Premature ejaculation and low libido.

LegacyUser

My boyfriend aged 21 suffers from both...well, in my opinion. Both issues have been previsiously discussed in uncertain terms quite casually as if it's importance is minimal but i know myself it's potentially letal to the relationship, which i treasure.

Stress could be the cause but the problem is ongoing and particularly through i time when there were no obvious stressors in either of our lives.
I want for nothing else in this relationship, he loves me, i know that.He's attracted to me, this i am told on a daily basis.
Though,
I get fruststrated, upset, feel rejected when he refuses.

bboyblast

nooneistoblame wrote: »

My boyfriend aged 21 suffers from both...well, in my opinion. Both issues have been previsiously discussed in uncertain terms quite casually as if it's importance is minimal but i know myself it's potentially letal to the relationship, which i treasure.

Stress could be the cause but the problem is ongoing and particularly through i time when there were no obvious stressors in either of our lives.
I want for nothing else in this relationship, he loves me, i know that.He's attracted to me, this i am told on a daily basis.
Though,
I get fruststrated, upset, feel rejected when he refuses.

He is probably refusing because he knows that if he doesnt last long enough he will dissapoint you which is making him feel selfconscious and useless.. Im sure he libido is fine he just feels awful when he doesnt last long enough

STUBBORNGIRL

nooneistoblame wrote: »

My boyfriend aged 21 suffers from both...well, in my opinion. Both issues have been previsiously discussed in uncertain terms quite casually as if it's importance is minimal but i know myself it's potentially letal to the relationship, which i treasure.

Stress could be the cause but the problem is ongoing and particularly through i time when there were no obvious stressors in either of our lives.
I want for nothing else in this relationship, he loves me, i know that.He's attracted to me, this i am told on a daily basis.
Though,
I get fruststrated, upset, feel rejected when he refuses.

hey there nooneistobleme! i think the answer is in your pseudoname!

If this is his first girlfriend and he hasnt had sex before then of course he is going to suffer from Premature ejaculation. (i dont know if this is the case i am just pointing this fact out).it is by practice that this can be stopped (or prolonged). He needs to find what works for him first before it works for both of you! i would definitely avoid telling him that you hate it when he comes too soon... this definitely would make him nervous and spoil the act for both of you.

you could try explaining to him that practice makes perfect and that ye will eventually get it right... just try and be understanding and then he will have no excuse to refuse....

I have no doubt ye will be at it like rabbits before long good luck with it! Enjoy

allabouteve

When you feel he's getting close, if its too soon for you, try shifting positions, the change of focus may help, also, try withdrawing him and squeezing gently the head of his penis, this can help slow him down a little. Don't tell him what you're doing though and try not to look too disappointed if he comes too quickly, just say nothing and hopefully practice will help. Good luck.

Mr. Presentable

Depends on what's premature in your opinion.

Low libido can be helped by cutting out alcohol, tobacco, and by getting some excercise. If not these, then possibly stress, blood pressure or even diet.

Irishcrx

So many posts about this it's a very common thing, I used to suffer from it i'm not asshamed of it. It used to bother my gf a little but not much don't know why it happened really, try'd all thing's to help it but it never did when I was coming that was it weather I sqeezed changed position whatever , but it got better when I wasn't so stressed out about it and other thing's. I think if you over think it and worry it makes it worst and you can't focis on enjoying the sex itself, work with him on it , ask what's bothering him and it will get better.

kevmy

What do you describe as low libido?

Once a day?
Once a week?
Once a month?

Just wondering. If he has a very low libido there may be a dietary or a psychological reason for it which may also feed into the other problem.

LegacyUser

Once a week.
Maybe there are no "normal" frequency but once a day would be the dream.

I don't know, perhaps i expect too much/too often.


Cheers folks.

Mark wayne

could be 2 things 1)you could be ugly:eek: or 2)could be doin the dirt:(

Panthro

Mark wayne wrote: »

could be 2 things 1)you could be ugly:eek: or 2)could be doin the dirt:(

are you really going to pull the piss about doing the dirt??!!:p

see link:

http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055307232

ahh, im only pulling ur lad, dont get offended!

MagicMarker

nooneistoblame wrote: »

Once a week.
Maybe there are no "normal" frequency but once a day would be the dream.

I don't know, perhaps i expect too much/too often.


Cheers folks.

tbh, i don't see having sex once a week as having a low libido, once a month maybe! I think that would be quite common in lots of couples, certainly not uncommon.

Once a day is quite a lot in retrospect, and i would imagine very few would keep this up consistently.

This all depends on your circumstances, do you live together? Does he work long hours?