Am I going to be alone forever?

LegacyUser

WARNING: I've had a fair few drinks so the following might be incomprehensive.

Was out tonight, friend's 21st birthday (if you see this, tbh, I dont care). Had a bit of a laugh for the first hour or so, but after a bit I was left out on my own, no one around to talk to. Just drinking.

Extremely depressing. Decided to **** off for a bit, went for a walk for about half an hour or so. Got back (no one had noticed I had gone), eventually struck up a bit of a conversation with a girl I quite liked. But tbh, she had a few drinks on her too. We all left at closing time and I headed for the nightlink

Never got around to getting her number.

I just got this overwheling fear that this is always how its going to go for me, I havent had a serious relationship in quite a while. I just feel Im sort of out of touch and no one gives a **** about me.

I have confidence issues, sure, but Im not ugly or out of shape, yet I fail to find a someone who likes me, constantly.

I just feel very down about it, like I should just give up and resign to my fate.

kittensoft1984

Hi OP,

the simple answer to your question is no you wont be alone forever .

I used to feel like this too.

You say you have confidence issues? Why is this?

This could be the key to you not being successful in the past. I think you need to work on these first and the rest will just fall into place.

Also dont go out looking for "serious" relationship. As this is also another stumbling block i have had in the past.

From your post, it seems that you are not happy with yourself.....(i may be wrong) but you need to be happy with yourself before you can even think about anyone else.

Hope this helps

good luck

kitten

AARRRGH

No, you won't be alone forever.

Even that sicko in Austria who trapped his daughter in his basement has received loads of love letters!

Stop worrying about it and it'll click into place.

c - 13

As the other have pointed out dont worry about it it will all come together.

As for your friends, if you feel excluded, widen your social circles. Wont do you any harm meeting up with new people. If theres something you've been wanting to take up, do it ...

LadyE

I hope your feeling better today.

I would also agree that you should wait and see what happens. Dont go out looking for a serious relationship, I think this will fall into place when you meet someone you click with

Id also suggest you root out why you have confidence issues. This will play a major part in why you wont talk to girls etc.

Dont focus on "does she like me, what am I doing wrong" etc. etc. just be yourself and it will happen!

DenMan

Hi OP

I agree with all of the responses to your thread. Being lonely is the worst feeling in the world. All of us experience, myself included. I think knowing that you feel lonely is a step in the right direction. Your acknowledging it. Now you need to move on to step 2. Finding a hobby or something you are good at will take the loneliness away slowly. I am sure you have something that you really enjoy. Even doing things like writing stories can be great for the mind, it gives it something to really concentrate on.

Even taking up an instrument is really terrific. Right now I am starting to learn the keyboard and when I am ready am going to set up a ban and do some covers. A change of scenery will do you the world of good. Write a short story and enter it into a festival. You may or may not win but you will feel proud of the effort you put into it.

Do it one step at a time, no rushing. The gradually you do it the more confident you will get, and as a result you will feel much better about yourself. Time is on your side man.

jellie

these things seem to happen when youre not looking. if you can get to a point where youre happy being you, & being single, this is probably when youll meet someone.

if it makes you feel any better i was 22 when i had my first serious boyfriend. strangely enough it just snuck up on me when i was too busy enjoying myself to notice, after years of "why does everyone else have a bf & im still single".

get happy being you & things just seem to fall into place.

(now if only i could take my own advice..)