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What to do???

  • 12-06-2008 1:42pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'll try and keep this as short as possible-

    over 2 years ago I met a guy (call him M) through a mutual friend and there was instant sparks between he and I.We ended up kissing at the end of the night and then he told me that he had a girlfriend,that it was serious etc.I told him that I wasn't interested,that he was attached.The next day he called round,we sat and talked.He said that I had sparked something in him,he really liked me but had no intention of splitting up with her.We agreed not to see/contact each other again.I was gutted that he wasn't single but not willing to cheat with him.Then at the E.Picnic last year I bumped into him and his gf.A brief hello,how are you and that was it.

    I've started to hang out with a guy called P in the past few months,things went from being platonic to romantic a few weeks back.I like him a lot and am enjoying any time we spend together.We've been upfront and honest with each other so far.Basically it's really early days for the 2 of us.

    Dilemma is that I had 2 texts from M on my phone this morning sent last night.Gist was that he'd been thinking about me over the past 2 years.How was I?I figured that alcohol was involved and text him back saying as much.He confirmed but through a slew of texts has let me know that he's moved house,split from her,has thought about me a lot since we first met and would like to meet me for a coffee and a chat.

    I'm torn.Part of me wants to tell him to f*** off,that he's either on the rebound or (getting ahead of myself with this one)that if I get involved with him that he'll end up cheating on me.The other part wants to meet up and see what the story is.

    Any advice/suggestions from anyone who's gone through similar?Should I just forget about M completely or meet him and see what he says?Should I mention any of this to P?

    I know this may seem insignificant in the broader scheme of things but my head is wrecked since this morning.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Its understandable theres a part of you curious about what could happen with M since it never really got a chance to get off the ground, and fair play to you for being firm on the not cheating from the start even though there was a strong attraction there.

    I dont doubt that M likes you and has been thinking of you, but what happened between you was years ago and he did stay with his girlfriend for a considerable ammount of time after you were together. Its not likely that you were on his mind constantly during all that time, he's probably started thinking about you again because his relationship was ending and hes going over the past and where it might have all gone wrong and whether there might have been some different decisions he could have made.

    Hes probably not in the best place emotionally after his split and getting involved with him at this stage would probably only end up messy and complicated. Youve managed without him up untill now. I would explain to him that youve moved on since then and concentrate on whats going on in your own life at the moment. It might not be a bad idea to tell P in the interest of keeping everything out in th open but make sure your telling him for the right reasons.


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