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Losing friends fast

  • 31-05-2008 6:52pm
    #1
    Arty Darcie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 19 ✭


    I recently fell out with a close friend of mine as she started to associate with a group of "neo nazi's".Since then she has started a personal vendetta against me and I have lost all my friends bar two or 3 who don't know her.I'm dreading returning to school.I have been getting death threats off a crowd of neo nazi lads telling me they are going to curb stomp me etc...
    What should I do about this girl...:confused:


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  • #2
    Arty Darcie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 19 ✭Arty Darcie


    My bf's best friend hates me because i was over friendly.I desperately wanted him to like me so I came on a little strong.We had only met twice and i kept asking did he want to go for drinks etc.Now he thinks i'm a bit of a twat and I understand why.I cant rectify his opinion of me as my bf tries to keep us apart and I haven't seen him in months.I know we would get on really well and I want to build a friendship with him.
    How can I do this without coming across like a stalker?


  • #3
    Arty Darcie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 19 ✭Arty Darcie


    Seems these days i only spend time wth my bf. he works on weekend nights and brings me with him sometimes but apart from that i spend most of my nights alone crying and wondering what is wrong with me, why do people hate me so much.i need to make some friends and go out.
    I invite people who i thnk are my friends out to gigs and they say ah yeah and don't turn up or just dont text me back.I can't remember last time I was happy. I just want to meet some nice mature people to go out with on Saturday nights. I know I don't usually get on with girls but thats because I've been hurt by so many female friends before.
    HELP :(


  • #4
    Gordon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35,524 ✭✭✭✭Gordon


    I've merged these threads together for you as they all concern you.


  • #5
    philologos
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,479 ✭✭✭✭philologos


    Arty Darcie wrote: »
    I recently fell out with a close friend of mine as she started to associate with a group of "neo nazi's".Since then she has started a personal vendetta against me and I have lost all my friends bar two or 3 who don't know her.I'm dreading returning to school.I have been getting death threats off a crowd of neo nazi lads telling me they are going to curb stomp me etc...
    What should I do about this girl...:confused:

    Well if I were you, you should go to the police on that. It's rather serious.


  • #6
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Hmmm... I'd give advice, but... your profile says you're 22 and you say you're still in school, so all in all... FAIL


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  • #7
    AARRRGH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    I know I've spoken about this in the past, but I am seriously seriously setting up my "pints.ie" website over the next few days. Basically it's going to be a kind of social club where a group of strangers can meet up for pints in Dublin (or whereever) a few nights a week. It's for people who want to make new friends, or who just want to have a bit of a laugh.

    I think it would help sort out your situation.

    I will PM you when it's up and running.


  • #8
    Arty Darcie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 19 ✭Arty Darcie


    Not it doesn't it says i'm 18 well it should and as far as i know it does.


  • #9
    Arty Darcie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 19 ✭Arty Darcie


    Sounds great just the kind of thing i need.I just went 18 in feb and ive only been out twice its ridiculous


  • #10
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Well, first off.. go to the police about these ''neo-nazis''... Why you haven't done so already is beyond me tbh.

    Secondly, why are you soo keen to 'build a friendship' with your boyfriends best friend? Honestly, this is stupid, especially seeing as you never see him anyway.


  • #11
    Wagon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Wagon


    Firstly go to the police. Why the **** you haven't gone is absolutely beyond me! Tell them off the death threats and give names.

    You don't need to build a friendship with your boyfriends best mate. But I'm guessing you just want to know more people. I can't blame you. Your current "mates" are assholes. Try getting a job and stuff over the summer and then maybe join a club or something? It's a good way to meet new people. Also I find that being relaxed and not giving a crap about people's opinions is a much better way to make friends. If you meet a new person and try really really hard for them to like you (which is understandable) they'll wonder what your at and why you are so forward and friendly and put them off (Sounds pretty stupid but so are people). Whereas you just start chatting away happily not worrying about what they may think of you the conversation goes much more natural. Try it out, it'll take a while to get the hang of.

    And where do you go on evenings anyway? Do you go to clubs? Or gigs? I find that people at gigs and pubs are a lot friendlier then the tossers you can get in clubs. Judging from your posts, you seem nice to me and you just want to be liked, but I think your trying too hard. And always remember, you can't please everyone. If you deal with these few bad experiences well, you'll bounce back and be a lot happier for it!

    Go to the guards though about those death threats. You certainly don't deserve that.


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  • #12
    Borneo Fnctn
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,378 ✭✭✭Borneo Fnctn


    Arty Darcie wrote: »
    I have been getting death threats off a crowd of neo nazi lads telling me they are going to curb stomp me etc...
    What should I do about this girl...:confused:

    I've spoken to neo nazis in town before. I basically said "why are you dressed up like that and why do you think you're better than people?" They were about your age. Anyway, even though I was outnumbered, all I got was some weak justification for their way of life. They didn't "curb stomp" me. These are only children and have probably never witnessed a "curb stomp". They just go around in groups with short hair, boots, bomber jackets and suspenders. A true bunch of little gay boys if ever I saw one. I strongly suspect that they are all talk. This will blow over sooner than you think. I hope it does anyway.


  • #13
    chuci
    Closed Accounts Posts: 938 ✭✭✭chuci


    tell the guards about what id going on with the neo natzi or keep a journal of the threats so that you will have evidence of the threats.

    why are you trying so hard to be friends with you boyfriends best bud if he keeps you apart thats a bit strange. just chill out about meeting people over the summer join yoga or something and meet new people get a job or do volunteer work. and just try not to come on too strong. if you really want to see someone at a gig than why not go alone least you will be there enjoying the music and you might even meet a few new people. keep the chin up and try not to come on so strong to new people.


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