Just don't know what to do

LegacyUser

I dont know were to start really,i wouldnt exectly call this a problem but its doing my head in.
Im mad about this one girl,and ive kept it quiet for a while cause we're friends and i don't want anything to ruin that.But a few weeks ago we were out on a night in town and i ended up kissing one of her friends..

This girl i kissed is the nicest girl EVER and shes bang on and cute,but i dont want to be anything more than friends with her and every time im with her i feel guilty because i know she likes me and i can never be serious with her,i dont want a relationship,even a casual one at that.

Now the obvious thing would be to just tell her but i just cant.
If i turn around and say "Its not you its me" or some other cheesy line ill hate myself.
I know i should just be honest with her but i know thatll back fire,and i dont want to be mean but ive tried dodging her to give her the message but she isnt getting it.
Plus im dead scared if i mess this up ill never be able to ask girl A out and thats one of the reasons i dont want to be with girl B

Probably the most stupid topic ever but im so CONFUSED

RedXIV

Hey OP, I have to admit, it's not a situation i'd like to be in, but i have been in it before. My problem was ignoring the second girl completely to try and give her the hint but of course this backfired, she told her friend and made it very difficult to get anywhere with her. Now you say that girl B is nice, cute etc, etc. This means she's going to be in no shape or form, in small demand. What guy wouldn't like a girl like that?

If i were you, i'd be honest. Tell her you think so much of her as a friend but and you hope that one drunken mistake won't ruin that. Be warned, however you deal with girl B WILL be taken into account by girl A if they are friends so let that thought go with you through all your dealings.

Finally, if you sort things with girl B, don't expect girl A to simply fall into your arms. They were friends and everyone knows if your friend is interested in someone, it's good manners to stay away.

Best of luck OP

Red

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice
Ive seen her a good few times now since that night so i cant really say to her it was a drunken mistake..
I just honestly believe there is no way i can handle this without ruining everything with the other girl

RedXIV

Mistified! wrote: »

Thanks for the advice
Ive seen her a good few times now since that night so i cant really say to her it was a drunken mistake..
I just honestly believe there is no way i can handle this without ruining everything with the other girl

Of course there is, there's always a way. And the fact that you are willing to go to such lengths to try and save this girl from any bad feeling will stand to you. If it takes being bluntly honest, then maybe thats what you should do? either that or send girl B my way

Captain Ginger

Well there are a few ways of looking at this, do you think you have a genuine chance with Girl A? Because you may be risking to loose something over something else that won't happen, (The old phrase a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush comes to mind).

However if you're dead set on GirlA you can't be dragging GirlB letting her think something might happen, you really need to clear things up with her then deal with GirlA.