Am I doing the right thing for my health?

Deadevil129

For the past couple of years I've had some health problems going on that need hospital visits and trips to consultants. Unfortunatly there are huge waiting lists up to two years to see a consultant this area. I've gotten very lucky though, just because I called at the right moment, I managed to get an appointment in two weeks time thanks to a cancellation. It costs me €250 as it's private and it's in a hospital miles away from where I live but I don't care. I can't emphasise enough how lucky I feel to have gotten this.

My mother doesn't quite see it this way. As far as she's concerned (despite the opinion of two GPs) i'm over reacting entirely about this, I'm wasting my money and humiliating myself by going. She's never been keen on me seeing doctors and always refused to take me to the GP as a kid stating that I don't know when I'm sick, she does. She reasons that I have these problems because I drink too much (I don't drink). I still live at home (I'm 19) so it's a little hard spending the next two weeks with her in a mood about this. It might be worth knowing she's paticularly stubborn and has a drink problem of her own.

I suppose, my question would be should I go ahead with seeing the doctor? It's very difficult to try and plough on with all of this when she's determined to stand in my way.

rugbug86

You're 19, an adult, and in charge of your own life.

For what it's worth, if you think you need to see the doctor, then you need to see the doctor. Regardless of whether or not your mother thinks you do. Apart from anything else you're going to worry more about it if you don't get it seen to which may/may not make things worse.

Best of luck in your decision/treatment.

Nevyn

Look after yourself keep the appointment, because it sounds like your mother is being irrational.

comongethappy

Of course you should see the doctor. Always follow your GP's advice, they wouldn't advise you if it wasn't necessary.

Tell your mom your an adult, that your health is important and your own responsiblity, and it's no business of her's how much it costs / or what her opinion is over that of a qualified medical professional.

Deadevil129

Thanks, I think I just needed to hear that from somebody else.

Oryx

Dont break the appointment, try your very best to ignore your mums moods, and good luck with the consultation.

Dizzyblonde

OP you're absolutely right to do it this way - I've done it in the past and it's definitely worth it.
Best of luck.

dolphinius

Deadevil129 wrote: »

For the past couple of years I've had some health problems going on that need hospital visits and trips to consultants. Unfortunatly there are huge waiting lists up to two years to see a consultant this area. I've gotten very lucky though, just because I called at the right moment, I managed to get an appointment in two weeks time thanks to a cancellation. It costs me €250 as it's private and it's in a hospital miles away from where I live but I don't care. I can't emphasise enough how lucky I feel to have gotten this.

Peace of mind is priceless. It is so important in the healing process. Mind over matter etc.
If you can see someone now instead of 2 years down the line, it can only be good.
Good luck and take care of yourself.
I hope it all works out well.

Overheal

Sounds like typical Irish Mummery; she hates not being the center of your world :rolleyes:

You're 19 and you're old enough to know good and well when you aren't 100% physically or mentally.

davyjose

Can you really not figure out the answer to the title of this thread, OP?
Look you can let your Mam make this decision for you, but as Richard Ashcroft once sang - you come in on your own and you leave on your own. It's your health, and unlike most other things, you can't share the burden of it. It's you who'll suffer any consequences, not your ma.