best friend my ex is this possible

carlos30

Hello Folks just a quick one ,
I
recently split up with my ex , there is no hard feeling or upset as the
relationship simply had run its course , thing is we are way better mates
then partners and we prefer it this way !

we both know this, so no problems there , We talk about anything , enjoy each other company but thats it, just like best mates do.

the problem is that we both hope to meet new people in the future and we would like to still be good mates , that would meet up to have a chat , send the odd text and just generally stay in touch

we talked about this and we were wondering would this be possible? , would friends say something to new partners about our history or would new partners object ?

we are both mature level headed people who would not cheat on each others partners, I am at the stage that if I do meet somebody new I dont want to be told who I can and can not see

so is this possible? , would future partners get jealous ? is a friendship situation with an ex normal ? and has anybody had any similar experiences

advice greatly appreciated

Wibbs

Yes basically because it has run it's course and both are happy with that. This is quite rare, hence the idea that exes can't be friends. In most cases one is holding a candle, sometimes a whole chandelier which never works as friendship is based on equality.

Damzilla

I think it's great that you are both handling the break up so well. Fair play to you both.

I think the only way you can remain friends with an ex is if there is absolutely no feelings on either side. It may seem like it would work now but when someone new comes along for either of you how would the other person react? Would it really be that easy to be ok with it?

Obviously my situation is different because I still have feelings there so I know there is no way we could ever be friends and he has said the same. Particularly if and when he meets someone else I just do not want to know and he is the same. It's just too hard for us but if it is not like that for you guys then maybe it could work.

Good luck!

RedXIV

Yup, can happen. I'm pretty good terms with all my ex's, one especially so, i'd still call her one of my best mates. If anything, she's a little overproctective of me (which i usually find hilarious) but her hearts in the right place and she genuinely just likes us as mates above anything else.

Nice one OP,

for once a PI where there is no problem

Red

Aurora Borealis

It's the ideal and a credit to the both of you if you can remain this way. I would see more positive in a partner being friends with an ex than not. A prospective partner having bad things to say about a significant ex would usually make me a tad uneasy to be honest.

wylo

I think you might have troubles with new partners on the scene, but only starting out, when you meet someone new you have to explain it to them before things get messy. Its very intimidating having a new girlfriend(and boyfriend) being good friends with her ex, but if your clear from the start it would be alright.
on another note fair play for being such good friends with an ex, I know its never worked for me!!

Captain Ginger

I don't know, it's a tricky one to call.

I split up with one of my ex's about 2 years ago who happened to be in the same group of friends I was in at the time and although things went fine in everyday circustances but when she got with another guy I couldn't help but feel a bit peeved (despite the fact that I ended it with her) as immature and stupid as that sounds.

I recently got talking to her on MSN the other day and things were going fine until I mentioned I was with another girl and that put a bit of dampner on the conversation.


At the end of the day, if you are both completly over the relationship and ready to accept there is no way in hell you two will be getting back together you should be fine.
But if there is even a remote bit of doubt in your head I would at the very least give each other some space for a few months.

AARRRGH

Update us on the situation when one of you starts going out with someone else. That's when the problems will start...

GirlInterrupted

dublindude wrote: »

Update us on the situation when one of you starts going out with someone else. That's when the problems will start...

Yep, thats the real test of 'ex' friendship.

Talliesin

Sure it's possible, happen all the time.

A bad idea to attempt as some sort of ideal, when it doesn't actually suit those involved, but it certainly can work out too.