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Best friend love

  • 07-06-2008 11:35am
    #1
    tomh69
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1 ✭


    Hey im 19 and have been best friends with a girl friend of mine for about a year now. I never was attracted to her until last week when my other friend told me that she had told him that she used 2 really fancie me. Since he told me i have been thinking about her in a completely different way and am wondering does she still feel the same way. The big problem is that she has a boyfriend who have been together for the last 6 months. She is incredibly flirty and we text all the time. Your help needed??! Funny comments also welcome!


Comments

  • #2
    Raoul
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,834 ✭✭✭Raoul


    I have a very similar problem. Except i wouldnt say im best friends with the girl. But really good friends, we always text each other, get the train to and from work together, and email each other at work, meet up for lunch. But she the fella she is goin out with is a good mate of mine and they have been goin out for over a year.

    I dont think there is anything I can do really, I think all i can do is wait and see what happens with them two because they are a really happy couple so I would never want to break them up.


  • #3
    c - 13
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,584 ✭✭✭c - 13


    If she's in a relationship, then do nothing. If you wish have a shot when the relationship fizzles out (if it does).

    You weren't attracted to her until you found out she liked you ? Sounds to me like you just realised you have a chance there and fancy a crack at it to be honest

    In the meantime, live your own life. Dont let this one person obsess you - i've done it before, i'm sure most people have and it was a waste of time.


  • #4
    Wagon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Wagon


    If she was single I'd say give it a bash and have the laugh. But she's got a bloke. The fact that she's flirting with you means that she could be thinking of dumping that guy and is hedging her bets. I've got two pieces of advice.

    1. Get a glove coated with a thick lair of charcoal and slap her across the face telling her to respect the mullet.

    2. Stand back and see what happens. Without a mullet. I think this is your best bet.


  • #5
    RedXIV
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,516 ✭✭✭RedXIV


    DO NOT break up the relationship she is in now. Thats pretty much my entire slate of advice here. If her relationship with the other guy ends, fair enough, give it a whack but don't tell her something that will confuse her about her current relationship.


  • #6
    J-Doll
    Closed Accounts Posts: 28 ✭J-Doll


    Exactly- don't come between her and her boyfriend! These romantic feelings you have for her are sure to pass as you are just seeing her in a different light now that you know she was attracted to you (which she may not even be anymore as your friendship has progressed). The two of you had a friendship for a whole year without you having any problems. If your other friend had never told you your bf used to fancy you, your relationship would be continuning on right now as normal. Don't ruin it.

    Oh and about the flirting - as head wrecking as it is to guys, many girls tend to flirt alot even with people they are just friends with.


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