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I work with my mam and need advice please

  • 07-06-2008 10:42am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I work as a childminder minding baby twins for a family close to home. All is well. I love my job, the kids are great, and the family are lovely.

    My mam works as a housekeeper for the same family. I work fuul time about 13 hours a day and mam works part time a rew hours a few times during the week.

    Whenever i get a chance when the babies are napping i help my mam out with some of her work. The problem is if i don't get a chance for whatever reason say for example if a baby is having an off day or if i'm giving an extra job to do by the parents for when the babies are napping , my mam gets into a proper bad mood. She would shout and curse at me and expect me to dump the babies in the playpen and help her clean. I don't feel comfortable at leaving the babies alone in the room to clean or even to stay in the same room and clean the room. They are at an age where they would need constant care and attention, and stimulation during their waking hours, and plenty of supervision is needed for obvious safety reasons.

    My mam would make my working day (for as long as she is there) very difficult. She would tell me to take the babies out from whatever room we're in so she can clean it. We go else where. She comes into that room and same thing happens over and over again. She would mop floors and not warn me and so many times i have almost slipped (i would move the babies around in a pram). These are only some of the things thats happening.

    My mam is clearing not able to cope with the workload that she has and shes not happy working but shes happy to take her wage at the end of the week. She makes my working day as hard as possible whenever i can't help her.

    I really don't know what to do. If it remains dry outside i take the babies for a walk whenevr shes there, but this isn't always possible. I' not in a place to give uo work. Please help.


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  • #2
    flibbertyjibbet
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    I think you should sit your mam down and explain to her (nicely but firmly) that you are paid to look after the children. If you are constantly helping her a)you're not doing the job you're being paid to do; b)she's getting paid for some of your work and c) if one of the kids gets hurt because you weren't doing the job you're paid for it's your neck on the line. Maybe ask her to put herself in your shoes - how would she feel if you asked her to not put 100% into her job and risk getting into trouble or even sacked because you can't/won't put 100% into yours - how would she feel if you asked her to stop cleaning and look after the kids.
    I think you mentioned that she's finding her work load too difficult. This could have a lot to do with it. Maybe she's ashamed that she can't do it as well as she used to. She doesn't want anyone to know this so she's roping you into help so she can hide it and when you refuse she gets scared/ashamed/defensive and lashes out at you.
    At the end of the day I think your mam needs to talk to her employer about the workload or look for a job that has a smaller workload, I know she may be finding it difficult but its not very fair that you should have to jepordise your employment/reputation.
    Good luck


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