Driving me crazy

LegacyUser

Hi there,

I'm 26 years old, male, quite good looking, work in a bar while i'm in college etc. I get quite a lot of attention from the ladies and love them back equally.
My problem is for the last few years i basically havn't been able to have sex with anyone apart from 2 people. My ex girlfriend of 1.5 years and a girl i work with about 6 weeks ago. I just can't get an erection or when i do it goes away very quickly when i get into a situation.
Like i start thinking im not gonna get an erection and i just dont then. Even with coaxing, like oral etc it just doesn't budge. It feels basically just kind of numb!

I feel like crying because it must have happened with about 20 people and i can't make excuses anymore. I've tried Viagra ad that doesn't do anything, also Cialis etc and it's the same result.

I know i've just totally let stage freight get out of hand and now i don't know what to do. It took about a month to eventually have sex with my ex and 2 attempts with the girl i work with. but nothing with anyone else.

I think i need something that can GIVE me an erection whether i'm aroused or not, rather then those other drugs that "Sustain" one once you've got one. because after about 3 years of failing all the time i actually feel like i'm at my whits end. And once i've used somethign like this a few times i know i won't need it. In my first long term relationship i was able to do it all the time no problem

I know your probably going to try to tell me the whole "try to relax etc". I've done that, and 3 years is way to long of being a failure. I can get an erection no problem when i'm alone as a note.

Please help

MIN2511

Have you seen a doctor, it may sound embarassing but maybe it's time to consult one.

LegacyUser

You think it's a medical problem? im fone alone like?

MIN2511

It might be.... Am female but i reckon you should give consult one

jptk

Can you get it up on your own? If you can and can sustain it then its probably a mental thing.
Should go to the doc to get to the bottom of it.

LegacyUser

i went to the doctor before, he took my blood pressure and samples and said i was fine and it was just a mental thing, Yes i can get erect on my own, frequently do like.

He'll tell me the same thing i think, relax, don't feel pressured etc.
Is there actually anything you can take that makes you hard?

Miss Fluff

It's good at least that you have ruled out anything physiological. Have you thought about hypnotherapy? This is obviously an anxiety issue so maybe learning some relaxation techniques could be of benefit to you OP.