came on too strong

LegacyUser

hi i was seeing this girl for a little bit, couple of dates etc, but i came on way too strong, like constant txting etc and i think i kinda freaked her out. Now shes not talking to me, seen her a couple of times and she said nothing so neither did i. is there anything i can do to get her to realise im not a freak, i just get kinda anxious when it comes to relationships. any help appreciated

biko

You see her occasionally, that's good. That way you can start over by saying "Hi", "How's your day" and so on.
Did the dates go well? Do you have reason to think they did not?
Limit texting to 1-2 a day unless she is asking you stuff.

MIN2511

stop texting... leave her for now and when next you see her guage her attitude and response to basic comments like "how are you" e.t.c. if she's interested she would get chatty and if she isn't she would give brief, direct answers

CathyMoran

It is easy to be over anxious with relationships. If I were you I would just explain to her that you get anxious when it comes to relationships. I know of one very happily married couple who started off like you too - he was all over her like a rash, but they got past it.

LegacyUser

biko wrote: »

You see her occasionally, that's good. That way you can start over by saying "Hi", "How's your day" and so on.
Did the dates go well? Do you have reason to think they did not?
Limit texting to 1-2 a day unless she is asking you stuff.

Yeah the dates went really well, i havent txt her for a couple of weeks now, ive seen her a couple of times but i didnt wanna say anything just in case, maybe i should wait and just give her more time?

biko

Yeah, give it some time and when you see her next just say Hi and a smile and leave it at that.
If the dates went well she likes you but might think you are a bit OTT. Try to play it cool and just be nice.
Sometime in the future you will have the chance to explain yourself and hopefully she'll come around. Best of luck.

MJOR

strongbow67 wrote: »

Yeah the dates went really well, i havent txt her for a couple of weeks now, ive seen her a couple of times but i didnt wanna say anything just in case, maybe i should wait and just give her more time?

sometimes you're damned if you do and you're damed if you don't women are comlpex creatures (i am one btw)

Be cool and ahe'll come running:D:D

Treora

Move on, you can always move back;) Plus women are more likely to want guys that are around girls (friend or girlfriend). It's the whole social competition (you have him thus I want him , even if it is just to prove I am better than you) and communal standards (well if those girls are talking to him then he can't be all that bad after all).

Trinity

strongbow67 wrote: »

Yeah the dates went really well, i havent txt her for a couple of weeks now, ive seen her a couple of times but i didnt wanna say anything just in case, maybe i should wait and just give her more time?

Did you just stop texting or did she say something to you i.e. dont text me again? I need the full story !

geminilady

i would just give her space, any further contact and it might suffocate her altogether. By not initiating contact it might make her miss you.
Or perhaps you should take this as an experience gained and maybe as another poster said move on? Just go out, and don't beat yourself over it. Good luck!

**magnolia**

If she liked you a lot, she would have just slowed things down a bit herself by maybe not replying to all the messages, only some, but if she is not talking to you at all I would say move on and take it easy next time. I dont have the full story though!