Asking her out

LegacyUser

Hey. Met this really cool hot girl 2 weeks ago (introduced through a friend on a night out). Ended up scoring her and she text me to say she was heading out again if I was up for it.

Obviously I headed out, met up with her again, and spent most of the night scoring each other again. Havn't really been in touch proper since but I would like to see if it could go any further.

Dont wanna come on too strong or anything, but how would I let her know I am interested seeing her again/ maybe asking her out for a drink (one on one, rather than in a group like the other two times)

Been thinking about her alot, and wanna see if theres anything there, but if shes not interested then I dont wanna make her think she broke my heart or anything lol, So gotta figure out a way of casually asking her if shes up for meeting up, so if shes says no, I can be like "cool"

Dunno if that makes sense.

Advice?


Thanks

Spud83

Eh my guess is she is probably thinking the same thing. She asked you out last time, and you have yet to reciprocate. Ring her and tell her and ask her what she is doing this weekend, if she says nothing then ask her to do something. First thing is though to initiate some contact. Ring don’t text.

RedXIV

alanmurphy83 wrote: »

Eh my guess is she is probably thinking the same thing. She asked you out last time, and you have yet to reciprocate. Ring her and tell her and ask her what she is doing this weekend, if she says nothing then ask her to do something. First thing is though to initiate some contact. Ring don’t text.

Bingo, nail on the head there. She initiated contact last time, it's all you now. Make plans for something fun. I'm bringing a girl to the world street performers festival this weekend in dublin. should be loads of fun.

Do something similar, something thats guaranteed to be fun, and make a day out of it. (i say day coz its usually seen as a better step than meeting up for a night out).

Bite the bullet, go for it OP

Red

Spud83

RedXIV wrote: »

Bingo, nail on the head there. She initiated contact last time, it's all you now. Make plans for something fun. I'm bringing a girl to the world street performers festival this weekend in dublin. should be loads of fun.

Do something similar, something thats guaranteed to be fun, and make a day out of it. (i say day coz its usually seen as a better step than meeting up for a night out).

Bite the bullet, go for it OP

Red

Ya cheap baxtard. Thats free.

Actually that sounds like the perfect thing. Ring her tell you are going to watch it and would she like to join you. If she says no/I'm busy then you can just say cool well let me know if you wanna meet up again and you haven't spent any money organise something "different", if she says yes you have a free date.

RedXIV

alanmurphy83 wrote: »

Ya cheap baxtard. Thats free.

Actually that sounds like the perfect thing. Ring her tell you are going to watch it and would she like to join you. If she says no/I'm busy then you can just say cool well let me know if you wanna meet up again and you haven't spent any money organise something "different", if she says yes you have a free date.

I prefer the term "genius"

You have your scenario now OP, some good advice there, take it and have fun

molloyjh

The first thing is don't stress about it. Ring her and ask her out (that street fare thing sounds like a great idea, and would go down a treat I would imagine). Just be very simple about it: "Hey, how are ya, wondered if you fancied going to the street fare on whatever day". She'll either say yes or no. If she says yes arrange to meet, if she says no becase she already has plans, then just let her know its cool and see if another time suits. If its an outright no, then fair enough but you won't have lost any face buy giving it a shot. From the sounds of it though she really likes you too so go for it and best of luck.......

LegacyUser

Thanks for the good advice guys. Didn't ring her though even though I do hate texting. But shes fairly shy and didnt wanna freak her out/put her on the spot. Texted her so and unfortunately (I kinda guessed tbh) Shes working all weekend. But she was chatty and made sure to leave the ball in her court and she seemed happy. Told her to gimme a bell next time shes free and we could do something together and she was positive. Now I play the waiting game....

Pretty sure shes up for it, but hard to tell as I dont know her too well and it was just stupid texts, but I work with her best mate who introduced us, so I could as her if I stand where I think I stand? (In that she is interested in more?)

Drift

RedXIV wrote: »

I'm bringing a girl to the world street performers festival this weekend in dublin.

alanmurphy83 wrote: »

Ya cheap baxtard. Thats free.

RedXIV wrote: »

I prefer the term "genius"

Give this man a prize he has just won. There wasn't even a game and he still won it!!!!


Hey OP, I think considering she texted you the first time it's definitely time you reciprocated to show your interest in her. When you ask her out make sure you're clear that it's not a group; just the two of you. There's a small possibility she might politely turn you down but from reading your original post I'd say you're on solid ground. If she's not free ask her when she is free; you'll know from her answer to that question whether she wants you to ask her out again or not.

RedXIV

unregguy111 wrote: »

Thanks for the good advice guys. Didn't ring her though even though I do hate texting. But shes fairly shy and didnt wanna freak her out/put her on the spot. Texted her so and unfortunately (I kinda guessed tbh) Shes working all weekend. But she was chatty and made sure to leave the ball in her court and she seemed happy. Told her to gimme a bell next time shes free and we could do something together and she was positive. Now I play the waiting game....

Pretty sure shes up for it, but hard to tell as I dont know her too well and it was just stupid texts, but I work with her best mate who introduced us, so I could as her if I stand where I think I stand? (In that she is interested in more?)

Girls love hearing "he asked about you today" so shouldn't be any harm in asking the friend as long as you don't come across as needy. hmm unfortunate that she's working all weekend but i wouldn't be 100% about leaving the ball in her court. if she's working all weekend, pick another day and take her to the zoo or something. (that have a baby rhino and giraffe at the moment, guaranteed "awwww!")

Best of luck OP!
Good man for asking her in the first place

LegacyUser

UPDATE: Turns out I am heading out with some work peps tomoro night. So I sent the girl a text mentioning we were heading out and if she fancied coming.

She aint texted back........ It was like 2 hours ago

RedXIV

This is why i don't like texts. at least if you had called you'd know.

however things to take into account.

It's YOUR work mates, thats alot for a shy girl to deal with.

She may be trying to organise getting out to you

She may still be unsure

She may have other plans but thinks blowing you off twice is a bad sign.

There are LOADS of possibilites here mate. Don't read too much into it.

Wait till the morning and ring her then. then you'll have your answer. Don't mention the text if you ring her

LegacyUser

She got back and apologised for the lateness (she didnt see the message aparently) Said She was unsure, hadnt planned on going out.

So I just said k no probs
Then she said actually feel so boring now, I might actually change my mind

Then I said something along the lines of cool, sure if not i will see you around, u made a promise earlier?! (she didnt)

She replied I cant remember promising that

I said no, I am pretty sure you did

Then she said ok well i suppose

So I said hehe...........cool

God I hate texting!
But yeah, what next?

RedXIV

UnreGGOp wrote: »

She got back and apologised for the lateness (she didnt see the message aparently) Said She was unsure, hadnt planned on going out.

So I just said k no probs
Then she said actually feel so boring now, I might actually change my mind

Then I said something along the lines of cool, sure if not i will see you around, u made a promise earlier?! (she didnt)

She replied I cant remember promising that

I said no, I am pretty sure you did

Then she said ok well i suppose

So I said hehe...........cool

God I hate texting!
But yeah, what next?

OK mate, this is last advice your getting from me coz your last line there is making you sound like you learning stuff off to get the girl and that'll fail in the long run anyway.

The girl likes you, you like the girl. Plans sometimes go arseways. Make a new plan. If after 3 or 4 plans and she's never showed for any, forget about it. If she agrees to a plan and shows up, be yourself and enjoy your time together. Best of luck OP

Red