Should I take a risk?

LegacyUser

Going un reg for this as its a silly kind of question and i will be unmercifully teased if my identity is discovered!

right, im a pretty shy guy normally, so i find it a little hard to approach girls i actually like, now, theres this girl, shes non irish, working in a take away near my own place of work, i dont think i have ever spoke to her while sober (until tonight) as i tend to only be in there on my way home from a night of beering

but from flash backs and hazy memorys i know i am friendly toward her, but not in a sleezy way, she says, and she is always very friendly to me, smiling, waving, things like that, as in if im passing the shop during the day or whatever she will, pop out and wave hello to me, or last night while a little intoxicated when i went in there, she was in the back but made sure she got up to the front a little, just enough to give me that angel smile and wave!

when i went outside i looked back and could see her poking her head around the corner and she waved goodbye to me, i sound like a schoolgirl i know, but basically am i getting enough of the right signals to ask her would she like to go for a drink or dinner?

if so how should i go about it? besides obviously being sober, i dont have a drink problem or anything, i dont actually drink that much, its just i tend to make a bee line for her chipper when i get drunk!

like i said i spoke to her sober tonight for like 1 minute and it went well, but my shyness stops me from making the first move quickly, it has made me miss chances in the past, i dont wanna miss another one here if possible!

so how should i go about asking her out?

sorry for long post, got carried away and i tend to ramble

July

Ask her if she'd like a takeaway some night!

Seriously though, maybe go in a couple of more times sober to be sure of the 'vibe'. Sounds like she likes you though and she doesn't sound backwards in coming forwards - more power to her!

davyjose

It's a tough move doing that while your sober, in somewhere like a chipper. But I kinda think you should go for it. I certainly think that if you don't you'll regret it. Or at least feel like you let yourself down. Grasp the nettle dude. If she says yeah, it'll be worth it. If she says no, the next 20 seconds will be awkward, then it'll get better ..... and your diet will improve

Overheal

All you have to ask is what time she gets off work at. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Colonel_McCoy

Exactly, just ask her out, Stevey Wonder could see she is interested.

NextSteps

In fairness, it's pretty obvious she likes you. Ask her out. Not for a bag of chips!

Captain Ginger

Well nothing ventured nothing gained.

You have nothing to loose

srdb20

Strap on a pair and go for it OP

Better to regret something you did, then to regret something you never did!!!!!

sunnyside

Next time your in the chipper pass her a note with your number on it. You don't want the queue in the chipper to hear you asking her out.

kryogen

i think its pretty clear she has some intrest in you so why not just take a chance?

as davyjose said, sure even if she says no the worst that will happen is your diet will improve

strap on a pair and go for it! actually the note with the number idea isnt too bad is it

Dizzyblonde

Definitely go for it

ErinGoBrath

kryogen wrote: »

actually the note with the number idea isnt too bad is it

Worked for me before. Go for it. Good luck!

LegacyUser

thanks for the replies guys, i think im gonna put my number on a piece of paper and give it to her next time im in, should i write a little note too though? or will the number be enough? i mean she will obv know what im getting at so i wont need to spell it out will i?

kryogen

i dont think it will be necessary to write a big letter or anything! the number itself should pretty much make everything clear to her unless shes blonde, is she blonde lol?

MIN2511

Hey, don't do that... she might be offended... when next you go there(sober) ask her if she fancies a drink or cinema....

Something i have noticed(i know) women like to be chased, she wouldn't text/ring you even though she may like you

biko

Just your first name and your number is fine.

Shyness = fear of rejection. You need to pick yourself up and dare to win.

RedXIV

Be careful here OP, there was a girl in the local chinese i thought was practically in love with me with the amount of flirting she was doing. then found out she was married and she did it to keep the guys coming in. Just something to watch out for.

If you haven't got the confidence to go straight in and ask her out then try the number, just the number on a slip of paper. maybe with your name on it

But i'd recommend asking her before the number thing

Gyalist

sillyquestion wrote: »

thanks for the replies guys, i think im gonna put my number on a piece of paper and give it to her next time im in, should i write a little note too though? or will the number be enough? i mean she will obv know what im getting at so i wont need to spell it out will i?

Don't even think of doing that. I can guarantee that 99 times out of 100 a woman will not call you even if she is attracted to you. She's more likely to just show it to her female friends and have a giggle about it at your expense. You'll be more likely to get a result if you talk to her.

Vegeta

Gyalist wrote: »

Don't even think of doing that. I can guarantee that 99 times out of 100 a woman will not call you even if she is attracted to you. She's more likely to just show it to her female friends and have a giggle about it at your expense. You'll be more likely to get a result if you talk to her.

I agree here.

ErinGoBrath

sillyquestion wrote: »

should i write a little note too though? or will the number be enough?

First name and number should suffice. Good luck...

RealEstateKing

I'd either:

(a) I'd try and engineer a way to "accidentally" bump into her after work. See if you can find where she goes for a drink on a Saturday night and then you can bump into her and say "Oh hey, your that girl from the chipper, wanna go for a drink sometime etc."

(b) Or the slipping a note thing.

A chipper is not a romantic place to ask somebody out: And remember any pretty girl who works in a place that largely caters for drunk people in need of food probably gets asked out 10 times a shift, expecially if she's foreign - Irish guys find it a lot of easier to slobber "Ah jaysus luv , your gorgeous , will ya marry me?" to a foreigner than to a local.

She's probably therefore put up a guard against anybody asking her out in work.

Plus, and this is just me, the prospect of being turned down in a chipper queue is enough to make me wanna go and hide in a basement for a year.

That said: Have you tried actually chatting to her yet? Y'know just some breezy crap : "Ah must be a pain to be stuck in here on a Saturday night", if she likes the look of you, she'll respon to something like that.

From what you've said, the signals you've been getting so far could easily be no more than proffessional courtesy mixed with wishful thinking.

LegacyUser

thanks to the above poster, RealEstateKing, that was good to hear a different perspective, and i have given this a bit of thought. i honestly do think its a more then a professional courtesy, there is just something there when our eyes meet, i can feel it. i dont think its wishful thinking as i have been in this situation with women many times, its only certain girls that my shyness comes out in.

i can happily approach women most of the time, unless i feel something a little different, a spark or something, i get scared then.

i have learned to read the signs pretty well i think, my instincts are normally spot on with this kind of stuff, i just need a push in the right direction sometimes

the chipper she works in doesnt close till like 4am so i dont think i could "accidentally" bump into her then without looking like a psycho!

basically, if she rejects me, i can take that. everyone gets rejected at some stage, jeez ive been knocked back before and im sure i will be again! i just dont wanna miss a chance when i feel something, i dunno how to explain it. theres just something there!

ok im gonna try talk to her tonight, sober!

kryogen

go for it and let us know how it goes!

Good luck!

LegacyUser

sillyquestion wrote: »

ok im gonna try talk to her tonight, sober!

Yes tell how you get on and good luck, we have all been there