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TURRICAN

hello all
some of you will know i had problems before with my fiancee.we split up a few weeks ago and then she wanted me to come back,so i did.she never said that we were back together in so many words it was like what do you think.
anyway i had a problem with trusting her since she was txting her x behind my back.it blew up last night when i asked her was she getting any more txts etc from him or was she doing the same.i got no answeer yes or no only this is not going to work.its like i blew it.so i said maybe more time apart might help.
so this morning i txt her saying what we need to do to sort out this problem.she replied back i know what i need to do and il feel the break is forced.i havent forced her.so i rang her and asked her then if its not to be a break then we must be broke up.she woulndt say it .she said for the time being i cant do it.

lost and lonely,dont know how to get going again

Miss Fluff

Can you punctuate your post? It's nearly impossible to read. If I read it correctly then it's time to move on, marriage is based on trust and being engaged to someone who is in contact with her ex still and has her head all over the place probably isn't a good idea tbh OP.

RedXIV

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Can you punctuate your post? It's nearly impossible to read.

+1

I'm with Miss Fluff here. if you've been breaking up and not talking etc, there doesn't seem to be alot left in this relationship. Time to move on my friend

TURRICAN

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Can you punctuate your post? It's nearly impossible to read. If I read it correctly then it's time to move on, marriage is based on trust and being engaged to someone who is in contact with her ex still and has her head all over the place probably isn't a good idea tbh OP.

thanks and sorry about the puncuation,im not great on the ol keyboard.
i see what you are saying,i feel like i have to give the x a bit of a seeing to aswell for making a wreck of our relationship.
i dont know im all over the place,i dont know how to start again.when i was in the relationship i was the one who minded our daughter while she went out.
this has left me in a situation where i removed myself from the social scene.
i want to be able to be get back in again,but my conficence is not there to meet new people.
i dont have any ideas how to start again.

RedXIV

Have you got a friend who still heads out on a regualar basis?
You could start with him?

Also, the nightclub/pub scene is not the only place to meet members of the opposite sex, from gyms to night classes, they are EVERYWHERE and the only difference is they are stone cold sober (hopefully)

Edit: DON'T do anything to the x, he's not worth it and there's nothing to gain from it.

Miss Fluff

Heven't been to one myself but I believe the Boards Beers are a great outing so keep your eye out for the next one. Also, meeting new people takes effort so put yourself out there and accept work drink invitations etc.

By the way giving the ex "a seeing to" is REALLY not a good idea, I can understand you're angry but you'll only screw things up for yourself.

TURRICAN

RedXIV wrote: »

Have you got a friend who still heads out on a regualar basis?
You could start with him?

Also, the nightclub/pub scene is not the only place to meet members of the opposite sex, from gyms to night classes, they are EVERYWHERE and the only difference is they are stone cold sober (hopefully)

Edit: DON'T do anything to the x, he's not worth it and there's nothing to gain from it.

most of my mates have left the country,my brother is with his girlfriend most of the time.i have to older people i know a like very much both in their 50's.they both had a very bad life from physical abuse,cancer and loss of a son thru suicide.they stil hang their heads high and are the best peolpe in the world.
other than that one of my friends came back from oz but he lives aboyt 40 miles from me.

RedXIV

TURRICAN wrote: »

most of my mates have left the country,my brother is with his girlfriend most of the time.i have to older people i know a like very much both in their 50's.they both had a very bad life from physical abuse,cancer and loss of a son thru suicide.they stil hang their heads high and are the best peolpe in the world.
other than that one of my friends came back from oz but he lives aboyt 40 miles from me.

Then maybe a boards beers is the option?

If this is not possible for you, try asking your brother to come out with you for ONE night and make it your business to make friends with loads of people. In fact, get him to bring his missus out, women make fantastic wingmen. and she's probably got plenty of friends too.

TURRICAN

RedXIV wrote: »

Then maybe a boards beers is the option?

If this is not possible for you, try asking your brother to come out with you for ONE night and make it your business to make friends with loads of people. In fact, get him to bring his missus out, women make fantastic wingmen. and she's probably got plenty of friends too.

thanks for your ideas il make a start on it.i saw your ideas on one of the other posts and i think you do a great job by ansering peoples replies.if only there were more people like you around.
well done and thanks very much:)

re:boards beers .great idea ,we could have meeting points in all the counties around the country!

RedXIV

TURRICAN wrote: »

thanks for your ideas il make a start on it.i saw your ideas on one of the other posts and i think you do a great job by ansering peoples replies.if only there were more people like you around.
well done and thanks very much:)

Just here to help mate pretty much the same as everyone.

If you're still looking for a drinking buddy in a weeks time, let me know, I think i'm free next weekend

All the best

Red