Emmigrating on Wednesday...

LegacyUser

... and I got a text tonight from an old flame. It was really sweet wishing me good luck and a safe trip. But at the end of it she said it was a shame I had to go, because "there may have been something for us".

We broke up about 18 months ago. We'll she broke up with me, and I'm still not fully over her.

Now I'm really confused.

I'm relocating to Arizona, btw, so not really a workable long-distancer.

Advice?

lemon_of_old

For what it's worth I would continue packing my bags and look forward to the move and not backwards. She had 18 months to send you that message and she chose 2 days before you leave. Also, she didn't say "Please don't go, I can't live without you". She said theyre might have been something between you. It sounds like she's simply feeling a bit nostaligic about your past relationship as opposed to actively working to get you back. Not enough reason to jack in your new life IMO. Best of luck in the move OP.

TequilaMockingBird

Your well rid, by the sounds of it. Those sort of mind-games are not nice.

Enjoy your new life, and find a nice girl in Arizona. I hear their rather keen on Irish gents!

c - 13

lemon_of_old wrote: »

For what it's worth I would continue packing my bags and look forward to the move and not backwards. She had 18 months to send you that message and she chose 2 days before you leave. Also, she didn't say "Please don't go, I can't live without you". She said theyre might have been something between you. It sounds like she's simply feeling a bit nostaligic about your past relationship as opposed to actively working to get you back. Not enough reason to jack in your new life IMO. Best of luck in the move OP.

Spot on. She's playing love games with you boy. Keep packing your stuff and look forward to your move. A change of scenery will do you the world of good.

tbh

why on earth would you want to bring apples to an orchard?

she's jealous, end of. Have a ball.

I doubt it's love games or else why would she wait 'till now to send it.

She see's you are going and it's cut her.
She's wondering what if.

Your decision is the same though.You've to decide if she's really worth canceling or postponing the move.

Probably not because her last minute change of mind implies you are only becoming important when the option of you looks like it's going to be gone.
It implies she's always thought "what if" but the fact that she broke up with you and it's only when you are leaving that she decides to act on it-that she might change her mind a few weeks in.

Thats no use to you in the long run.
Find someone else to be honest.

Blackpitts

just go there and enjoy it. it's just another mind game by someone who is scared to lose you but doesn't really love u. you'd better be away and start a new life without her.

muppetkiller

Drop her your address and simply say your welcome anytime...if she comes over cool if not no harm done.

AARRRGH

WhyNow? wrote: »

she said it was a shame I had to go, because "there may have been something for us".

She's playing games. She'll make you stay in Ireland, string you along for a bit, and then dump you.

Forget about her.

the drifter

get on the plane dont look back....

Amazotheamazing

tbh wrote: »

why on earth would you want to bring apples to an orchard?

she's jealous, end of. Have a ball.

Great quote.

Could she have sent a more wishy washy text if she tried, hell, why even text. If she was really mad keen to get back with you she would either call you or meet you in person.

She sees your life moving on and she's probably a little nostalgic and jealous. Leave her off, plenty of American girls who'll help you forget her.

AARRRGH

Amazotheamazing wrote: »

plenty of American girls who'll help you forget her.

Absolutely, you're gonna have a ball OP

MIN2511

Actually that was very rude of her....

I would say you should text her and tell her thanks for her well wishes but can she kindly not bring up the relationship again as it's way over 18months
but then that's what she's expecting you to do so just ignore her and continue packing and please do enjoy yourself!

Aurora Borealis

muppetkiller wrote: »

Drop her your address and simply say your welcome anytime...if she comes over cool if not no harm done.

Best advice, I think. This way she can show her mettle if her what-if's are based on anything more than nostalgia or as others have suggested jealousy at the thoughts of you off enjoying yourself.

Bon voyage!

lolli

Op,

Shes just playing mind games with you. Shes probably just trying to boost her own ego. Have a great time!! Lots of lovely girls over there!!

Good luck!!

LegacyUser

Just go. People send stupid messages like that when they see someone leave, they get nostalgic and wonder if they make a mistake and because they're feeling selfish they throw out a text or an email like that just to see without caring that it's ****ing with the other person's head.

She had 18 months to rethink her decision to dump you and come after you again.

If your job got cancelled and you ended up staying in Ireland I guarantee that her interest would wane and disappear again.

I've been in this situation. Was dumped by a girl, she took up with a new guy. I wanted her back and she strung me along for ages, sending me emails, crying, telling me she loved me but still spending her nights with him and never really wanting me at all - she just wanted a bit of melodrama.

Leave. Take your job. Enjoy Arizona. I recommend bikini carwashes! They're great and they run them for charity!!!

BeansMeansHynes

Bit of a head wreck, especially since you are not fully over her but I agree with all the other posters. Pack your bags, get on the plane and have a ball in Arizona.

Dont even bother texting her back, especially the fact that its been 18 months and she only contacts you now.

manic56

WhyNow? wrote: »

... and I got a text tonight from an old flame. It was really sweet wishing me good luck and a safe trip. But at the end of it she said it was a shame I had to go, because "there may have been something for us".

We broke up about 18 months ago. We'll she broke up with me, and I'm still not fully over her.

Now I'm really confused.

I'm relocating to Arizona, btw, so not really a workable long-distancer.

Advice?

Forget her,if she wants it that much she'd move with you.IMO she is evil and trying to mind fock you.

LegacyUser

Yeah this girl is simply playing mind games.
Simply write back ,
' too bad you left it until now to tell me.. Bye'

that will show her!!!

m83

what a muppet, good riddance to her bro!

Giblet

She sent you that because she knows you will be leaving. Just leave and reply saying, "Oh well, too late now!"