Insecure in relationship...

Captain Ginger

Well, I'm a guy, almost 20 and I have been gonig out with a wonderful girl for a bit over a month.

Anyway, she recently broke up with her boyfriend of two years and after that one of her friends wanted to go out with her, but she refused because he was a friend and didn't want to go out with him because of the last relationship. I was fine with all this at first, typical teenage drama really, but...

Here's the personal bit, I'm a pretty decent looking guy, a bit overweight and a few other flaws, but recently out of interest I was snooping around the two other guys bebos (wanted to get some background info on them before I met them as they are her friends) and they look and are built much better than me.

Now this I know shouldn't be a problem, but I can't help feeling insecure when I'm around the girl now because I'm constantly reminded that she can do a lot better than me, this in turn is for me ruining what should be a really great relationship and it's wrecking my head.

I don't really know what else to say, I just had to really get that out of my system...

RedXIV

Look at it this way OP, she's with you and not them? thats got to count for something.

Girls don't rate looks as important as guys do, things like personality, nature and sense of humour are far more important. If you make her feel like none of the rest of them do, you're in the lead. And since she's going out with you, i'd say things couldn't be more in your favour.

If you really feel bad about it, try getting a bit more exercise. I've swore to get my six pack back over the summer, it's rock hard but i'm determined. maybe a goal similar may help? even if it's just to lose a stone?

But before all that, remember, if she prefered them, she'd be going out with them, she's with you so she prefers you

Red

Skinfull

how about not worrying coz she chose you over these two anyway!
Maybe she's not too bothered abotu them being "built" and your "flaws" are obviuously not an issue or she wouldnt be with you.

Chillax and enjoy your relationship for what it is rather than worrying what it could or should be.

Captain Ginger

Yeah you guys are right, I have recently started cutting down on junk food and have lost some weight, I just really needed to vent and being at work this was the best place to do it.

RedXIV

venting is allowed as long as you take pro-active action as well. otherwise it's just whinging.

Best of luck OP, you'll be grand

Aurora Borealis

The proof is in the pudding. She is with you not them. She is obviously attracted to you.