunities lie ahead. Peace.

DenMan

By the way your previous post was number 1,234. That sounds like a lucky number to me. The heavens are smiling.

akamossy

You are not mad at all, you've listed some great reasons for coming back and some great reasons for not staying. I reckon you should go for it.

LegacyUser

Of course when I was living and working in England, we all
though Oireland was a great place - especially, to bring up
the kids ...

Ahem ...

That was before we all found out about the child-molesting
priests, for example.

We all thought the elderly were looked after very OK too.
Only - if they are in good health and don't need nursing-home
care. Otherwise, it's a shambles and costs a lot of money.

Well ... I could go on and on. But I think you get the picture and
you obviously need to think about 'the big move back' very carefully.

Anyway, good luck with the decision.